Posted by nanobyte
It's a turn off for me that a guy would ask me on a date without having money to pay for it. Then he puts me in a really awkward situation. I don't like that at all.

It's sweet that he wanted to pay, sure. But maybe he shouldn't be taking women out to restaurants if he can't afford it, and if it's in his moral code to pay. It's not working.

Broke men who can't afford the things that THEY themselves initiate, turn me off. Bad social skills turn me off. Gemini sun/Cap moon. It is what it is πŸ€·πŸΌβ€β™€οΈ

He should have just suggested another date to save himself from this sort of situation.


I'm an Aries sun/Pisces moon and I approve this message.
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You go on a date & the guy lets you order your food first, as you observe him you realize he orders but doesn't order much food and only gets water you realize he only had enough cash to feed you and he used the rest of his cash for what ever he could afford for himself...

"Sweet or Lame"

Honestly.. What are you thinking ?!!


I'd be so mad that he didn't just tell me so that I could order something he'd also like and we could share! Eating alone is awkward and no fun! 😑 WTH are you doing going out to a restaurant date if you're THAT broke! Poor decision-making skills
I like all of my Sea-Goat's music. My Sea-Goat likes only about a third of mine. The compromise? I listen to my music on my headphones, and he listens to his on the car speaker as he drives.
No, it's much too reductive.

There are way too many variables involved.
Anyone know anything about Spock and Sulu?
But you knew he wasn't into you from the start.
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I knew I would get Dr. Spock.



I used this test on my Sea-Goat. He's Spock and I'm Sulu.
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*yawns*


What are you like when pursuing someone or in a relationship??

I don't pursue someone I hardly know. treetrunk that!



So how long should you know someone to start pursuing?

'Pursuing', to me, equates to pushing for a desired result. I don't do that - I prefer both parties to make it happen, even if that entails a larger proportion of the effort coming from me.

In the past, I've 'pursued' the odd woman, based on nothing more than lust-ridden blind faith, only to later discover what a treetrunked-up and deplorable person they were. Never again!

Any woman expecting me to 'pursue' them can treetrunk off, as far as I'm concerned. During my periods of singledom, my porn stash will provide far more satisfaction...


Key word equal

Pretty smug coming from a woman...


Don't assume all women are the same "man"

I don't assume, I know - especially when it comes to changing the goalposts whenever it suits.

Besides, I think we've been down this road before, so let's just agree to disagree.


But we haven't been down this road I want to see what it looks like. Are their flowers? Is there pond we can catch tadpoles in ? Lol. It but seriously I am sure you will find someone who will want the same thing that you want one day don't give up 😌
One day, I will send you a detailed map...

Ah, well, good luck with the dude. As long as we're living and breathing, there's always hope.

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Dude! You can be such the flirt! If you don't have a girl by now, you are destined for bigger things! Put yoself out there.
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JUMP HIS BONES! JUMP HIS BONES! JUMP HIS BONES!

And then cookiemonster about how he ghosted you, a few months later...
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NO! None of that!
JUMP HIS BONES! JUMP HIS BONES! JUMP HIS BONES!
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i want to disobey to mom but i can't


My Sea-Goat loves his mother. She raised him as a single mother (although his dad is on good terms with him.) She has sacrificed so much for him that he does anything he can to help her when she needs it. She's really great. Their relationship is adorable. For example, she may call him "a little sh it" when reminiscing on his childhood and he calls her out on certain things (like if she mispronunces anything.)

I love it.
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THIS^^^

My Sea-Goat finds a woman attractive and then is instantly turned off when he finds out she has a lousy or unappealing personality.

For example: We were both at a Multicultural event on campus and they had a fashion show depicting traditional clothing from around the world. There was this gorgeous African girl from the Cameroon and he and I agreed she was beautiful. She ended up sitting at our table, and I told her she was beautiful and did a great job. The tables were grouped and the idea was to have cultural interactions with people.

I later got up to go to the restroom, and my boyfriend said her body language changed from the entire time we were there sitting together. She began speaking her native language to her friends (which left my Sea-Goat out) and she talked about how attractive she was. I was part of a dance performance on stage where my dance group had learned an Indian (Bangala) dance routine, a hip hop dance routine, and Latin dance style s. We invited the crowd to dance along, and my Sea-Goat said she kept rolling her eyes and acting as though she was too good to dance. In other words - he no longer was attracted to her because she just wasn't fun.

As we walked to a nearby cafe later in the day, he told me all about his change of heart. "She was really sexy, though." I said. "So, you prefer my dorky over her sexy?"

"Everyday. All day."
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I saw another thread that was asking about why Caps kind of panic after a fight and the ensuing silence at the 3-4 week mark. Then he comes back.
News to me...

*shrugs*
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Welp! My answer is even less relevant because I didn't even realize they mean "where does he go after a fight between us?"

