cancer man trouble

I am a Leo woman and I have been dating a Cancer guy for4 years the 4th year on and off, the last time we spoke he said he needed some space, I threatened to never call him again and he got quiet for a min and finally said " I just need some space" so I told him I will give him all the space he needs and left it at that. I found out through a mutual friend that he might be interested in another woman( she's actually friends with my cousin) when I asked him about it he admitted they kissed but nothing else. I started to date again because I figured he's moving on and so should I but I still love him and want to work things out. I sent him a text saying " can I ask you for some advice?" In regards to the guy I'm dating just to see if he'll respond. Well he did! But basically gave me the green light to date, I acted nonchalantly and just said thank you for the advice and he didn't respond. My question is does that mean he's over me? Is there a chance he might come back? Thank you in advance for your responses.
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Thank you for the sarcasm...

Yes that is true, I will move on thanks

Ugh Cancer men...That is all.

+1 DawnofDay

Oh and count yourself very lucky that your Cancer man told you he needed space, typically they just crawl away sideways into oblivion never to be seen again, least he had some semblance of enough respect to tell you he needed space, so many Cancer men just walk away without one word of an explanation.

Don't contact him anymore, lose his number, defriend him on Facebook, hide him from messenger, don't answer emails, least not in the beginning, NO ACCESS, this will amp up his desire to get you back and post the best photo of yourself b/c Leo women are absolutely gorgeous.

Once he recognize you are gone for good and possibly forever, he'll be back, he won't allow 4 years of investing his time and energy to go down the drain but you must move on without him and give him nothing, no access, he'll be back, crabs are slow so yeah you're looking at 8 weeks to 6 months and if you get out of your own way by not reaching out to him he'll side step his way back to you.

I don't care if someone died, the dog, the plant, the mail man, a mutual friend, SAY NOTHING, he won't expect this from you and he'll be forced to get off his ass and do something about his stupid idea to let you go until then get on with your life, post up pictures with good looking Alpha male/s (men can be random as long as they are hot and seem into you) and smile hard and wide, look at him with adoring eyes, don't get to cozy, no PDA, just simple affection but nothing over the top, he must see your worth through another mans eyes and smile b/c he's lost touch with how valuable you are to him, he'll be back.

If he doesn't come back, at least you've taken the necessary steps to move on, so it's a win win situation.

@tiki33 lol thank you so much, you seem very experienced and it was just the advice I needed to hear 🙂 I will take your advice and you are absolutely 100% right it is a win win situation. I know my post stated the obvious but sometimes you just need to hear it from other people. I have already started the process of moving on, I deleted my fb and later found out he deleted his. We share mutual friends so our paths are bound to cross again ( he's best friend's with 2 of my cousins and I work with one of his friends) but I will still take your advice and I'm sure he'll hear about how well I'm doing through a little birdie 😉 thanks again! 🙂

Also keep MUM about your feelings about him to mutual friends and family, resist the urge to spill your guts, just be very mysterious about your feelings with family and friends, don't let on you miss him in hope word will get back to him because doing that will only make the crap go deeper into his shell, if he think you have moved on for good he'll be back and you will have done nothing to get him to come back but move on with your life.

Of course you speak to people who don't know him or come here to DXP to vent but do not lay your hand on the table to family and friends, you won't regret doing this once you see the effect it has on him. Imagine him speaking about you and getting a well she's said nothing response back LOL, he'll be gutted which will only pull him back in out of curiosity.

Once he recognize you don't need him like he initially convinced himself that you did and you basically no longer speak about him and on top of that you look amazing and you have all this male attention from other men revolving around you (keep it classy not trashy) he'll get curious again and he'll be back but don't jump on the first line of communication, remember they go around and go side ways so don't communicate until he actually speak to you, in other words you'll probably start getting hints from mutual friends etc that he asked about you, HOLD FIRM, don't spill your guts, just know you're getting close and closer so don't lose hope, just give it 8 weeks to 6 months to see if the Cancer shell will crack open and he'll start to slowly side step his way back into your life.

crab not crap lol

Thanks🙂 again that makes so much sense, you said when he does come back to not jump at the first line of communication, how should I act, neutral? Like.I don't care? Or just be myself. I've read in other post that if he calls I should wait to respond and when I do make it seem like he's not a priority , keep it short and simple . But crabs are so sensitive so I'm confused because wouldn't that only make him retreat back into his shell. Crabs don't like the feeling of rejection.

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If this is true then I will have to take what tiki33 said, either way it's a win win situation for me, either I'll move on completely and if he really cares for me then he'll come back. I just think it's a messy situation because we share mutual friends so either way our paths will eventually cross.