Pisces Man: Said Too Much Too Soon—

For the last week or so I have been spending some time with a rather nice pisces man whom I met through my dojo. We originally didn't have much to do with each other when I joined other than occasionally sparring during training or making light teases towards one another. However, last Saturday I came into the dojo early to train extra and he happened to be there fixing a few things in the sparring cage. I chatted with him as normal, helped him fix a few things, and after stretching for a bit he asked if I wanted his number so I could train with him (he is a very experienced fighter and I was explaining to him that I was hoping to train more for my upcoming testing). I agreed seeing no issue and invited him to join me in my fundemental training. He did and I noticed instant chemistry between us. He was rather playful with me and I responded with light flirting back.

Fast forward a day and we set up to possibly meet each other at a party, which I ended up not being able to make because I was with another guy I had been getting to know. However, the next day he invited me to come up to his place to train. When I arrived we ended up talking more than training and I found out we had tons in common. I got the feeling though that he had a mild attraction to me for a while that I never noticed until that Saturday, but he initiated intimacy that night. Well since then I have seen him every day for the past week. We have had very tender moments together along with being intimate each time, in which one night he asked me to stay and I did. A few days into it however I realized how much I liked him, and on an extremely intense level. I thought it might be too soon to say anything, but seeing as I felt we were connecting on several levels (other than the intimacy which to me was just a bonus of being in his company, not my main reason I spent time with him), I let him know last night that I really liked him. He was hesitant at first to tell me he liked me as well but said he needed to figure out where to go from there and how we should proceed. I haven't heard from him today (he has been regular about texting me every day just to say hi). Did I make a mistake by being too forward and open too soon? He did say he was glad I told him, but I over think things a lot and I wonder if by expressing interest so soon if I've killed chances to further things with him...or am I just being a worry wart?

Posted by djbuck1
You may have pushed things. Back way off and see what happens. Under no circumstances pursue him further. Let him come around.

I just find it so strange that he pursued me to a degree, even initiated the intimacy and seemed fine being on a romantic level with me so easily and now I have to watch myself because I said I liked him a lot. It's not as if I dropped the "L" bomb. But I am taking a step back and giving him some space.

I am a Pisces as well but im a female Pisces. But however we can have some of the same characteristics.. The way I see it is maybe you should have waited on the intimacy part. You see he had nothing to chase. He was probably intrigued to begin with but u would have gotten a little closer to his heart if he had something to imagine. Pisces love to dream and imagine what things would be like. I dont know why but its way more fascinating to us to dream about it. I dont just mean sex we love to dream about the way the relationship should be like. When you told him you really liked him it snapped him into reality. So now he has to come to termd with the reality of it all now. It may have scared him a little. He may avoid you for a little while but just back away a little he will come back around. One thing I do know we dont hurting peoples feelings. I hope I was able to help a little 🙂

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His Venus is in Pisces and Mars in Gemini.

Thanks for all the advice. I understand that being intimate with him might have been too soon, but we are familiar with one another based on the fact that we've had to build camaraderie in our dojo over several months, so I felt comfortable enough that he wasn't trying to "get it in" simply based on physical attraction. Guess it's just the vibe I got.

However, yesterday I decided to leave him be and wait for him to contact me. He did towards the end of the day. We chatted a bit and I told him I was off to have dinner with a friend. Later that night after he got done with training he let me know he missed me and such, but I didn't offer to stop by and I probably won't make an effort to see him until we run into one another at the dojo.

I'm honestly just going to play it by ear and how I feel. At the end of the day, I think it's better that I told him how I felt so he is aware and doesn't believe something else. If things progress with him, wonderful! If not then that's life and I will get on with it. 🙂