Pisces girl need advice about a pisces guy

If anyone can give me their perspective on my situation I would greatly appreciate it.
I have been good friends with a pisces guy for about 3 years. Both of us obviously had a connection right away but we were in relationships. I am married. Around 3 months ago the truth about our feelings came out and we started talking and seeing each other more. He left his gf and I have told my husband I wanted a divorce. The divorce and split up has not happened yet due to many factors. But the divorce talk has remained the same. My pisces knew that it will take some time for the divorce but the relationship has ended. Ever since my pisces split with his gf things between us has changed. He used to shower me with so much love and attention. Then he became so cold and distant. It broke my heart. He told me it was over between us without any reason and then dissappeared. 2 weeks later he texts me telling me he's sorry for what he did to me I didn't deserve it and he loves me. Hesitant at first because I didn't want to get hurt again had a talk and I ended up pouring my heart out to him. He did the same and said he wants us to be together forever. But the next few days after he was distant again. Texting me seemed like he was being forced to. We ended up making plans for me to come by his place to see each other but when I got there I was rushed off because he made other plans with a "guy friend". So I did the dissapearing act because I knew I was being lied to and he was going to hurt me all over again. I have a feeling he has another girl even though he says he doesn't. I almost have down right proof. If he found someone else why would he pull me back in? Is he just scared I won't actually get a divorce or is he just playing games? It felt like we were soul mates. He used to care about me so much I don't understand why he wants to hurt me. It was so good and now it's just lies and deception. My state of mind now is to let him go but it is so difficult. If he did start seeing someone else then why start talking to me again? I'm so confused.

Ps I am definitely getting a divorce please no negative comments you don't know what I've gone through in this emotionally abusive marriage

If this is the direction that you both are choosing go in then ya'll really need to focus on establishing deeper trust. Neither one of you are creating the relationship foundation on the greatest or strongest term and from what I am reading I am sure that this topic will continue to come up unless you put it to rest. Maybe you just need to handle your divorce and make sure you are leaving your husband for deeper or the right reasons then this man and also trying to think about the person that you are hurting over this situation because it is sounding unstable.

Arrius ... you must have inside information because you are very adamant in knowing his mind.

the fact is, we having even heard from him, and her perspective is greatly jaded due to being butthurt ... so, the only way you could have this intimate of information on how he feels and how he is communicating to her .. then you must be him, or know him personally. In which case, instead of doing PM's with her, you should just go to her in person to help her.



To OP: I think it's very bizarre when people want to force another into being with them. If someone doesn't want you, then have some self respect and step away, rather than grovel at their feet for more crumbs. Desperate women are never attractive.

Thank you all for your advice. The marriage was already bad and I have wanted out for a long time even before meeting my pisces. Now my pisces being a mutual friend of mine and soon to be ex he could see how I was being treated and helped me realize that I needed to leave if I want to find happiness. They are no longer friends. The divorce has not happened yet because of money and because my son is due to have a major surgery. I need him to be strong and don't want him to stress about a broken home. It will happen in due time though.
If you say my pisces
"has taken the relationship as far as he is willing to, and he has gotten out of it all that he wants and can get."
Why tell me he loves me and wants to be with me forever? He can't wait till I'm all his blah blah blah. I really do believe pisces say what they really feel. But even a few days later of him saying that after he hurt me he's cold again. Is it not worth holding on? I really felt true love with him. Never have I had a guy treat me so good. But now he has ruined the perfect picture I painted of us.

P angel I have stepped away. Not forcing anything I reciprocated my feelings to him when we had that talk. He was the first to say those things I had my guard up. My life goes on with or without him. Perfectly capable of moving on. I have a feeling he will try and come back. A small part of me wants to make up excuses for why he's being this way as I know how difficult this all has been. All the pressure. And I'm not divorced yet. Reading about pisces guys his behavior seems pretty typical. Just like some insight on why pisces guys push you away and pull you back in.