krysrenee7
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All time RED flags!
6. All people have the ability to change & some eventually do BUT if a man is swearing he'll never cheat or do certain things again like he did in the past BUT YET still finding small ways to justify why he did those things, RUN! That's a clear indication that he hasn't FULLY accepted responsibility or acknowledged his actions & we ALL know that a person can't change what they don't acknowledge. It's NOT true when they say, "Once a cheater, always a cheater," BUT it's ALWAYS true when someone who cheated once & didn't learn their lesson the 1st or 2nd time to continue on engaging in those kinds of behaviors!
7. NO he doesn't want you around 24-7 b/c he loves you THAT much! NO he doesn't monitor your phone calls or who you're hanging with b/c he cares THAT much. NO he doesn't disrespect you & call you names in arguments b/c it's YOUR fault that you made him so mad. NO NO & NO! He's CONTROLLING! He's probably an emotional/physical abuser. Sometimes it's NOT worth staying around to find out, especially since most men like this don't usually show the extent of the potential abuse up front. Don't wait until he's FINALLY hitting you in your face or telling you where you can/can't go! The min. he even TRIES to start putting a leash on you, either RUN like hell OR address the issues & be willing to stay ONLY if things change & STAY changed over a long period of time!
8. If he just got out of a long relationship (keyword: JUST GOT OUT) & claims that he's over his ex BUT YET continues to hang with & talk to his ex on a regular basis, it's b/c he is NOT over his ex. Him telling you he's over her may not even be him trying to deceive you or have his cake & eat it too. Many people themselves falsely convince themselves that they are over someone when they really aren't. Don't base whether or not he's over her by what he SAYS. His ACTIONS will paint a better picture of the truth.
OmyLord, I can keep going on & on! Point is, women so often ignore their intuitions. Granted, some women confuse insecurity with intuition, BUT the majority of us DON'T. That's why almost EVERY living human being has something called a "regret list" OR has atleast been able to look back & say, "What the hell was I thinking?" If the ONLY way your relationship with someone can be peaceful is if you have to ignore your intuition/COMMON SENSE, then he is NOT right for you!
7. NO he doesn't want you around 24-7 b/c he loves you THAT much! NO he doesn't monitor your phone calls or who you're hanging with b/c he cares THAT much. NO he doesn't disrespect you & call you names in arguments b/c it's YOUR fault that you made him so mad. NO NO & NO! He's CONTROLLING! He's probably an emotional/physical abuser. Sometimes it's NOT worth staying around to find out, especially since most men like this don't usually show the extent of the potential abuse up front. Don't wait until he's FINALLY hitting you in your face or telling you where you can/can't go! The min. he even TRIES to start putting a leash on you, either RUN like hell OR address the issues & be willing to stay ONLY if things change & STAY changed over a long period of time!
8. If he just got out of a long relationship (keyword: JUST GOT OUT) & claims that he's over his ex BUT YET continues to hang with & talk to his ex on a regular basis, it's b/c he is NOT over his ex. Him telling you he's over her may not even be him trying to deceive you or have his cake & eat it too. Many people themselves falsely convince themselves that they are over someone when they really aren't. Don't base whether or not he's over her by what he SAYS. His ACTIONS will paint a better picture of the truth.
OmyLord, I can keep going on & on! Point is, women so often ignore their intuitions. Granted, some women confuse insecurity with intuition, BUT the majority of us DON'T. That's why almost EVERY living human being has something called a "regret list" OR has atleast been able to look back & say, "What the hell was I thinking?" If the ONLY way your relationship with someone can be peaceful is if you have to ignore your intuition/COMMON SENSE, then he is NOT right for you!
Posted by krysrenee7
5. Yeah yeah yeah, he-said-she-said is not always true, BUT if the people CLOSE to him are warning you about him, LISTEN! No, his MOTHER isn't a hater. NO his best friend doesn't want you to himself. No his ex girlfriend isn't always saying bad things about him b/c she wants him back.
This one is so true!! People will NOT listen to good avice when it comes to their partner. Ok one comment can just be someones opinion but if every single person thats close to the person is saying bad things then alarm bells should be ringing! If I had a pound for evrytime I've been told "im just jealous" I would be very very rich! Then they come crying saying "but they were so great at the start" NO THEY WERNT!!!
They say love is blind, but it quite obviously is deaf too!
9. Be wary of the person who seems to have alot of enemies. Be especially leary of those who come off like they have absolutely NO idea why so many people dislike them. NO, everybody is NOT hating on them! NO, no one is jealous of them! If 50,000 people are ALL saying the same things about a person, good OR bad, there's a chance that MOST of them, if not all, are RIGHT. Of course the person whose not ready to face the truth will deny what's being said about them. Isn't denial the 1 thing all liars/cheaters/schemers have in common?!! If it's a pattern in someone's life that they can't keep friends or tend to run all of them away, there's probably a GOOD & REAL reason why! No, those 50,000 people weren't seeing things or didn't decide to pick a name out of a phone book to make that person's life miserable. If YOU BELIEVE WHAT YOU SAW WHEN THINGS WERE GOOD, BELIEVE WHAT YOU SAW/WHAT YOU'RE SEEING WHEN THINGS ARE BAD!
You guys are welcome to include your OWN lists of "Classic signs/red flags" too =)
He/she constantly accuses you of cheating.
Posted by Amandus
He/she constantly accuses you of cheating.
