mid life crisis at 31?

I can't shake this meloncholy feeling. It's been growing for about a year.
Where did you/ do you see yourself at 30? All the images I conjured of my house, small dinner parties on the back porch, fulfilling career, etc.
They aren't my reality.
I hate my job. Not the work.. the management/ the cliques.
My house.. older.. crayon on the walls..
Messes all the time. something is always breaking.
I feel like cinderella.
I don't look forward to tomorrow because it will just be more of today.
I want to take control of this. I feel like I'm wasting time.. muddling through.
Just getting by.. but not enjoying it.. not LIVING.
This negativity creeping in all the time is getting old really fast.
I want to change it all. Move. Start over. -
Good idea? Shake it up a bit - feel refreshed? Embrace adventure?
Or bad idea - you can't run from your problems.. they'll just follow you?
Thoughts?

Quit crying. Your life and destiny are what you make of them. I have been handed plenty of lemons over the years, and always manage to find a fresh glass, sugar, ice, water and some rum.

Posted by pisceanpisces
Block negative people who make you feel bad. Fully. Find those ones who are positive and lifts you up. That could be a good start. Clear your mind. (do yoga or walk or drink tea or smth) think through what you want to do. Make a list. Follow them.

Don't try to realize all of them at a time. One new habit can be your own in about 3 months at a time. (I mean you cannot loose wait and learn another language at the same time). it is just too much of a change and you will stop one or both of them after few weeks.

If you decide to renew your flat, do that step by step.

AND LEARN TO BE HAPPY ABOUT LITTLE SUCCESS. (because that energizes you to go further)

I love this-- it's practical.

As for the negative influences, I have to apply that not only to people, but whatever it is that I immerse myself in.

Am I listening to things that only reinforce the tragedy of the human condition (music, movies, the stupid evening news, etc).

That has an effect-- garbage in, garbage out.


Do one thing at a time-- absolutely.

I've seen people that want to overhaul everything at once, and they try-- only to be overwhelmed, and then discouraged.

You have to be kind to yourself in the process. 🙂

And something that worked for me in the past, and that I should probably pick up again, is just exercise-- even if it's just a mile on the treadmill in the evenings-- not to lose weight, but it puts me (and keeps me) in better frame of mind.

The scenery doesn't change; YOU change.

Posted by PiscesLoves

I want to change it all. Move. Start over. -
Good idea? Shake it up a bit - feel refreshed? Embrace adventure?
Or bad idea - you can't run from your problems.. they'll just follow you?
Thoughts?

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One thing I've learned is that 'wherever you go, there you are'--

You go from having problems in a familiar setting, to having the same problems in an area that is completely foreign to you.

If you have something certain in a new area, like a better job, then it can be good-- but moving just for the sake of moving can end up being a hardship.

So yeah, like Pisceanpisces said-- start small; it'll be good. 😉

I feel midlife crisis happens to everyone, it just depends on what age it is going to happen. But don't worry, all mid life crisis either go away over time of they resolves themselves (by themselves I mean people). All you have to do is make better of the situation you're in and do something to change it dramatically. But you'll come out of it well.

Yes p.love I have felt this lately. I hate it. But I keep reminding myself that it won't last always. I started back to school working out and dressing up. I want a better job, a good commited man and to embrace the tru me without worrying about what I lack. Slow an steady wins the race. Go volunteer. Put some of that creative energy to use. Peace!

I started feeling this same way in 2012... I am 30 years old now. I did go and overhaul my life. I divorced my husband, changed my job, and started going out and partying. Honestly I would NOT recommend this process... it literally made me sick.

Luckily it was short lived.. I stopped myself and realized I needed to reinvent my ideas/life again. I am now getting more in touch with my spiritual side. Started volunteering, meditating, studying astrology, & surrounding myself with positive like minded people. I have found this has balanced me.

I honestly think Neptune our ruling planet coming in 2012 is what is influencing these feelings.

For me all changed when I met the love of my life.

I have no earth but I was pulled down.

Maybe because my gemini ascendant, for me doesnt seem diffrent with age, but I am a man also, can be diffrent.

Women tend more to not be satisfied because they are usually more emotional, they want to sense alot of good emotional things arround them.