virgo needs help with pisces dreamgirl

Hello all

I am new to these boards(first post) brousing this morning finding some interesting topics.

Anyways to the point,I have lost my pisces sweetheart of 6 years recently and wondering if anyone can offer some helpful advice.She is my world and have difficulty trying to vision my future without her.

Our story started in Calgary at the workplace and within a couple months we
were living together and talking marriage.We were both employed at a large food service distributor and grew tired of our workplace.Her about 3 years ago and then me a year later.

We both moved to Calgary a few months before we met.Her from Manitoba,Me from Northern Ontario.We grew up in Central Canada about 4 hours apart.

The relationship was great until I quit my job.The main reason for me quitting was that the job started really started to wear and tear on me physically and I was often getting Back strains and other annoying ailments.LOL I worked in a freezer for 8 years.(3 years prior to moving to Calgary)

Then disaster...upon quitting I had a friend introduce me to A stock trading teacher. Well I learned to trade stocks and I proved to be a pretty good trader.Problem was that I had a small account and had a tough time building because it was so small. I went into my retirement savings to help fund it.But still didn't have enough in the account to really make a difference.My attitude was that this could be a good thing for us and might really help our future.

My Pisces girl never did have much interest in my trading and there were times she was very negative. I have always been interested in astrology but just recently since our separation(mid Sept.05) started trying to figure out my pisces dreamgirl. While reading profiles on Pisces people I have learned that they are real big on stability and not really great with risks and uncertainty.Wish I would have known that a few years back ....big whoops. I just kept trying to tell her that this trading thing i am doing is for us and one day it could get really good. Everytime pushing her that much more out the door.

She left me in early December 2004 for the first time.We managed to reconcile in Febuuary 2005.On the condition my trading was done.I really had a hard time seeing her point for a while.I was working a full time evening job making good money,not great and at the same time my trading account was gradually growing.Of course between the job and trading she was left with much of the chores .Also didn't leave me enough time to be the partner i shouldve been.SPELL VIRGO 🙂.

Than when i told her i was thinking of trading again a month ago she says "what is more important your trading or me?" I replied that is not the issue and i figured that she was trying to keep me from pursuing a dream.Now she is gone and will not speak to me,even after I've told her I would not trade again."oh i've heard that before"She says that she doesn't love me anymore and we both have to go our own ways.We had some other small issues besides this but rarely argued or had bad days.Very high % of good days or at least that is what I thought.She has been gone a month and I really don't know how I will get her back. that scares me .I really love her.

I guess that i should tell you that i am now in Ontario(we both were for about amonth) now she is back at her job she loves in Calgary and I'm training to be a truck driver in Ontario

If anyone can offer some advice to recatch my fishy I would be very appreciative.Thanks in advance for your feedback.

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Hi Virgo 831 and welcome!

I am not sure that I can offer advice on how to "recatch" your little fishy 😢 I truly believe that if it is meant to be - it will be. We cannot force love...it must come on it's own free will. She appears to me that she really is not ready for this relationship with you or any relationship at this moment. You have your dreams and NO ONE should ever take those away from you nor should YOU give them up for anyone. If you were to have given up your dream for her - I believe sometime in the future, you may end up to regret it.

Me also thinks that when someone "loves" someone, we will encourage that person to follow their dreams, we will support them and vice versa. - "what is more important your trading or me?" She is being a bit manipulative here Mr. If I had to guess, she also seems to be a bit insecure with herself.

Give yourself time, follow your dream and become the best stock trader out there (I love trading stocks too!) Take care of YOU...maybe in time she will grow with understanding and you both will unite with a new perspective on life and love and what is really important. Perhaps you both are in searching mode..and that is okay - search away Mr. and find out more about you. Also know without a doubt that the best relationship must begin with yourself. 🙂

Best wishes virgo 831 (is that your b-day?)

Thanks for the great reply and welcome freebird

Yes Bday is august 31

I love the trading but it is frustrating with a small account.have to hit a home run and markets aren't cooperating too much right now.

Best wishes right back at you freebird

If she needs security (i totally understand) and you can't be sure what will happen in the future, she'd be stupid to take the risk. The best thing is always to find someone who's naturally compatible, it's easier for everybody.
You have to be careful with fishies. 😢

Don't listen to freebird.

Thanks for the reply mr.crabby

It is a struggle of 2 passions.

I value a 6 year relationship to no end. With hindsight you can see now that my fishy is my priority.

Freebirds reply was great and had alot of releveance to how I was thinking before she left and now knowing the pisces profile alot better I would bust my back to keep her and keep her happy.

It has been a month now and someone naturally compatible is a nice thought but I think it would take alot of time for me to up and move on from my dream girl.

all the best v 831

Ah i can understand that.

Lost in Love Virgo 831 - I gotta agree wholeheartdly with Mr.Crabby! Please do not listen to me. My words come only from MY experience and your experience is your experience therefore, it is yours and ONLY your advice that you should take.

You are one smart crabbypants there Mr.! 😉

My best wishes for a future filled with much joy, peace and love for you virgo 831!

You learn a lot about relationships, living under a rock while hating everybody.

Out of curiousity....mr.crab who and what - do you have relationships with while under a rock, may I ask? Sounds umm...different! yeah, that's it - different!

I'm in love with the internet right now, but she leaves me then comes back. I also have a friend who lives in the phone and i often wake up with a chihuahua's rear end in my face.
See? Interraction! Learningness!

Thank you branh0913 and Jada79

Both your replies rang alot of bells regarding our relastionship. I'm learning that it is a great idea to know the atroligical profile of your partner to help understand them. Without this ,one can get vey frustrated and and turn "not so bad" into the something pretty bad.

I don't have too much time to say much now as I am on lunch and have to leave soon.

Just want to thank you both very much for your helpful replies and I'll check back this evening.

v 831