Pisces Lady

Greeting Pisces!! I'm having a hard time getting a read on this Pisces lady. I've known her for a number of years and we've always been on friendly terms though never talked much. In March she invited me out for her birthday, again talked some, but not too much so. Fast forward to June and as I was heading to NY she says I should stop up and visit her. I wasn't in a position too and told her while I would like too, I couldn't. A few days later she says me a message on Facebook asking if I wanted to come to her 4th of July BBQ. I said definitely and a few days later I asked her if she needed me to bring anything, she simply said whatever I wanted. I made a joke and she seemed to cut me short so I left it at that.

Met up at her party and I felt things went really well. She even used the joke that I had said during conversation with some other people there. The following day we met up again at another party and she seemed excited to see me. I joked that we saw each other two days in a row things are getting serious, she laughed and gave me a hug. She was pretty quiet, but I kept engaging her and that seemed to get her out of her shell a bit. But at one point she was discussing with a mutual friend about a guy who's chasing her. End of the night she gave me a hug and left. The following day we had another friend's birthday and she joked about it being three days in a row of seeing each other. We talked a bit and I complimented her hat (love a girl in a hat).

I asked for her number and she gave it to me, but when I texted her (not to ask her out but to give her my number) again she was short. Part of the issue is she's in school and is about two hours away. In two weeks she'll be finished and is moving back to the area. Is it normal for a Pisces to be short when communicating electronically? I was thinking about asking if she wants to get a drink or coffee a few days after she comes home, but a bit on the fence about it.

Yeah the Scorp was a one sided pursuit on my part, there was no relationship there (friendship/flirting/ego boosting). I guess at this point, I'm tired of the flirting and just random dating so I'm looking to establish a relationship (not in the sense that I am trying to move quickly, but I'd like to start seeing someone regularly). I'm actually going to a concert at the end of August with a bunch of friends to see a band she loves. When she found out she was adamant that she go with us and her best friend (who is my friends sister) keep asking if I got her a ticket. The show is sold out and the money isn't a big deal so I'm willing to pay the overhead for it, but I also don't want to slip into old habits if the interest isn't there.

I'm not a huge holidays guy thus the Grinch name. If you ask anyone about me though, I'm the guy that is always laughing and smiling which people enjoy. Jolly is a nickname I've earned myself.

I guess I thought there was interest there as our interaction went from nill to something, but perhaps you are correct I'm misreading the situation.

When I say short, it's just that she doesn't continue the conversation. She's never given me one or two word answers, but suddenly things will just stop. Not wanting to look foolish I don't push anymore. In regards to the guy, my assumption was it was just a ploy to let me know she is desired and perhaps to see how I reacted to it. I took it in stride, continue my conversations with her and didn't get too worried because she didn't make it sound like she was all that interested in him. I do know they are not "together", but perhaps dated/dating?

Ah I'm a Libra. The Grinch was always one of my favorite characters when growing up and as I said, I'm not big on the holidays. Part of it is I have a fairly big personality (loud, laugh a lot, love to talk) so I could literally go on and on all day. I have long texting conversations with friends so when only two or three replies happen I get a bit dumbfounded. Obviously, their light hearted/humorous conversations as I don't like to have serious ones no in person.

Good thing about us Libras, we only know how to be ourselves. Seeing how you guys are saying "mindless" electronic communication isn't your thing I can scale that back. I've been good about not "bothering" her in that regard and now I know to stick to it. As for the concert ticket, ah not the biggest deal for me. I think once she moves back, I call her up and see what she says. From there I can decide about the concert. Thanks for the advice folks!

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Posted by 88PisceScorp

Posted by conflictedfish
Second decan pisces ftw! by the way I'll let you in on a little secret, my ex was a libra and she wooed me by being her quirky little self. Just let loose and relax man! pursue her naturally!

True ^^^, I'm just a strict boring Pisces woman. LOL
she may like the texting and the attention more than some of us, so just be yourself with her and if it works out great, if it doesn't great too. 🙂

We like strong, confident men. 🙂

Yes! Strong. Confident. Consistent. Persistent. None of that hot and cold butter. And if I haven't given you the stink face while flirting, then I'm encouraging you to continue. 😉

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I guess how do you show persistence and be consistent if you guys don't communicate that much?

Idk but as a pisces if im interested in someone i would always tell them anything bout me even the most intimate things and if that person doesnt catch my attention i wouldnt bother talking with them much(sometimes just say hello or reply shortly when they text me) not that i dislike them but i just wanna make sure that we're just friend and not more

I'm never wishy washy and if I make plans I stick to them (unless something utterly terrible comes up). In regards to liking someone as much today as yesterday, I'm consistent in that. Everybody has tough days and I don't hold that against anyone. Obviously, if it seems to be the rule rather then the exception then I'd probably take issue with that. In regards to the concert ticket, she (nor our friend) ask me to buy the ticket for her, merely that I get a ticket for her. My plan was to take it that step further and just buy it without asking for the cash. There's six of us going and I purchased those tickets and my friends will pay me day of.

tiz I've been single for quite a bit of time. Casual dating is just starting to get old. I've gotten to the point in my life where I have a solid career, new job prospects that could lead to bigger and better things (or I can stay where I am and be fine). In regards to this situation, it's one of those things where we gone from basically never talking to suddenly hanging out and talking. I don't tend to think that this is suddenly happening for no reason.

So the plan for now is to wait till she's home (about a month) and see if we'll go out prior to the concert then take it from there. Seems I keep learning how few people like using their phones...

Posted by tiziani
Grinch, is there a particular reason why you're set on having a relationship right now? for the company or something?

When you force things or read into half-chances to make them full blown romances, it puts out a kind of vibe that anyone can pick up on. It's like repellant where there needn't be any. As a sidenote yeah most Pisces I know are pretty unrealiable when it comes to the phone. But you certainly don't want to be winning her favour by buying tickets and spending money just to earn her company. At the most simple level, bad with the phone or not, if you ask her out places she should be able to tell you she's looking forward to spending time with you.

I got the same impression.

Seems like the decision has been made to have a serious relationship .... and so now, a girl has been picked out to play the part of girlfriend, and so now moves are in put in place.

Pisces are terribly unreliable with communication ... not just phone. We don't have a need to be in constant communication, nor do we feel like we need to explain ourselves to anyone ... so, if a person is needing to have a friend who secures you with words, then the Fish is the wrong choice.

We haven't spent that much time together, couple hours over three days. The initial interest appears to be there, but you might be right I could be seeing what I'd like to see. But at the same time I won't know unless we get together a few more times. I guess I don' exactly there the nature of the last two replies. If there's something we all know is that for the most part no one comes out and says how they feel. So the options are for not trying and having nothing happen, try and nothing happen, or try and something happens. I'm apt to try because if nothing happens not like we've been the best of friends or anything to that effect.

Well I've known her for years. Live in the same town, went to the same school, worked at the same place when I was she was in college she finishing high school. Not some random woman I met at a party and decided I was going to put the moves on.

I'm a Pisces and I can tell you that there are times where I have been short with texting friends or guys that I'm interested in. A lot has to do with there is a lot on my mind, I'm busy but I want to not be rude so I'll acknowledge you.

I agree with 88PiscScorp that we don't communicate all that well.

I enjoy my texting at times if I'm really in that mood but other times I like a brief conversation from someone just to fill my day of socializing. I don't need to talk throughout the entire day with someone. Her short answers don't necessarily mean anything is wrong, at least, in my opinion I don't do that to others.