Does This Have Anything To Do With Astrology?

I have noticed that other people seem to *presume* I *should* have weaker boundaries than I do, like I feel like recently a lot of people IRL have attempted to impose on my IRL in various ways.

For example, one Virgo friend played the "queen of the household" role for so long that I stopped being her roommate, because apparently she decided she was allowed to take up space and have needs and wants and I wasn't. I don't think this Virgo is healthy at all, though, so I chalk that up to her probably having Borderline Personality Disorder and that probably doesn't have anything to do with astrology. She does it to everyone she can get away with doing it to, as far as I can tell.

Okay so maybe we won't count her. At first I didn't. I chalked it up to her being a nut.

So I move out. I have this other friend who is in her 20s, just a few years younger than me, but a grown woman. She's 24. She seems to think since I've helped her out or been nice to her in the past...I should keep giving her shit? I forget her sign, I think she's a Scorpio, but it's like she's always asking me for something, and finally I had to actually GET ANGRY AT HER to get her to realize that she's always asking me for something, and even behaves as if I'm *supposed to* give her certain things, like I'm her big sister or I don't have problems of my effing own.

Or I've had incidents with random males thinking I owe them a conversation. If I politely tell them that I don't feel social and don't feel like talking, suddenly I'm a bitch, like I owe them attention? It's like look dude, nobody owes you a conversation, especially if they aren't your friend already, and even if they are your friend, shouldn't you respect someone telling you politely I don't feel like talking in the mornings, or right now, or when I don't feel well? WTF?

I have many more examples, just people thinking I *should* or am somehow *obligated* to be more receptive or giving than I am.

I wonder if it's because I'm a Gemini I appear to others as being very flexible, friendly and nice on the surface, but underneath I have this Cappy moon and Scorpio asc, so I actually have really firm, strong inner boundaries and need my space.

So I feel like people take my kindness for weakness, or they get so used to my friendly Gemini moods that when I do need space these assholes actually think I don't have a right to say "hey, stop it, I have needs too."

Boundaries. Get some. Everyone. Argh!!!

I think that, in general, people see how much they can get away with.

Posted by Whimsy
I think that, in general, people see how much they can get away with.

I just wonder if my initial presence is somehow misleading, that people presume since I have the appearance of being kind or flexible that it means I'm a doormat, so they're in a for a nasty surprise if they push it.

I'd like for people to quit pushing it, though.

Establishing my own boundaries is something I'm working on, though, maybe I need to make better choices more quickly and firmly.

Of course I don't think there's anything to be done with guys you don't want to talk to. Those types just think that every female they approach should be receptive and if she's not, then obviously it means she's a bitch who is rejecting them. Not all guys are like that, just some, and that's their problem.