help with my confusing pisces man

hello! i'm a 26 year old virgo smitten with a 38 year old pisces man. he's perfect and frustrating and wonderful all at the same time.

we've known each other for a little over 2 years now. we met in school. we've been hanging out pretty regularly right at 9 months now. we're not together, but i want to be. we see each other atleast once or twice a week and text fairly often also.

we get along wonderfully. his humor is twisted and we crack jokes at every opportunity and laugh at everything. he is someone i can talk about anything in the whole world to with no judgement. i want so badly to make a move but i'm terrified.

sometimes he acts like we're already together, sometimes like he's interested, sometimes as though we're just friends... and like a sweet pisces sometimes he disappears. i try to not push him. i'm patient with him and don't get irritated with him. i care for him just as he is. i've learned a lot about myself just being with him and its all for the better. but when it comes to this situation, i'm a "suffer in silence" type with him.

i want him to know how i feel about him but i'm terrified of losing him altogether if by chance he doesn't feel the same. did i mention he's the most confusing human i've ever met??

any male pisces out there with some insight? i would appreciate it tremendously.

How about a Virgo Moon female with Pisces Rising, and 2 Pisces parents? Mom even has Pisces Moon to boot. 😉 Dad and I are very close. The rest of their placements (Moon and both Risings) are Cancer, so more water.


Pisces tend to be pretty danged intuitive. He can probably already sense how you feel, if he's open to you. In which case mentioning to him how you feel would just tell him his gut was spot-on, and he'll like that, and be able to react with whatever feelings he has for you, and has probably already imagined saying to you. It's doubtful he'll have analyzed as far as you probably have (I say probably. I don't know his Moon), but he'll have thought about it enough to know if he wants or doesn't want you as more than a friend. You initiating in a calm and not on-the-spot way will allow him to answer. It's doubtful he'll spook as long as you're calm and casual.

If he's not been open to you and you mentioning how you feel comes as a shock to him, it would've been hard to move any closer to him, anyway. Still, mentioning lightly and shocking him this way won't be bad. Make it not forceful or on the spot. If he hasn't been open as yet, knowing you're interested in more than friendship will allow him to think about you in a new light and possibly give the idea a shot. He might even say he'd rather be friends, then think about it, 'read' you a little more, and change his mind later.

Mention it and then keep on being you. He at least likes being around you, so whatever vibes he's getting off you have been good so far.

Posted by sharkareteethmachines

. . . usually when people cross over social norms, they do it because they have issues.

And the issue they have is that other people will snicker about their goings on.

Nothing wrong with going against the norm.

Thank you all! Relationships are not something that we talk about, typically. We??re both kind of stand-off-ish of that topic. But, he has shared many things with me about his personal life and his past and such.

Draumstafir: Wow! You have plenty of Pisces experience! I agree. He is very intuitive — about a great many things.

Sharksareteethmachines: Thank you so much for the reply! And thanks for looking out on the age thing. In this case, though, it's me that is the odd ball out. Most all of my friends are older than me. I'm usually always the youngest in the group.

When we??re together, we always have an amazing time. There is nothing that we can't do or say, nowhere that we can't go together. I stress about this a lot. I want to do everything right and make him happy. I just don't quite know how to get there.

You both said to approach the situation and tell him honestly and to not put him on the spot. That sounds perfect. Any suggestions on scenarios?

This man is borderline perfect. I wouldn't change one single irritating little thing about him — because, in the big picture, ALL of it makes me smile.

djbuck1: amen brother! i belly laughed when i read that. 🙂 nail.on.head. thank you!

Posted by ksvirgo

Sharksareteethmachines: Thank you so much for the reply! And thanks for looking out on the age thing. In this case, though, it's me that is the odd ball out. Most all of my friends are older than me. I'm usually always the youngest in the group.

When we??re together, we always have an amazing time. There is nothing that we can't do or say, nowhere that we can't go together. I stress about this a lot. I want to do everything right and make him happy. I just don't quite know how to get there.

This man is borderline perfect. I wouldn't change one single irritating little thing about him — because, in the big picture, ALL of it makes me smile.

Posted by djbuck1
I really do mean this in a nice way. Leave it to a Virgo woman to stress out about a great situation! 🙂 Relax! It doesn't sound like this guy is going anywhere soon.

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Mmmm yeah... so highly analytical, Virgo's peers do tend to shy away, but the elders welcome us with open arms. He's somewhere in between, and so are your friends. Nice, huh? You love his mind. Therefore it won't matter that you'll probably outlast him physically for... roughly... a decade. And by roughly, I'm adding the bit where some people age faster than others. Ya just never ever really know. 😉

🙂 lol. true. SO true. i do love his mind.

Posted by ksvirgo

You both said to approach the situation and tell him honestly and to not put him on the spot. That sounds perfect. Any suggestions on scenarios?

You go places together. Do you ever call them dates? "So, John... wanna go on a date with me?" If you've never dropped the L-word, a hint I started using with my lovely Capricorn Moon (melts): "I love being with you." "I love doing this-and-that with you." Of course he knew exactly where that was going and avoided it as long as he could (he's the one afraid), but he's analytical; NOT intuitive in the least. I actually wasn't being sneaky or testing him. I could feel it from him and wanted to ease him into the idea of it being okay, without scaring him. Not a drop of Water in his trio. Me? Sun and Rising.

Your Pisces? Another story. The same hint could be good for you in a different way. YOU can test his reactions and analyze them without going further, yet. He can latch on or back away without feeling weird or confronted. It's a tad sneaky but not mean in the slightest. You're the one wondering. Put your worries to rest.

Speaking of that difference: beware of intuitive fragility. It's a stronger difference in Moons, so matters little if you match there, but if you're different there as well you should know... over-analyzing something can be cute to intuitive folks. But if you brush up against a touchy subject and try to get too technical on it (too unfeeling), it can hurt him, and it can seem very out of the blue that all of a sudden you've hurt him somehow. I myself tend to alternate between over-feeling and over-detachment. Hard to pin down what causes either for me, but I know for a fact going head-on with someone in the opposite of either mode spells trouble for whichever of us is more 'feeling' at the moment.

You care about him, so know this, but also don't fret about it. Just keep it in the back of your mind. Remedies are more available when you know causes.

no, we have never called them dates. and i've never dropped the "l" word. but those are great ideas! i think i will try. i like the subtlety. another friend of ours (who is very close to us both - he's our capricorn) encourages me all time to get on with it and make a move saying my pisces is too shy.

i'm sun in virgo, pisces rising, and moon in scorpio.

i try to not be a worry wart, and most of the time i do pretty good. i've worked on it alot. but this week, it wins.