Questions bout this weird Cappy guy..HELP

I'm interested in this Capricorn guy (January 9th) I kinda knew since we were younger(same neighborhood). We reacquainted through a dating site a couple months ago & he still lives in the same city as me. Since we've been chatting the past few weeks through phone but mostly text, he seems to be pulling back. He leaves conversations through text abruptly without saying he has to go & lately he doesnt really text me as much, I, being a sharp tounged scorp, told him that he's rude & inconsiderate & he responded he doesnt live by his phone all day. So I responded it doesnt take much to say u gotta go, ttyl does it?? Then there are times he says he's going to call & doesnt. I dont have interest in these mind games & are losing interest FAST, & the last episode was we texted briefly only to have him stop abruptly AGAIN & to not hear from him for 2 days up until this evening, the text from him was a smiley emoticon. So I ignored it. I've asked him to meet & talk before cause I'd like to see him in person as a friend & his response was.."when I talk to a woman from a dating site I wait 2 weeks to see her IF I'm interested". I never heard of such ridiculous rules or his routine. And then he says if we do meet it will be in a public place, like I'm some stalker HA! He's crazy, what the hell do I look like stalking anyone?? I've never come off like I'm desperate or needy! Am I wasting my time?? Any input is greatly appreciated =)

I think there's a possibility you are IF you want more than a friendship.

But it can sometimes be a Cap thing to say your going to do something and don't. My friend does it to me, and I do it to others sometimes, so I don't think it's a mind-game. Some of us can be pretty forgetful, but I'm sure that if he was really into it he wouldn't forget. I don't think he's pursuing this with a great deal of interest for a relationship, so I wouldn't put too much stock in him as being more than possible friends.

Thanks for your response, today he texted me, good morning hun I hope you have a wonderful day! I ignored him cause I'm tired of me showing interest & him disengaging, I've also read on other forums that if a Cappy IS interested they come to you & you'll know if they like you...makes pure common sense, if he texts me tomorrow maybe I'll respond politely lol

Posted by ScorpioChica
Thanks for your response, today he texted me, good morning hun I hope you have a wonderful day! I ignored him cause I'm tired of me showing interest & him disengaging, I've also read on other forums that if a Cappy IS interested they come to you & you'll know if they like you...makes pure common sense, if he texts me tomorrow maybe I'll respond politely lol

Sounds like you are doing this right.

People who do "hit and run" text messages clearly don't deserve your energy in the pursuit of a potentially budding relationship.

He should be COURTING you if he wants to be with you, and by COURTING I mean the following:

A.) Calling you in the evenings for about 20 or so minutes

B.) Asking you questions that provide a sense of "here's who I am, tell me your thoughts too."

C.) Spending a few hours with you on Friday or Saturday evenings.

D.) Emails, Facebook, etc...

The point is, he should be pro-actively engaging you in conversation.

Because he is not doing this, you are wise to consider investing your time and energy into someone else.

It's weird cause all caps I know even my boyfriend aren't interested in texting ally hey time and they get busy and by busy I mean.. Busy! Like lost in a train of thought or on the computer out working or with friends.. When I was just friends with my guy he would cut off as well. They key is to just ignore when they do.. Cause when I would ignore the fact he cut off text contact he would text 10times more.. Or if it's a middle of a convo I do the "hello?, ?, or okay you must be busy now.. Nice talking with you have a good day =)". You couldn't imagine how fast the phone call or text came after that.. When caps are in their own world they expect you to understand that first and foremost.. If you trip he will remember that.

Just from an outsider point of view.. It does seem like you pushed him to that point.. It seems a bit of a forceful way of making him interact with you.. If your already complaining to him it paints a picture in his head that he is not the one to make you happy.. It's key to try and understand why he does it when he does it. I'm sure he understands your feeling but from what I know caps like the chiller of extremes.

*all the time

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Posted by ScorpioChica
Thanks for your response, today he texted me, good morning hun I hope you have a wonderful day! I ignored him cause I'm tired of me showing interest & him disengaging, I've also read on other forums that if a Cappy IS interested they come to you & you'll know if they like you...makes pure common sense, if he texts me tomorrow maybe I'll respond politely lol

Sounds like you are doing this right.

People who do "hit and run" text messages clearly don't deserve your energy in the pursuit of a potentially budding relationship.

He should be COURTING you if he wants to be with you, and by COURTING I mean the following:

A.) Calling you in the evenings for about 20 or so minutes

B.) Asking you questions that provide a sense of "here's who I am, tell me your thoughts too."

C.) Spending a few hours with you on Friday or Saturday evenings.

D.) Emails, Facebook, etc...

The point is, he should be pro-actively engaging you in conversation.

Because he is not doing this, you are wise to consider investing your time and energy into someone else.

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Gotta agree with this. Sounds like he's getting his kicks texting chicks off a dating website. He's probably got a dozen of you spinning round and he's having trouble keeping up.

HAHA it does sound like it, way to go!

Caps are actually very busy people. If I'm texting and my boss or kids call, I'm answering the call and will get back to you -- who knows how much later it will be. I always do apologize and explain later, though.

We can also be forgetful and quite easily distracted.

You don't say whether you have actually been on a real date and it appears you are just chatting right now. Seems to me like you're expecting him to act like you're in a real relationship. I don't mean to be blunt, but you're not. Chill out and let him decide he likes you. It takes us a while sometimes to weigh the pros and cons or even to make up our mind if someone's worthy. (I don't mean that in an arrogant way). If you begin dating and he does this, that's a different story.

Caps can also be a little insecure on the inside. Shhhh! Don't tell anyone. May explain the smiley face. He probably knows he's done wrong and figures you are mad and its a shy way to see if you respond or not.

I don't think its head games. We don't intend to play games. But we are complicated and hard to understand.

But then again, he could be talking to several other girls.....some of us are like that, too.

Perhaps your talking to other ppl as well and just dont want him to talk to anyone but you? What are you doing on a dating website anyway?

And another thing....Caps don't like drama. There's a fine line between standing up for yourself and creating drama. If he thinks you are into drama, he probably won't be interested.

And don't push us, because, if we feel pushed, we will respond the opposite just to prove a point. Even if its opposite of what we want to do.

Can't speak for all Caps, but that's how I am.