Pisces and Taurus Affair

I am not at all proud of what has happened but I had an affair with a Pisces woman over the last year. She has been with her Aries husband for 7 years and married for 5. They have two small girls. Before anyone chastises me for the affair, please don't. I never saw this coming and if I knew I would be experiencing what I am now I would never have fallen.

We started off as amazing friends. My Pisces love is always full of laughter and living in the moment. After about 18 months of getting to know each other, she confessed that she has feelings for me. This is after hearing her complain for almost 2 years that her husband was absent, cruel, not supportive and an absent father. He gave her herpes and even started a rumor at work about her and another coworker. I realized that I was falling in love with her too and things progressed from there. I separated from my spouse but she did not. As an aside I did not ever (and have not ever) asked her to choose between her husband and me. She told me just a few months ago that I am her soulmate.

One year ago, my Pisces love moved away to the east coast for a job. She did so on her own and raised the girls for a few months alone before her husband moved out there. I just knew in my heart that she was going to give him another chance and she has been... She told me that he is making big efforts and she doesn't want to live in the past. She told me that she is in love with him again and connecting on an emotional level. I was crushed.

She told me in the same conversation (just yesterday) that she is still in love with me and she won't let me run away. We both agree that we have a crazy musical and spiritual connection unlike anything either one of us have experienced. We met a few months ago to hang out with another friend and one thing led to another later that night. I didn't see it coming but I can't explain my attraction to her- it's like a force. She told me she feels the same.

I really need your help. Any perspective from a Pisces. Please don't beat me up- as I said, I never saw this coming and I do feel horrible. I feel that she is my soulmate and I am so confused as she told me I was hers too. She told me that if her husband goes back to his old ways, she will leave- but she has been telling me that for nearly two years now. I understand the harshness of a broken home as I grew up in one as well. I am so heartbroken. I love her girls and would love to raise a family with her

Physical connection, not musical. Although we do like music too! 🙂

I'm sorry that you're in this predicament, but let me tell you, for the sake of their two girls, stay away from pisces.idk what she's doing, but if she's been telling you the same thing for 2 years, she's not going to do it ever. She even sounds like she's manipulating you so that when her and her husband are on an "off" point, you can color in the empty space. Get away from that dumb girl. I hate when anyone if any sign manipulates people and it's even more embarrassing when someone from my sect does it. Don't hurt yourself and find another partner. She can say all she wants about soulmates but anyone can say anything to keep someone on a string.

Hi Feistypisces,

That's what I feared, that I was propping her up in her marriage and filling gaps where her husband wasn't. I love her in a way that I have never loved another woman. She reuses to let me go and I suppose that was giving me hope that it was because she did want to be together with me, but was afraid to leave her marriage.

She also grew up in a broken home and doesn't want her girls to grow up without their dad. I am not so selfish that I can't understand that.

Her husband is an Aries... I've heard they typically don't match up.

I feel absolutely crushed. I am so afraid of letting her go.

Wow...what a dilemma.
Definitely not judging, but Karma got you, and is now allowing you to see the err of your ways, so count it as a loss and move on. She has her cake and ice cream and eating it too. If she really loved you, she had the opportunity to prove it by leaving the husband who mistreated her and gave her an STD. As far as her kids, that's an excuse in my opinion because you actually do more damage to your kids by being in a unhappy marriage. Kids can detect more than you know, and if he's an absentee father anyway, how much do the kids really know and see him? I Don't doubt that she has strong feelings for you, but obviously not strong enough to be with you. In an attempt to learn more about astrology, do you know her other placements? From what I've read about both pisces men and women, and even on this website/message board, when their in love, cheating is supposedly never an option for their sign, but again, no sign is extinct from the normal woes of life. Anyways, I think you just need to move on Hun. Good Luck.

Hi LIb4Life,

Thank you for responding. I know, I got myself into this somehow. I don't know how to describe it but when we are together, everything is amazing. And the physical side- we can't keep our hands off each other. Now that she is on the east coast of course it is a bit different.

I don't want to be her safety bet but she has told me that she doesn't want to lose our connection and friendship.

I saw her in May and it was like it's always been. I asked myself if things are going so well in her marriage why would she want to sleep with me... She told me that is because when she is with me she doesn't think about her marriage. I feel like she withholds information at times because she doesn't want to be completely honest about her feelings.

Literally love her with everything I have. Never felt this connection and I would be devastated to lose it.

Posted by sgtkilljoy
Hi Feistypisces,

That's what I feared, that I was propping her up in her marriage and filling gaps where her husband wasn't. I love her in a way that I have never loved another woman. She reuses to let me go and I suppose that was giving me hope that it was because she did want to be together with me, but was afraid to leave her marriage.

She also grew up in a broken home and doesn't want her girls to grow up without their dad. I am not so selfish that I can't understand that.

Her husband is an Aries... I've heard they typically don't match up.

I feel absolutely crushed. I am so afraid of letting her go.

@sgtkilljoy, You don't have 100% of her anyway and you never have, so you just have to get through your hurt and pain, and trust me, you will. Like "Feistypisces" said, she is stringing you along and getting you in where you fit in when her husband is on the outs. Also, I sure hope that you are protecting yourself sexually.

I don't know about her astrology except she is a Pisces (20 March) and I am a Taurus (9 May)

I know how you're feeling, but my advice would be to let go. It hurts like hell. I know. But you can't do that for the sake of those little girls and for your own self respect. Who knows, if she really loves you, after your absence, she might divorce aries for good. But don't count on it! There are good women out there, and you deserve someone who can commit 100% .

