Love question

I personally love only my relatives. As for a waman in my life, I could love her only then when she give first birth of a child to me. Before that, I hardly beleive something could happen. The reason that will hold me and her together could be physical and mental attraction. Not love.

What are your preferences?

Questions such as these make me personally want to vomit.

NOw we seeing da true colours of haffo ,STD wipe dat vomit of da floor,lol.

my preferances

love
respect
Friendship
Mental connection
Trust on both sides
Fairness-50/50 effort put in on both sides
how well we work out problems



Why are you asking,go out and get some already.Go on,you have a penis all you need to do is get some condoms and look for a chick maybe give her alot of alcohol or no you drink the alcohol and she can take advantage of you,yeah.They say them there girls have these orange type shaped things underneath thier shirts,those are boobs-I hear they're fun to play with for a guy,try it.🙂

ha ha ha tell him tiamat,lol.BOOBIES ARE FUNNNN,lol.

You are talking about FUN Tiamat.

Just look cuple topics below for "Why do pepople are such stupid?". How can I have fun when people surrounding me are much like her? I just want to vomit on them as STD pleasantly did.

Eh,gotta try I guess.lol

Speaking of which,i've been thinking and you were raised in russia and not turkey right?

You've posted that you only get along with about 5% turkish people correct?But you like most russians and europians and apparently americans to an extent until we get into topics about you think we're too nonchalant with morals and traditions to except gays,sluts,trannys and probably alot of other things too.

What's the differances between the people and thier basic morals,social ideas,pricipals,etc.?Ya know are the likable people more freer with things in russia,Depends on what part of europe you like to give me any ideas regarding these questions as to what you may and may not like in people in europe.Ya know just so we know whether or not your really judgemental or just retaliating things a little vicously and coming off as judgemental.Questions coming up to me that could probably,maybe a good reason for.It could be causing you to miss out on alot if the culture differance is that big so just sitting back and analysing these things is all you know how to do cause you aren't given a chance because you're looked down on or something there more than what you were raised to be like.Curiousity—?

Tiamat

Cultural difference is yes. I do have alot of cultural difference. And I haven't come up with a reason to change them. Turkish people are untalkative. They are not as expressive as I used to have in Russia. Therefore I cannot solve them. Asking them questions is useless too. They flee when I do that. The result is what you see now. I just really get pissed of big time with them.

Is it traditional for turkish people to be anal whereas russians are free thinkers and doers compared to them basically.

Speaking about what I dislike about European people.

That's very difficult to answer, because I have little problems with them to notice. In general im quite comphortable with them.

Oh oops posted nearly the same time sorry.

"Is it traditional for turkish people to be anal whereas russians are free thinkers and doers compared to them basically."

Yes.

I guess I'm just stuck here and trying to catch up with what I miss whole this time in these boards.

Okay now that that was finally thought of,sorry for all the judgemental crap.

I live by a code...and this is how i love!

PLUR

Peace
Love
Understanding i.e. tolerance of other's ideas
Respect of Self and of others

Basically I love wholeheartedly...or at least i try to...i might get hurt i might not but i am not willing to risk not knowing so it's a chance i willingly take.

I cannot stand ppl who blame the person who broke up...you riuned my life...you broke my heart...PAH-Leeez...YOU decided to take the gamble...and ure a responsible human being capable of making ure own decisions so it's NOT their fault!

"Okay now that that was finally thought of,sorry for all the judgemental crap."

What did you understood from all these? Tell me.

That your just moody and stuff due to it and we're confused by what you mean by certain things.

Elaborate?

I'll be online again this after noon I gotta shower,get ready for bed and stuff-gotta keep on routine for work even on days off which would be tommorrow or im really bad at it and i'll give a more descipt explaination then.Laters.

Where the hell you are going? I want that answer NOW! 🙂 just kidding.

You may not be as judgemental as we all thought and you just get frustrated alot.

WOW!Haffo...
and I thought PISCES men and women were supposed to be incurable romantics...anyway what do those astrologers know anyway...you do whatever you like haffo.

I say Down with the notion of love!
It's all due to bio chemistry anyway...once the hormones go down, love evaporates into thin air...

Which book says you have to love your spouse first before they become the mother of your child?

oh well, I guess a lot of them...anyway what do they know?

You do what you think it right and don't let anybody else convince you otherwise.

Good luck, man!

After all what people say here...I see there is no other way to act by normal way. Love is not guarantee of anything. It could disappear one day and all gone. But when kids around, it's very hard to "disappear". It's the ultimate bond that keeps two people together. Nothing else is as powerful as this one, therefore basing the family life on that is very tactful in my thought.

Haffo,
"It's the ultimate bond that keeps two people together." Are you talking about the U.S.— Not true. It is not the ulitmate bond that keeps people together and nor should it be. People need to be together who DESIRE to be together regardless of children. It is awesome if two people are together who make that choice and do have children. This is a wonderful opportunity for the children to see REAL love in action rather than seeing two people live/exist together for the so called "kids sake".

