Pisces Men

One of my friends has been friends with this guy (Pisces guy) for 10 yrs.
Recently he has really flirty with her, then a few weeks later he turned it off.
She asked what was wrong. He said he he needed to get his head straight from his last relationship that was about 7 months ago.
She asked if he wanted her to go away, he said he needed friends. She has not contacted him (because I told her not to)
Didn't think she should Chase him.
BTW I am a Pisces woman but dont know how the guys are.
So, do you think he will come back or what happens next?

Help...

Hahahahahahahah that was funny🙂
Good advice btw🙂

Tiziani... I wasn't trying to give her bad advice. I know how dudes can be regardless of their sign.
She told him she was there for him. He hasn't contacted her either.
What should I tell her to do next?

Posted by woodenmeow
One of my friends has been friends with this guy (Pisces guy) for 10 yrs.
Recently he has really flirty with her, then a few weeks later he turned it off.
She asked what was wrong. He said he he needed to get his head straight from his last relationship that was about 7 months ago.
She asked if he wanted her to go away, he said he needed friends. She has not contacted him (because I told her not to)
Didn't think she should Chase him.
BTW I am a Pisces woman but dont know how the guys are.
So, do you think he will come back or what happens next?

Help...

Horrible advice! Typically in normal circumstances, you want to get to know someone and BE friends in order for things to flourish. To tell her to go ice cold..bad move on her part for listening to you. He'll find someone else to be friends with.

Posted by woodenmeow
Tiziani... I wasn't trying to give her bad advice. I know how dudes can be regardless of their sign.
She told him she was there for him. He hasn't contacted her either.
What should I tell her to do next?

This girl can't think for herself? She needs to reach out and be a friend as he asked is what she needs to do.

Yes she can think for herself. SHe came to me being a pisces but as I said I gave her my female pisces perspective.
I didn't realize the pisces men can be much different.
Any Pisces men that can shed some light on this please...

THanks.

She said she would be there for him then disappears? I believe actions speak louder than words, her actions spoke volumes. This has nothing to do with his sign, they were friends until it became difficult then she bolted simple and plain.

What should I tell my friend to do about her Pisces man?
He has gone silent.
Wait a few days and check in with him?
See how he is doing.. He said he needed friends.

acknowledge that she wasnt there for him and then see if he wants to talk

Posted by zxcvbnm
And this is the best part. I am even willing to help him draft his apology letter to his wife. He is still in love with her. In that letter, it will include a reasonable action plan that will help strength their marriage.

are you a virgo? just curious...

--Jack

Posted by zxcvbnm
He wants emotional connection, but that element is absent.

That's why they parted. However, he does not understand the following: no women would go near a man who divorced his wife of 20 years b/c one element is missing. It makes other women wonder: is he going to find an element 20 years from now and divorce me?

Why are you speaking on behalf of "other women"? You can only speak for yourself.

Perhaps emotional connectedness is the only element worth being with someone, for that Pisces. Each to their own

I told her everyone's input..
She did reach out to him in a friendly way, told him that she was coming into town for work and and wanted to hopefully meet for dinner.
He told her he wouldn't be able to meet til midnight.
And when she did reach out to him yesterday to say hello and see how things were doing..
He didn't even respond.
I am out of things to tell her to do.
She feels rejected. I don't blame her.

Posted by woodenmeow
I told her everyone's input..
She did reach out to him in a friendly way, told him that she was coming into town for work and and wanted to hopefully meet for dinner.
He told her he wouldn't be able to meet til midnight.
And when she did reach out to him yesterday to say hello and see how things were doing..
He didn't even respond.
I am out of things to tell her to do.
She feels rejected. I don't blame her.

game speak: the guy has someone new already.

Posted by LetltB

Posted by woodenmeow
One of my friends has been friends with this guy (Pisces guy) for 10 yrs.
Recently he has really flirty with her, then a few weeks later he turned it off.
She asked what was wrong. He said he he needed to get his head straight from his last relationship that was about 7 months ago.
She asked if he wanted her to go away, he said he needed friends. She has not contacted him (because I told her not to)
Didn't think she should Chase him.
BTW I am a Pisces woman but dont know how the guys are.
So, do you think he will come back or what happens next?

Help...

Horrible advice! Typically in normal circumstances, you want to get to know someone and BE friends in order for things to flourish. To tell her to go ice cold..bad move on her part for listening to you. He'll find someone else to be friends with.

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What are you going on about?? They've been friends for 10 years, how long do they have to be friends for things to flourish 😉.

Woodenmeow, I would say to your friend to let things be and she should continue being his friend. He's probably on the rebound and is hurting (depends who ended the relationship and how long he was in a relationship for) so probably cannot offer much at this time anyway and when he is ready he can reach out to her 😉

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Posted by LetltB

Posted by woodenmeow
One of my friends has been friends with this guy (Pisces guy) for 10 yrs.
Recently he has really flirty with her, then a few weeks later he turned it off.
She asked what was wrong. He said he he needed to get his head straight from his last relationship that was about 7 months ago.
She asked if he wanted her to go away, he said he needed friends. She has not contacted him (because I told her not to)
Didn't think she should Chase him.
BTW I am a Pisces woman but dont know how the guys are.
So, do you think he will come back or what happens next?

Help...

Horrible advice! Typically in normal circumstances, you want to get to know someone and BE friends in order for things to flourish. To tell her to go ice cold..bad move on her part for listening to you. He'll find someone else to be friends with.

What are you going on about?? They've been friends for 10 years, how long do they have to be friends for things to flourish 😉.

Woodenmeow, I would say to your friend to let things be and she should continue being his friend. He's probably on the rebound and is hurting (depends who ended the relationship and how long he was in a relationship for) so probably cannot offer much at this time anyway and when he is ready he can reach out to her 😉

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He asked for a friend and only got absence in return.. that hurts trust me. You should have stayed and talk through it or just be there at least. Knowing you didn't leave was the important bit here. He'll retreat and evaluate what he wants from you, since the flirting didn't come from nowhere.. new developments need to be taken into account.

Since you were friends for 10 years, you'll go back to that but no more. He saw how she reacted to his request, he won't try that again any time soon.

There's a difference between friendship that flourishes and the mindset we get when it involves 'do I want to date this person'. It's a fresh start mentally, we evaluate everything again with a new set of parameters. The 10 years friendship will make this a short process, but it is NOT the same thing a friendship and partnership.

She should leave him alone on the romantic side but get bac

Good News... My friend and her pisces guy have been chatting.
He has made a few flirty comments.
She told him "sweet dreams".. He said about me?
She said yes.. I do have sweet dreams about you. He replied Nice.
I gave her a high five for playing it cool.
Sounds like things are taking a step in a good direction. You never know.

Posted by woodenmeow
Good News... My friend and her pisces guy have been chatting.
He has made a few flirty comments.
She told him "sweet dreams".. He said about me?
She said yes.. I do have sweet dreams about you. He replied Nice.
I gave her a high five for playing it cool.
Sounds like things are taking a step in a good direction. You never know.

Hmmm, I think maybe your friend is making a bigger deal than what the comment warrants. I'd say things like that to both my male and female friends because I am a natural flirt (or so my boyfriend is always telling me) it's just my bubbly nature doesn't mean I want to be more than friends.

How is it that she's playing it cool if she is telling the guy upfront that she has sweet dreams about him? Isn't that being a bit obvious?