Hi Feistypisces, thank you again. My common sense and my heart have been at odds for a long time now. I'm a romantic and have always hoped that she would end up leaving her Aries (I know, it is terrible to wish divorce but it would be better for the two kids), and that she would be with me.

You mentioned absence... I have thought about how she was miserable before I came into her life and have thought about distancing myself to see if she would feel happy in her marriage (as she does now) or back to miserable again. What do you think? I respect your opinion.

LIb4Life,

Well, it's messed up but she didn't tell me that she had herpes until months after we'd started sleeping together. Thankfully I do not have it and have used protection since. She told me that she waited to tell me because she was afraid I would leave her.

Posted by sgtkilljoy
Hi LIb4Life,

Thank you for responding. I know, I got myself into this somehow. I don't know how to describe it but when we are together, everything is amazing. And the physical side- we can't keep our hands off each other. Now that she is on the east coast of course it is a bit different.

I don't want to be her safety bet but she has told me that she doesn't want to lose our connection and friendship.

I saw her in May and it was like it's always been. I asked myself if things are going so well in her marriage why would she want to sleep with me... She told me that is because when she is with me she doesn't think about her marriage. I feel like she withholds information at times because she doesn't want to be completely honest about her feelings.

Literally love her with everything I have. Never felt this connection and I would be devastated to lose it.

Yes, but you are putting her wants and needs before yours and sweetheart, that is never a good thing. Self preservation always comes first. You just need to have a little more faith in yourself and know that this is not good for your mental health, so in that respect, you don't have any other choice but to try and put this behind you. No one should ever be made to feel like they are sloppy seconds in any relationship. You screwed up by getting involved with a married woman, but you are not the first and you dayum sure won't be the last, but don't continue to punish yourself because you made a mistake. As you can see, no good can ever come out of a mess like this, so that's why I said earlier count it as a loss and a lesson, and move on. You've acknowledge the mistake, so make your life right and move on so that you can find someone to make you happy and vice versa. Yes, it will be hard, but it can be done...just don't settle because peace of mind is priceless.

PS....Also, get ready for the vultures on this board because they are going to tear into your situation...stay strong..lol

She "says" she was "miserable." I don't like this girl at all. Take an absence, and tell her you're tired of waiting. That because you loved her you left your ex, you've waited long years for her, and you deserve someone who can commit. If she actually ever divorces him, tell her to call you. Kind of like an ultimatum. But don't waste your time trying to coerce her because it's a lost cause. Go to a bar, go out with some friends, play a community sport- get involved with other people and you'll see yourself begin to forget about her. It's for the best.

Thank you both so much. I was waiting for the vultures actually, lol.

Feistypisces i do play rugby, it's a great outlet 🙂

It is hard to think of moving on but I have faith that if it is meant to be then it will. I know that affairs are based on lies and manipulation (which is why I harbor a lot of guilt) but I honestly believed that I had found my soulmate. It made me happy to know that I made her feel good about herself and happy too.

Feistypisces is dead on....if she really cares about you, let's see what her next move will be when you decide to move on.

I like that idea, a friend told me today that I am worth fighting for and I suppose now it's time to see if she fights.

Being a Taurus I am mostly patient... Very careful never to push her.

But I appreciate the supportive words from you both, it means a lot especially right now, when it hurts the most.

Honeejr,

Thank you for your insights. When our affair started, I had been separated. I know how scary that can be and because of that never wanted to give my love an ultimatum (and still don't).

I know she is so used to how her Aries husband is, she falls do his tricks every time and always hopes he will change. I even said that to her over Christmas: "he will always promise you he will change and you will always believe him." It upset her but I believe she saw truth in that... After all here we are 7 months later and apparently all is well in her world.

I poured my soul out to her yesterday, about my love and feelings. She isnverybcareful to not make any promises to me and told me that she loved hearing me say what I did, but wished she could take the pain away. She told me that because her husband doesn't usually treat her like he is now, it feels nice and she wants to get close to him again. It really hurt me to hear that she said she was in love with him again and connected emotionally. I think he is putting on a heck of an act but of course I am biased.

I have usually been patient but in love it's harder for me... I appreciate her as a woman, as a friend, as a person and get so discouraged that she is with someone who is only on his best behavior because she told him earlier this year she wanted a divorce.

Don't know why love is so hard, especially when I was so sure I'd found my soulmate.

What is her husbands sign?

the reality is She's a selfish, trifling whore and you'd be a damn fool to get into a relationship with her..just keep her as a distant fukk buddy, because eventually she will do you like she's doing her husband

Posted by sgtkilljoy
I really need your help. Any perspective from a Pisces. Please don't beat me up- as I said, I never saw this coming and I do feel horrible. I feel that she is my soulmate and I am so confused as she told me I was hers too. She told me that if her husband goes back to his old ways, she will leave- but she has been telling me that for nearly two years now. I understand the harshness of a broken home as I grew up in one as well. I am so heartbroken. I love her girls and would love to raise a family with her

You say you love her girls, how old are they and how did you go about meeting them/spending time with them?

You knew she was married and went after that anyway. Falling in love is no excuse cuz you could have walked away from the "friendship" from word go. Besides, what are you doing being friends with a married woman. That's bullshit. Men don't want to be our friends. You prove that. Basically, you deserve to be used like a tampon, buddy. See that's what you lose when you get involved with a taken woman: the right to sympathy let alone advice from others. Live and learn and don't go playing in another man's sandbox again.