When parents stay together for the "kids sake" they are living a lie - they are teaching their children that it is okay to exist in a relationship, that their happiness is not important not to mention the children are observing their parents behaviour towards one another and will subconsciously play that same role out themselves in their relationships.

I don't know about anyone else here but I knew that my parents did not truly love each other...and I told myself that I would never have a marriage like that. Whoops...never say never!

Haffo, I hope that you have better luck my friend...

When kids born, the love will disappear. Respect will left. This is what is needed. Love is deceptive.

It's important that respect left. It is bad if it turns into hate which is not usual.

Kids are ultimately bond to parents. Maybe there are could be problem between parents. Pranets may leave each other, but those parents rarely leave kids. Everything is deceptive besides the bond to the kids.

It's not unusual to see how people change after kids. They turn into real selves. At that point it's either neutral or hate.

Again Haffo...some parents do LEAVE their children. As I have said so many times before..."Circumstances do NOT make a man, they REVEAL him."

Glad to be single and free! 😉

I never thought i would agree with an std.

My aunt left two marriages with a set of children to each. Now she is married to a man she loves deeply and has been so for the last twenty years. Responsibility does not always win over love. The thing to do is live life the best way you know how.

Never say Never - Mr.! It will get cha doin' thangs ya thought you'd Never do! 😉

This is not fair. Especially for kids.

No one actually ask you to bring them to life. You have problems. You leave. Who will for consequencies? Kids...What is they guilt for? Nothing. This is unfair. People have to pay for their own consequencies. This way just makes people run from their responsibilities.

Who will pay for consequencies?

Caridad

I understood your point. But I don't think everyone is lucky as your aunt. People may have many marriages and still not find the BEST choise.

"The thing to do is live life the best way you know how."

When people have kids, they are not anymore just living for "themselves". Once they stepped that barrier, the responsibility kicks in. What you say is actually an extent of situation where people stil think that they are free.

Whatever

I just made some search on the internet and found how stupid was what I said in start. So lets just forget that and don't waste time on it.

Hey Haffo I didn't know you were raised in Russia? So how long have you been living in Turkey?

For the record, I think turkish people are very talkative, and they're very involved (sometimes too much). They interrogate and follow everything you do, I actually feel restricted. And they can be judgemental (because they're traditional and followers/sheep of the flock--I know that was harsh) too. It's a collectivist society and it's hard to find an opinionated person and when you do, it's 98% impossible to find RESPECT coming along with that.

My two cents. Glad I live here sometimes.

Haffo, you are right - it isn't fair for the children but really it does depend how you choose to percieve it. For my kids, it was better that their dad did not stay involved as they would have picked up his habits. I personally have spoken to my boys regarding this issue of their dad and they do forgive him - he really was doing the best that he knew how otherwise, he would have done better. I have asked my boys to think about what they have learned through all of this and to focus on the good. Their answer? They learned how to NOT treat another person, they know that they will be a much better dad, they know there is no need to hurry and get married, they have learned what love is and what it is not. So, this was all good and perhaps it needed to happen so they would have the opportunity to learn these lessons by actually FEELING them.

Haffo, you are learning - we all are - it is all good. 🙂

"Hey Haffo I didn't know you were raised in Russia? So how long have you been living in Turkey?"

0-8 years - Azerbaijain
8-14 years Ukraine
14-24 years Turkey

I would never recommend what my aunt did. Her children did suffer for it. To this day only one of her children will have anything to do with her.

Doesn't it seem like love is entirely to complicated?

Few people get to know what love is.

" Doesn't it seem like love is entirely to complicated?"

Love is tricky. It starts and ends in our heads. However kids are real. They are not in our heads. Some people want to change reality into what on their head. I find this unfair for real people near them.

I wish I could be sure...how do you know what you feel is love?

"how do you know what you feel is love?"

If your IQ is above 120, you can't.

LOL,Haffo,good answer...a bit cynical but worth thinking about.
I really want to know though...

Hey Jada, thanks for explaining. Sounds pretty complicated and painful..but at the same time very exhilarating and intriguing. 🙂

So are you in love with another water sign or maybe a virgo?

Eer,my IQ is above 120-yes I know big shocker there being as im probably the biggest airheads here,just what exactly do you mean by that haffo?You can't be in love if your iq is above that or just you wouldn't know if it's love if it's that high?

Tiamat,you...an airhead? you have got to be kidding me!

Anyway,I think Haffo was just trying to be cynical...I think everyone
wants to feel loved...find the one..but one tends to get frustrated
with all the waiting involved...Some people handle this by wearing the
mask of a cynic...I think that's what Haffo is doing...but you know what
"the lad doth protest too much,me thinks."...