is he in love with me??

i've posted a couple of previous threads about this guy friend of mine, and even on other forums..and of course i've asked my friends about him... and the word that keeps coming up when i talk about this guy and how he has acted and behaved is love :o:O:O.. of course.. no one will ever admits they're in love with you...definitely not a guy..but there are ways of telling i guess... i just want to know because if that is the case and i've been oblivious to it, it's better that i know now so i can act accordingly and not mess him around or anything
ok so i won't go in to everything but just a few things that have happened and what he's said to me etc..that has even made me question what it is he's feeling..


ok so we have been friends with each other for three years now, but i met him five years ago...we lost contact in between for a couple of years...

when we finally got in to contact again..he told me how he felt when he first met me..and how he couldn't take his eyes off me and had some crazy feelings inside which he could not put in to words..and then he said he should never have let me walk away.. (basically we lost contact and he didn't stop that from happening).i'm the one that got away to him..or was at the time..and then how every single day he was wishing for me to be beside him and how his heart broke when i wasn't around..

so the time we have been friends we got in to a few arguments..here and there..and then i stopped talking to him and then he stopped talking to me lol...and everytime that happened..he'll come back to me and then tell me how depressed he was and he couldn't sleep or eat, just thinking about me and him and how we weren't talking

also another big detail..all this time he has been in touch with me he has dated no one... mostly that was because he wanted to sort his life out first and didn't have time for a relationship..and now that he does..
i'm the person he thought of first :O..

he's been asking me to see him now more often.. (we're friends but he said he wants more)for a long time now...

he keeps saying i'm the only one he wants, and how he wants me more than anyone else...he kept telling me how he's got interest from so many other girls/women but he doesn't like any of them, how i'm the sweetest person he's ever met and known

he's even mentioned marriage lots of time..and his plans for marriage..
how he wants to be in a relationship for a little while and then marry the girl..he asked me how i'd want my wedding in the future...and where i'd want to go for a honey moon lol

and he keeps telling me that i should be thinking about these things

we're still friends for now...because i've kept it that way...
but in the time we've been friends he's been saying a lot to me :O

Posted by ninjafish
Wow... You're really obsessed.

Only 'cause he's stopped chasing her finally and he ego is deflated 🙂

Posted by ninjafish
Wow... You're really obsessed.

wow,, your lips are really big
my point is what an unnecessary thing to say

Why are you keeping it just friends? Why not just go out with him? Why aren't you trying a relationship with him? I don't understand all the marriage talk, etc. if you're only friends....

Posted by truecap
Why are you keeping it just friends? Why not just go out with him? Why aren't you trying a relationship with him? I don't understand all the marriage talk, etc. if you're only friends....

as in he's mentioned marriage to me..and how i should think about how i want to get there eventually..he didn't say with him..but in general he said he wants me to think about it..because i clearly seem like i'm forever single lol

i'm keeping it just friends for now because..i want to think about everything a lot more clearly before i get in to anything..and that includes deciphering his feelings first..and also before i get to that stage with anyone i'd like to be able to be completely committed..because as you all can tell i probably don't seem very committed to saying or doing anything

Posted by curious2know
he keeps saying i'm the only one he wants, and how he wants me more than anyone else...he kept telling me how he's got interest from so many other girls/women but he doesn't like any of them, how i'm the sweetest person he's ever met and known

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^


Unless the guy is very immature then the first rule is...............

YOU DO NOT tell somoone how much you want them and they are the only one they want then in the same breath tell them how much interest they have got from so many others yet they don`t like any of them and how you`re the sweetest person he`s ever met..............

THIS IS game playing flattery and you have fallen for it.

How about you tell him how you feel,gauge his response take it from there and see how you feel.

STOP tip toeing around and just ask him.

What`s the worst that can happen?
# 1 you realise he is into you and you can move on to a fulfilling relationship.............


# 2 you realise he`s full of shit and you can still move on to a fulfilling relationship with someone else.......
life is to short to waste that amount of time on someone and not know where you stand with them............

well he is in his early twenties..and seeing as guys take longer to mature..i guess you could say he is immature and playing mind games..
and one piece of evidence to show that is he thinks i do the same to him..when all i'll be doing is telling him something for the sake of telling him..like in a conversation..

for example i told him once about this guy who was following me around..someone who really liked me and i was just telling the main guy what the "follower" was saying to me lol...and he got really angry..he just said " are you trying to **** with my head?"

and i was thinking what is he talking about..but that was the most randomest burst of emotion i'd ever gotten from him whilst telling him about someone else being in to me..


ye i guess i should just be more upfront..but i tend to hold back with expressing myself..he even noticed.. lol
being a capricorn aswell lol he said to me that i hardly show any emotion..funny coming from him

Posted by oldskoolflavor
it doesn't matter whether he's sincere or not

I think she has zero confidence in her ability to be attractive to someone (other than physical attraction) .. she cannot believe him because she has little to zero faith in herself

just my 2 cents

nnnnnnooooooooo of course it's not like that.
i have 100 % faith in myself and that people will like me for much more than just my looks.
it's not that at all...
my point has always been that this guy flat out tells me his feelings all the time..how he wants to proceed and what he wants to do..i believe him until

1. he constantly tries to make me jealous..and how every girl on the planet wants him..and wants to do things with him and how he is so tempted but doesn't want to go there because he doesn't ever like them enough and feels that he would only end up using them

2. how he disappears for months on end after telling me how he feels..and doesn't bother to contact me

Posted by rachelsnow12
Rather then ask us on this forum, you should just ask him yourself. Words are words, I've never been a big believer, I'm all about action.

It takes courage to ask, but I did it, and I'm glad I did. It may not have turned out the way I hoped or wanted, but at least I know :-).

I suppose in my mind, regardless of what someone kept telling me, if they were in love with me and really wanted to be with me, they would stop talking about it and do something about it. I would imagine that they would get tiresome of the talk also, if in fact they really wanted more.

i can;t just ask him lol.. oh by the way " are you in love with me?" lol.. how silly would i look asking him that, i just value my pride quite a lot

why what happened in your situation??


well he has asked me out a few times..as in to go out and chill with him..we just never got round to doing that
maybe i'm not the easiest person to crack lol.. i don;t know.. I always have a huge wall up when it comes to this guy..so maybe he finds it difficult .. he has pretty much said everything other than those three words lol