Taurus Man so Hot and Cold to totally ignoring me

Here it is and I am so hirt and confused :-/ I mey a younger taurus man from work he is 24 and I am 35. We've become close over the last year and 1/2. He always asked me personal questions and gazed at me all the time. Finally we had lunch togetjer last May. After several months of flirting etc. He invited me over in August, then we got very loved intimate. I could tell he enjoyed my company. Them the next day at work he wouldn't look at me or engage in convo. He was like this for about a week he gradually went back to 80% himself to me. Nit entirely like he was before (touching, teasing, flirting etc. He started getting close to me again and in February invited me over again. By this time I really hd deep feelings for him. He started talking about how he really liked me & wished he could of made me his wife along time ago, if I liked being there with him, if I would marry him (several times), told me he wanted wake up everyday next to me etc. I told him yes btw to the marryi g part and said I love you and he said it back. The next day he wasn't to bad at work but gradually over the next 3 weeks hes distanced himdelf to the point where he acts like he doesn't knw me. I gave himspace just engage lightly in conversation. But finally ask? What's up? I get the feeli g you want to juat be friends? Its all good if that is it I can do tgat. He tespondes....No I just have things outaide work that is bothering me... ITS NOT YOU. So let it ho. But he is very different and even kinda rude to me now. Avoids eye contact and limits talking to.me—?I am so huet please help 😢

So do you think he was just taking advantage of me and doesn't really have plans for me in his future? I know he's pretty young :-/

His playing...If a man wants to be with you, then he would, and you wouldnt be having to guess...

Yeah hard to hear that when he strung me along for so long. I figures I wouldn't let it get me down. It's not like I can just ignore him totally. I try acting cordial cause we work together. I do catch him out of the corner of my eye watching when I talk to other people especially guys. He seems to get jealous and sits back at his chair diliberately talking to everyone else but me.

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Posted by jessgoogoo
His playing...If a man wants to be with you, then he would, and you wouldnt be having to guess...

hes just not that into you does not apply to taurus men. Believe me.

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This is so true... well said @Ands

Ummm what does kow tow mean?

I feel like a total idiot thinking he was really into me. Not like I.am not attractive for being older. Don't look my age. But maybe it was an age thing to jim.

To him I mean. I really hate this touch screen.spell check.stuff. lol. Now that I think of it, I always had to initiate calling or texting. Well most of thetime & he confessed this stuff after having so many beers... ugh

He was playing with you. Enjoy it for what it was.... 🙂

Enjoy it? Well thats easier said then done. Would you after someone toyed with your emotions? Didn't think so

How did he toy with your emotions? He's 24. I could see if he was in his 30's or older but, a 24 year old guy is just primarily there for fun. Sure, I know of 20 something men whom were in serious relationships with 30 something women. A couple of them are married with kids. I am sorry that you got hurt during your association with him. But, now you can forward with more wisdom. 🙂

I can see your point. Trust me I won't be dating or giving men under 30 a chance anymore. I mean I dated a guy before him and he was straight up honest that it was all.in goos fun. I understood this and no hurt feelings in the end. I work with one so I am wo dering how I.now deal with it. I know it was stupid in the first place. When I say toy, he shouldn't of ask me things like if I cared for him, enjoyed neing there for him, to marry him. & etc this stuff made me fall into maybe he really liked me thats all

So guys as you know I totally took your advice that he was just about playing me. It took about a hard week of just leaving him be, totally cutting my losses, it was so hard because I really have some feelings for him. He then started coming around slowly but steady. Wednesday confes he couldn't sleepand would if I was next to him.?!! wth—! Come on... He was touching my hair...caressing my hand... This is at work. He later confessed he went to a concert the night before and was still.feeling tipsy... Really?!? He called later to tell me to let him know when I wasn`t busy. So the next afternoon I texted How about Saturday? and he replied I am out of town. So...you guessed it.. The next day he was totally being rude but I could see out of my corner of the eye he was watching me? Ok what do I do? I was totally set for cutting the lossea from your guys advice and then he comes around..Looking at me with an intense stare gaze whatever...like hes in love...then runs away...

Is he juat tying to test me to see if I still feel the same for him? Then come back when hes damn good and ready? I don't get it.. Any tauruses have any advice as to this?

Thank you very much your insight is very helpful. And you're right, at my age I want more then just a casual thing. I would seriously move on just hard as I work with him. Si time to find another job lol

So update.. He admits he's already in a relationship & felt bad everytime we were together & that our age is off. Kinda sucks cause he played like he was single and looking for over a year. I guess I.really got my answer to why he was so hot &cold. But I always thought taurus men weren't the easiest type to wander or cheat? I guesd astrology isn't always entirely true..... 😢 & can't base your entire views on that.

Posted by mamacita351
Yeah hard to hear that when he strung me along for so long. I figures I wouldn't let it get me down. It's not like I can just ignore him totally. I try acting cordial cause we work together. I do catch him out of the corner of my eye watching when I talk to other people especially guys. He seems to get jealous and sits back at his chair diliberately talking to everyone else but me.

OH STOP! lol...you strung yourself along. Why are you blaming the man for mutually going to his home and having sex?
Did you go on dates for 3-4 months before jumping in bed?
Did he ask you to be his girlfriend before you had sex?
Did he tell you that you both will be exclusive before you had sex?

Take respsonsibility for your choices, and leave the guy alone. It's clear he just wanted to get laid twice. What is it with women who feel if they jump into bed with a guy at the drop of a hat, they are ENTITLED to respect and ahem..some sort of relationship outside of sex?

...and trust me, he's not jealous lol

Posted by mamacita351
So update.. He admits he's already in a relationship & felt bad everytime we were together & that our age is off. Kinda sucks cause he played like he was single and looking for over a year. I guess I.really got my answer to why he was so hot &cold. But I always thought taurus men weren't the easiest type to wander or cheat? I guesd astrology isn't always entirely true..... 😢 & can't base your entire views on that.

So is it all his fault because you didn't take the time to see what this guy was about?
Maybe the next guy that strolls your way, you may take the time to personally get to know? Don't blame him for the way you feel, think about why you were so eager to jump into the unknown.

I didn't realize this thread was from March until my first post posted and saw your update. 😢

Regardless, keep this in mind... If he suddenly tells you he is single, what he did to his woman he'll do to you.
Get to KNOW a man before you give your all to him. If not..well, you know.

I was gonna say geessh. LoL this was harsh but it is true. Maybe I was alittle naive and stupid. In the end I have learned a valuable lesson.