Harrumph! When will I learn to assume the worst with these threads?
Just casually ask, "Avoided getting arrested, I hope?" Or something like that... or nothing like that

It sounds like the perfect chance to discuss plans for what to do when you see each other.
My Sea-Goat is either writing, painting, working on his garden, doing music, creating figure models, sewing, working, or binge watching his favorite shows.

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I am just curious to know, would a couple in which one drinks and one doesn't, encounter any problems during the coarse of their relationship?

does anyone happen to have any experiences of being in this kind of relationship? if so, how did it turn out?


I don't drink at all.
My Capricorn drinks socially on special occasions. The only time I saw him drink to the point of looking like he had something to drink was during his bestie Pisces birthday. Otherwise, he is very controlled and only has a couple of glasses or some beer.

He has those classic "that time I got drunk" stories of his past, and I only have a "that time I tried alcohol for the first time and felt tipsy" story.

During special occasions, everyone else is drinking besides me, so there is that feeling of pain of being left out, and it's so palpable to me. For example, during Christmas, all were toasting and pouring each other drinks and I actually felt really sad about not being included because no one thought to pour me anything.

I brought it up to my Sea-Goat later and he apologized and said he'd keep that in mind. Our simple solution? We bring sparkling cider to occasions and he makes sure I get a wine glass with my non-alcoholic drink in it so that I can join in toasts and clink my glass, too. ☺️ We never have any left over because other people want to drink my cider. Drinking alcohol, like eating animal products, is a powerful element to interacting with others. To not engage in either is really to stand on your own. My Sea-Goat isn't quite on my level regarding animal-based products (he is a pescetarian), but since he knows exactly where I am coming from, and he supports my decision 100% , he is able to chime in and give input when people question me so that I don't feel alone. The same with drinking. He will declare that I don't drink like it's not a big deal and he makes sure I have my special drink and, if we go someplace where there is an open bar, he will order for me - asking for non-alcoholic versions of things.

Had I not communicated how much it bothered me to be left out, I am sure it would have grown to be a problem. So my advice is - talk about your feelings (if it's not you, then the person should talk about his or her feelings.) The Better Half will do what they can to make you feel loved because one who loves you never wants you to feel abandoned or left out.

Haha, I have never quite felt "left out" before as an adult than that moment when everyone was pouring each other a drink and I had nothing. The twist? My Sea-Goat's family owns a brewery!


was a delight to hear your story thanks so much for that answer. hope everything keeps going well with you and your Sea-Goat

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Posted by confusedaries7513
I am just curious to know, would a couple in which one drinks and one doesn't, encounter any problems during the coarse of their relationship?

does anyone happen to have any experiences of being in this kind of relationship? if so, how did it turn out?


I don't drink at all.
My Capricorn drinks socially on special occasions. The only time I saw him drink to the point of looking like he had something to drink was during his bestie Pisces birthday. Otherwise, he is very controlled and only has a couple of glasses or some beer.

He has those classic "that time I got drunk" stories of his past, and I only have a "that time I tried alcohol for the first time and felt tipsy" story.

During special occasions, everyone else is drinking besides me, so there is that feeling of pain of being left out, and it's so palpable to me. For example, during Christmas, all were toasting and pouring each other drinks and I actually felt really sad about not being included because no one thought to pour me anything.

I brought it up to my Sea-Goat later and he apologized and said he'd keep that in mind. Our simple solution? We bring sparkling cider to occasions and he makes sure I get a wine glass with my non-alcoholic drink in it so that I can join in toasts and clink my glass, too. ☺️ We never have any left over because other people want to drink my cider. Drinking alcohol, like eating animal products, is a powerful element to interacting with others. To not engage in either is really to stand on your own. My Sea-Goat isn't quite on my level regarding animal-based products (he is a pescetarian), but since he knows exactly where I am coming from, and he supports my decision 100% , he is able to chime in and give input when people question me so that I don't feel alone. The same with drinking. He will declare that I don't drink like it's not a big deal and he makes sure I have my special drink and, if we go someplace where there is an open bar, he will order for me - asking for non-alcoholic versions of things.

Had I not communicated how much it bothered me to be left out, I am sure it would have grown to be a problem. So my advice is - talk about your feelings (if it's not you, then the person should talk about his or her feelings.) The Better Half will do what they can to make you feel loved because one who loves you never wants you to feel abandoned or left out.

Haha, I have never quite felt "left out" before as an adult than that moment when everyone was pouring each other a drink and I had nothing. The twist? My Sea-Goat's family owns a brewery!
Is she threatening you in any way?
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I cleanse my spirit about three or four times a day, give or take


You cleanse your spirit poop hole three to four times a day?

Damn were more twinsies than I thought πŸ‘―
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