4 Revealing Questions to Ask on the First Date

Supposedly these four questions will tell you the most about someone and are good to ask on the first date. complements of elitedaily.com
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4 Revealing Questions You Should Actually Ask On The First Date

First dates are always a little bit uncomfortable because you're meeting someone new for the first time. Even if it's not the first time you've bumped into each other, it most likely is the first time you're actually going to get to know each other.

The question is, how do you get to know her? People are almost always on the defensive on first dates; they aren't super willing to open up to you because they don't trust you yet, which makes asking some of the more personal questions difficult.

You could ask her if you really want to know the answer, but you aren't sure if it's actually okay to.

Thankfully, there’s a way to get to know someone on a deep level without forcefully doing so. You just need to know what questions to ask.

Here's a list of four questions you should ask on your next first date (or on any date, for that matter).

1. What five things are most important to you in this world?

In the grand scheme of the universe, our existence is barely a blink of an eye. But thankfully, we aren't trying to create stars and galaxies — we're just trying to understand how it all works and fits together.

In your lifetime, you're only going to have enough time to truly pursue and maintain about a handful of passions. And if you want to get to know someone quickly, you're going to want to first ask what those passions are.

What does he or she feel is most important in life? Is it friends and family? Is it his or her career? Sports? The Kardashians?

If you want to get to know someone, you want to know what he or she spends the most time thinking about, what he or she believes is more important than everything else.

Your list doesn't need to mirror his or hers, but there should be a few common instances. Most importantly, if you find his or her list to be ridiculous, you know you two aren't compatible.

2. Are you mainly driven by logic or emotion?

Thoughts are what make humans, human. What we spend the most time thinking about makes us the individuals we are.

But it's not just what we think about that matters, but also how we think about what we think about. In fact, I'd go so far as to argue that the “how” matters more than the “what.”

The first driving force behind our thoughts and actions are our emotions. Our emotions are pure instinct; we developed them before we became human beings.

Of course, as our brains developed and our reasoning became more complex, the emotions themselves became more complex.

Now, there are still individuals who are mainly driven by their emotions, by instinct or with little reasoning, and those who are mainly driven by logic.

If you're a very logical person, being with someone who is p

3. True or false: All is fair in love and war?

This is an easy way to find out how romantic your date is. I like this question because, depending on the person, you will either get a brief response or you will start a long conversation/debate, which will help you get to know that person better, and quickly.

Essentially, this question asks, if the stakes are high enough, does this person believe he or she should do anything he or she can do to accomplish a goal? Does this person believe all ends justify all means?

Are there limits to what is morally acceptable and what isn't? Do this person’s morals even come into play at all when there is a high likelihood that the morals of the other individuals involved don't line up with his or hers?

Again, what that person believes and whether or not it lines up with your own beliefs isn't what matters; what matters is you get to know him or her on a deeper level. And this question will certainly help with that.

4. What do you read?

If he or she answers, “I don't,” I suggest you pay the tab and get out of there right away.

Kidding. Sort of.

What people read, how often they read, where they get their news from, how they stay up to date on all that's going on in the world — all of this is very important to know when getting to know someone.

Some people don't care about what's going on across the world. Some are more interested in what body part Justin Bieber had tattooed this week than they are in the possibility of another Cold War. Whether or not that works for you is up to you.

What's important is you get to know what's important to other people, how important it is to them, how they entertain themselves and how intelligent they are.

Plus, if you happen to have read some of the same books, papers, essays or news stories, segueing the conversation into a different direction will be a piece of cake.

I'm sorry. #2 got cut off. Here's the rest:

If you're a very logical person, being with someone who is purely driven by emotion may not work. This is not to say he or she can't learn to be more logical, but whether or not you're willing to take that chance is up to you.

Either way, it's good to know how someone thinks before you get in bed with him or her.

I can see asking #1 and #4 for general get to know you conversation. #3 & #4 not so much. I guess #3 could be presented as a joke-type question, asked with a twinkle in the eye. #2 you could answer yourself if you can get the birthday, lol!

Posted by BG2
That's pretty interesting.
I don't know if I'd ask them on the first date. Unless we both have time to talk for hours and hours.

All of these questions will undoubtedly lead to follow-up questions and more questions.
We'd never be able to answer them all in one night.

But it's definitely a good way to get a read on a person.

Of course, I'd have to be honest about what I'm doing by asking these questions and why.

I think you could present them in a way where you wouldn't have to be so up front about the intent - I think exposing the intent might be a little too much.

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Posted by truecap

Posted by BG2
That's pretty interesting.
I don't know if I'd ask them on the first date. Unless we both have time to talk for hours and hours.

All of these questions will undoubtedly lead to follow-up questions and more questions.
We'd never be able to answer them all in one night.

But it's definitely a good way to get a read on a person.

Of course, I'd have to be honest about what I'm doing by asking these questions and why.

I think you could present them in a way where you wouldn't have to be so up front about the intent - I think exposing the intent might be a little too much.

I get where you're coming from. But I'd feel a little disingenuous if I weren't upfront. At the same time, I wouldn't want to be pushy, just be honest in that I want to get to know him a little more.

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Oh, gotcha.

Posted by aquanib
Spanish inquisition rolled into town! lmao

first question is basically five questions, or at least demands the amount of talking that would answer five questions and is basically a trap where women will be looking at your face, hunting for microexpressions which would give off any lies/misrepresentations/exaggerations!
#3 if in the heat of the moment-results could be different than the answer given at a nice dinner.

Can relate to #4, was on a date once, she kinda made it known "learning isn't her thing" implying she will work at daddy's company forever
Later on, she was asked to read a seven page summary of something she had asked about in relation to my work and she couldn't do it "I can't keep focus for that long" were the words iirc...

Did you keep dating her?

I prefer to discover these at my own pace instead of all at once like a bizarre social job interview. :/

Oh nice questions. Imma use them!

Not the questions I ask tbh. After the first 2 then I'll decide to continue then I can ask the above some other time. Got to get straight to the max point.