heartbreak hotel

ok my lovely fishies, how do you deal when it all blows up in your face? i used to underestimate break-ups, until this year

not being funny, but i thought i was going to die x__x

and i have a new appreciation for heartbreak. what do you do to make it better? what songs help, how long does it take to ease up. check in, get comfortable...you can wallow as much as you'd like to here




p.s all signs are welcome, i just liked saying 'lovely fishies' lol

every lyric in this song wrapped it up when me and sag broke up. if he doesn't behave, i will dedicate it to him at his birthday party if he's having one this year

I get angry, clean burn. Boost it with tunes like this:

Feel sorry for myself is top of the list. Find distractions, I'll take anything honestly.
Try not to think about the future (because he's not gonna be in it, and that's just depressing).

Oh yeh..and stuff like this..just good and pissed off music!

Posted by nimbue
ok my lovely fishies, how do you deal when it all blows up in your face? i used to underestimate break-ups, until this year

not being funny, but i thought i was going to die x__x

and i have a new appreciation for heartbreak. what do you do to make it better? what songs help, how long does it take to ease up. check in, get comfortable...you can wallow as much as you'd like to here




p.s all signs are welcome, i just liked saying 'lovely fishies' lol

^^ nice.

deep, deep darkness. can't sleep. can't eat. everything hurts. anger. fear that it will never feel better. isolation. music. tears. more music. the last breakup i discovered the blues and understood...

Posted by venusianbull
I get angry, clean burn. Boost it with tunes like this:

yes, cleaning is the go-to, isn't it? my mums house never looked better this summer, though i did feel like a house elf

Posted by LadyScorpP


Interesting point you have brought up here. There are many ways we get over the past, either we fall into our addictions which we can easily succumb to such as sex, drugs, alcohol etc. It is a way for us to numb our intense emotions which we have driving through us, accumulating and building up into a ball of pain/resentment/jealousy/hate (depending on the person). Another method is obsessive behavior of what has past which may turn into an extreme form of sentiment, forever going back and rewinding through all the events that has occurred. If it has impacted us so much, we rather died than drown from the emotions we feel, we either cut it off, run away, or for the unfortunate few they will take their lives. For others, it may be a matter of time as those emotions felt dim, subsiding into the depths of our memory, this period can last from months to years or even decades. We might even invent lies and stories for ourselves inside our own heads in an attempt to escape from the harsh reality.

(Excuse my continual use of we, I am generalizing again but the above is only my point of view)

no, i agree. running from the emotions is easier than holding them up to the light and examining them...addictions only serve as distractions. i find that addicts don't enjoy their vices; moreso the pleasure aspect becomes a simple avoidance of pain.

also, its interesting to note what memories the heart chooses to hold onto. how some people stake a claim to your emotions in a significant way, others not so much. time heals, but not in all cases. memories are like a passport to the past...guess its a matter of waiting for that passport to expire.

Posted by nimbue
ok my lovely fishies, how do you deal when it all blows up in your face? i used to underestimate break-ups, until this year

not being funny, but i thought i was going to die x__x

and i have a new appreciation for heartbreak. what do you do to make it better? what songs help, how long does it take to ease up. check in, get comfortable...you can wallow as much as you'd like to here




p.s all signs are welcome, i just liked saying 'lovely fishies' lol

Oh I feel you there. I was a mess earlier this year after the Scorp left me to get back with his ex. Didn't help that I kept hearing that bloody Adele song "Someone Like You" everywhere I went lol.

How did I get over it? My girl friends. They let me wallow and then made it their mission to take my mind off him. We went out tons, had fun and they made me laugh so hard. While I still had my moments of feeling low and sorry for myself after a while it got easier and I found myself thinking about it (and him) less.

Distraction is indeed the key. Find anything that makes you happy/smile/laugh and even if you don't feel like it get yourself involved because the more you focus on other things the less you focus on the pain and hurt.

I also avoided anything that made me thing of him, songs etc. Avoided em like the plague lol.

I'm not saying ignore how you feel and sweep it under the carpet. By all means let it all out and FEEL how you need to feel. Once you've done that though, it's onwards and upwards. The longer you mope and wallow I think the harder it is.

Posted by JanahC
I usually do some work and keep myself busy by going out and stuff.. then at the end of the day i let myself cry and I just deal with my pain by myself. It gets better with time.

yeah, it really is such a day by day thing...can't rush the process. it's like a balance between not wallowing for too long...and not rushing to move on, the latter seems to backfire :/

Posted by MissPirate
I'm not saying ignore how you feel and sweep it under the carpet. By all means let it all out and FEEL how you need to feel. Once you've done that though, it's onwards and upwards. The longer you mope and wallow I think the harder it is.

+1

Posted by winterwrought

no, i agree. running from the emotions is easier than holding them up to the light and examining them...addictions only serve as distractions. i find that addicts don't enjoy their vices; moreso the pleasure aspect becomes a simple avoidance of pain.

also, its interesting to note what memories the heart chooses to hold onto. how some people stake a claim to your emotions in a significant way, others not so much. time heals, but not in all cases. memories are like a passport to the past...guess its a matter of waiting for that passport to expire.

Well said.

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Stumbled across this the other day...

"yes, cleaning is the go-to, isn't it? my mums house never looked better this summer, though i did feel like a house elf "

Yes, after a sad I welcome it. That is the time to be justifiably angry. Let it all out. Write down everything you feel, and I do mean everything..burn it and release it.

Ha, well now, that's something new. ^^

*checks in*

well, isn't this lovely. i just broke up with my sag, yet i feel like shit. hmm.

Posted by nimbue
*checks in*

well, isn't this lovely. i just broke up with my sag, yet i feel like shit. hmm.

😢

Silly question but are you ok?

lol, it's not a silly question. just hope i didn't hurt him 😢

it's too much for me, i didn't need all those feelings...guess it's better for the long run

Posted by nimbue
*checks in*

well, isn't this lovely. i just broke up with my sag, yet i feel like shit. hmm.

😢

It would be nice to just send hearts somewhere to get a break.

lol, i love that picture —

just said to my friend, i want a heart transplant please. damn pisces moon got me tonight i think. been so wishy washy, up and down all day...and i chickened out. it was gonna happen eventually.

i reckon he's my soulmate...doesn't mean we're gonna be together. i just don't know.

can't sleep. in a bed like this one it might be possible:

Posted by nimbue
i reckon he's my soulmate...doesn't mean we're gonna be together. i just don't know.

Really!! sorry to hear nim😢 must feel terrible to know that and have to let go😢

😄 I'm about to keel over, so night and take care love!!! *hugs*

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Posted by nimbue
*checks in*

well, isn't this lovely. i just broke up with my sag, yet i feel like shit. hmm.

Awww sorry to hear that 😢

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thankyou app 🙂 i think it was the right thing to do

Posted by iceredrobot


😄 I'm about to keel over, so night and take care love!!! *hugs*

*hugs* g'night my lovely

that place is out of this world beautiful

night night princess 🙂