Hey I could really do with some help and advise...

Over the last 2 months I have gotten to know an Aquarius guy, we clicked instantly.. our friendship has grown and we are quite close in a way.

On Saturday he came round with my other friends, as we do quite often. But this time round he was quite open in sharing his "feelings" about me and I told him how I felt too but being that ive just come out of a 7 year marriage I want to take whatever it is slow. AS the night went on, our other Aqua gfriend told me I need to be careful because he has a date planned with someone else o Sunday night.. taking her out for dinner etc. Im okay with that because it was planned before we had even spoken about our situation. Later on that night as me and the Aqua guy got even closer.. we had some alone chat time in my room, when i left the room to join the others our aqua gfriend went up to talk to him. She then came and told me saying that she is just trying to look out for me.. he told her "(Other girl his sunday date) is worth more". In context of talking about me and him too. That burned to the core.. and I literally went ape on his ass basically telling him he better not be playing me and telling him how hurtful it is to here that after we have grown so close friendship wise and on top of that everything he said to me that night! He really had no explanation for it but said he didnt mean it in that way. I eventually calmed down and left it.. later on we played around abit which was great.

Anyway next morning everything was fine with no awkwardness and we both agreed we had no regrets do to the fact that we are worried about messing up or friendship. Before he left he said he will come over during the week and chill out with me. Once he left, my other gfriend who may i add is with someone and has been for 5 years told me that that night in my kitchen he told her that he would love to kiss her and she admittedly did. Again seriously— What is he playing at? I later on messaged him after i had come to my senses and sobered up abit that I was still pretty hurt my his comment but im willing to put it aside for now. He said he didnt remember saying that but if he did its not even true because he knows me way better and said he are closer among other things... he was shocked that he even said it. My friend he kissed has know him since school days and she said "well he better not be bullshitting you" Which makes me wonder if there is something no one seems to be telling me about him.

Over the last 2 months I have gotten to know an Aquarius guy, we clicked instantly.. our friendship has grown and we are quite close in a way.

On Saturday he came round with my other friends, as we do quite often. But this time round he was quite open in sharing his "feelings" about me and I told him how I felt too but being that ive just come out of a 7 year marriage I want to take whatever it is slow. AS the night went on, our other Aqua gfriend told me I need to be careful because he has a date planned with someone else o Sunday night.. taking her out for dinner etc. Im okay with that because it was planned before we had even spoken about our situation. Later on that night as me and the Aqua guy got even closer.. we had some alone chat time in my room, when i left the room to join the others our aqua gfriend went up to talk to him. She then came and told me saying that she is just trying to look out for me.. he told her "(Other girl his sunday date) is worth more". In context of talking about me and him too. That burned to the core.. and I literally went ape on his ass basically telling him he better not be playing me and telling him how hurtful it is to here that after we have grown so close friendship wise and on top of that everything he said to me that night! He really had no explanation for it but said he didnt mean it in that way. I eventually calmed down and left it.. later on we played around abit which was great.

Anyway next morning everything was fine with no awkwardness and we both agreed we had no regrets do to the fact that we are worried about messing up or friendship. Before he left he said he will come over during the week and chill out with me. Once he left, my other gfriend who may i add is with someone and has been for 5 years told me that that night in my kitchen he told her that he would love to kiss her and she admittedly did. Again seriously— What is he playing at? I later on messaged him after i had come to my senses and sobered up abit that I was still pretty hurt my his comment but im willing to put it aside for now. He said he didnt remember saying that but if he did its not even true because he knows me way better and said he are closer among other things... he was shocked that he even said it. My friend he kissed has know him since school days and she said "well he better not be bullshitting you" Which makes me wonder if there is something no one seems to be telling me about him.

Argh sorry dont know why my posts keep posting in 3's :-/ Anyway to finish what i was saying.... My cancer male friend had warned me preciously about him telling me he was a compulsive lier and manipulate.. but he did a few things that made me think he was just saying that so i didnt get close to the Aqua guy! m so freakin confused now... ive put my trust in this guy and fully let my guard down with him and im feeling like a fool now!

Now he had this date lastnight and im not even sure he is aware that I know about it. But im guessing depending on how that goes if he still comes over during the week.

What do you guys think? Is he playing me? I am Aqua sun, Libra moon, Venus Sag... and he is Aqua sun, Cancer moon, Pisces Venus..anymore you need to know? Please some insight would be really great!! Thank you xxxx

Please see duplicate post! Sorry!

Hi Thanks for commenting! The thing is, I'm not sure if I can trust any of the people that are giving me warnings.. for numerous reason, they had lied themselves in the past. So i'm really stuck in the "dont know what to believe" This is why im so confused.

Its hard because I really do like him and want to give him the benefit of the doubt :-/ I always find that my instincts are right but I find it really hard to give into them because I want to believe that im wrong 😢 Especially when I have become so close to him. But I think you have hit a point there about a "collection".

I would really appreciate anymore replies? I'm really struggling with this. xx

Okay, thank you! Ive decided im cutting it off... i have too much going on and this is just too mush for me... i have a HUGE feeling he is definitely seeing this other girl now and i will absolutely not be someones second best! So again thank you for your insite xx

So you knew he said the Sunday date had more worth than you. Then you "played around" with him anyway.

I suppose you proved him right.

Yeah absolutely and I feel pretty crappy about that too. But he has such a way with words when i confronted him about it! What we have has been building up over 2 months so wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt.

Yet again though, he messaged me lastnight with this : The date was cancelled, I was considering coming over to yours but I thought that would be an extremely scummy thing to do. Would like to just say, whatever drunken nastiness i hit out with on saturday, i do totally respect and care for you and whatever may happen from hereon out, i promise i will do right by you, me and everyone. Soppy i know but i felt i needed to say that.You are staying in my life no matter what. Im honestly terrified of i fuck up badly, what we have is too good to ruin (including our friendships with our mutual friends he means here).

So you see what i mean by words....... all I did was reply to his initial general chat message, saying hi and asking him how his date went.. and then he sent me all that!

Posted by ccaqua

.... im feeling like a fool now!

You feel like that because you are a fool. Fools are suppose to feel foolish. The whole point in that is to get you to realize you're being a fool, so that you will change yourself.

But, that doesn't seem to be happening. In fact, quite the opposite is happening. When your own people try to tell you this, you call them liars. When people in here try to open your eyes, you have excuses ready so that you don't have to face the fact that you're a fool.

you fucked him, eventhough you knew he wasn't sincere .... so, lay in the bed you made for yourself without complaint.

If you don't like it ... then grow some decency, and choose to make better choices. I doubt you'll do that though.

Wow, you sleep with someone and suddenly your indecent and have no respect for yourself. You know me so well clearly. You have never made a bad choice in your life at all im sure....

Further more.. I would like to add that the people who have "warned" me about him all have in the last 2 months done something pretty outrages to make me question them. However the warnings they have given me about him stem from when he was ages 14-16 years old. Now I for one am not the same person I was when i was that age. He is the only one that has been consistent throughout everything which is why i would like to give him that chance to redeem himself for the sake of our friendship because quite frankly this is nothing compared to the havoc the others have caused amongst themselves. I have listened to everyone here and taken the feedback in and it has helped me come to a calm conclusion so thank you.. P-Angel however Your comment is just downright judgmental and unhelpful.