Do you think people?

Ok do you think people should move in together before they are married? or

Well for me I think it's a 1 year standard guideline is a better exception ..what do you think is acceptable?

Those of you that live with someone now how long did it take to move in? Was it better or worse?

There are many cultures where no way in hell would that happen.

So I don't think it's important.
However I would not want to marry someone within a year of dating.

I moved in with my boyfriend during my internship last year. We are not married. But we had a great time together. Like two bros chilling together on the weekends,drinking beer,smoking pot and playing cards. We had so much fun doing all the housework, cooking and working out together. I would do it again this year after I graduate. Living together is like a trailer if you are planning to get married. You get to know a person so much more from their sleeping habits to there silly nothings.

Yes in my culture too it is frowned upon but we did it anyway.

Also I have known him for the past 3 years and have been dating since the past one year.

We both are cancerians btw.

I think you're a surface dweller

For religious, proprietal and social reasons I would not just shack up with someone. i think it is acceptable if you are engaged, other than that it's just not an option I would choose. I believe in marriage.

My personal opinion is why give up the freedom and take on all the pretension of "marriage" without the legal benefits of marriage. Why play house? If I'm not going to be married, I'm going to keep my own place, spend my money anyhow I like, go when and where I want and maintain all my freedoms and individuality.

Living together can get complicated. For instance, if he owns a house and I help pay the mortgage, invest in improvements of that house, arrange for and pay for repairs (plumbing, electrical, roof, etc), then I expect to have some sort of return on that investment. If you break up, then you have no legal rights to the value of the home, although you've sunk your own money into that home.

There is a lady in my home town who lived with her boyfriend for 25 years. When he passed away, his kids told her she had two weeks to vacate the house. She had no legal rights since the house was in his name and the property automatically was passed to his kids after his death. She was flabbergasted that his kids treated her this way when they had been so sweet to her before. It came down to money. She was in her 60s. Had no place to go. No money to buy them out. Couldn't get a loan due to her age. Sure, he should have made a will and made sure she was taken care of, but they didn't expect his death so soon and she wasn't his wife so legally the property passed to his next of kin. But it's also in the back of her mind now, that he didn't care for her as much as she thought he did or he would have made arrangements for her.

I'm sure it's not an isolated incidence. Surely those stories are all over and it happens all the time.

I find it advantageous to take a "test drive" before buying the car.

I'm in favor of a trial run, but I understand all points raised by those that don't agree.

My perspective comes from being burned in a divorce and losing everything, despite it not being my fault. Seems the only thing I was found guilty of was having a penis.

That legal document can be a financial death sentence, and before I dive in again -- I need to make damn sure.