OMG YES! I was told a long time ago that you can always tell what someone is doing behind your back by what they accuse you of doing. Some people constantly accuse others b/c they are insecure, while others sub-consciously tell on themselves by accusing others of the very thing they're doing.
10. If you're finding out that all of the women he claimed were "JUST FRIENDS" or "family members" were all actually ex girlfriends and/or girls they've hooked up alot, RUN! A man who can't be honest about who someone is to him won't be honest to others about you to others! If a man can't even be honest about who he calls a "friend" then it's probably b/c he doesn't know the difference. And NOT knowing the difference is a BAD thing & a red flag that he doesn't understand/follow boundaries.
11. Granted, some men have lots of platonic friendships with the opposite sex, BUT if your man has 50 female friends, but yet only has 1 male friend, he's probably gay OR is the biggest slxt in the world! Men love women, BUT they also see it important to have male friends around that understand him & whom he can relate to. If all of his so-called "friends" who are females just so conveinantly happen to be his "type," (physically & emotionally), it's probably b/c he's had sex with them and/or is still keeping them around as plan B.
12. If you've been dating him for awhile & have been "playing house" OR acting like you were in a relationship, BUT YET he starts to hesistate & make excuses when it's finally time to discuss REAL commitment & the "title," RUN! If a man can get all he wanted out of you/from you WITHOUT the commitment, he'd be an idiot to invest any more energy into you all for the sake of making you happy, when hell he was ALREADY getting his needs met. That's the same as paying rent in a house you DON'T live in or plan on living in. Most people wouldn't & I don't blaim them.
13. If he only calls you during the day, but yet can only text you at night, he's probably already taken & can't talk to you b/c his REAL girlfriend/wife is next to him at home. If a man can't talk to you at night while he's at home (his sanctuary/temple), it's probably b/c he'd be an idiot to do so while his girlfriend/wife is laying right next to him. Be leary of the men who have to resort only to texting you at night or not responding to you at all at certain times. Granted, some men work during the night, BUT I'm not talking about the men who work 3rd shift. You know EXACTLY what I'm saying & what I mean.
11. Granted, some men have lots of platonic friendships with the opposite sex, BUT if your man has 50 female friends, but yet only has 1 male friend, he's probably gay OR is the biggest slxt in the world! Men love women, BUT they also see it important to have male friends around that understand him & whom he can relate to. If all of his so-called "friends" who are females just so conveinantly happen to be his "type," (physically & emotionally), it's probably b/c he's had sex with them and/or is still keeping them around as plan B.
12. If you've been dating him for awhile & have been "playing house" OR acting like you were in a relationship, BUT YET he starts to hesistate & make excuses when it's finally time to discuss REAL commitment & the "title," RUN! If a man can get all he wanted out of you/from you WITHOUT the commitment, he'd be an idiot to invest any more energy into you all for the sake of making you happy, when hell he was ALREADY getting his needs met. That's the same as paying rent in a house you DON'T live in or plan on living in. Most people wouldn't & I don't blaim them.
13. If he only calls you during the day, but yet can only text you at night, he's probably already taken & can't talk to you b/c his REAL girlfriend/wife is next to him at home. If a man can't talk to you at night while he's at home (his sanctuary/temple), it's probably b/c he'd be an idiot to do so while his girlfriend/wife is laying right next to him. Be leary of the men who have to resort only to texting you at night or not responding to you at all at certain times. Granted, some men work during the night, BUT I'm not talking about the men who work 3rd shift. You know EXACTLY what I'm saying & what I mean.
Posted by QLIbraMale
how about if he/she doesn't like kissing? or if he/she is always too tired to hang out, but before sex everything was awesome? or if he starts wearing your panties and bra's ladies. lol for the life of me i'll never understand this.
On the kissing tip...Someone not liking to kiss isn't an indication that something is wrong with them. However, if they love kissing everyone BUT you, that might be a red flag/sign that something is terribly wrong.
On the sex tip...If a person only makes themself available to you when it's time to have sex, it's b/c sex is about the ONLY thing they want you for. Isn't it amazing how someone conveinantly has bouts of energy right before sex?! And if they had sex with you for the 1st time, but then all of the sudden started coming up with excuses not to hang with you, it's probably b/c the sex wasn't good
And whoa! If he's wearing my thong, HOUSTON WE'VE GOT A PROBLEM!
Posted by QLIbraMale
how about if he/she doesn't like kissing? or if he/she is always too tired to hang out, but before sex everything was awesome? or if he starts wearing your panties and bra's ladies. lol for the life of me i'll never understand this.
LOL! my ex never touched my bra's but he was obsessed with my panties! only in private though....i think/hope!
good red flags! run like the wind on a stormy day when you see these signs happening in your life!
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LADIES...
1. If he's TELLING you OR hinting to you that he's a commitment phobe, he IS telling you the truth! When a man SHOWS you who he is, believe him the FIRST time! Trying to make a commitment-phobic man commit BEFORE HE's ready is the same as trying to teach algebra to a 2 year old!
2. Those who have nothing to hide, hide NOTHING. If he's taking late night phone calls & acting secretive/defensive about it, he's probably hiding something. Wanting privacy & respect is 1 thing, but no one acts nervous & like they're hiding something UNLESS they really ARE nervous/hiding something. It doesn't necessarily mean that he's cheating, BUT if he's ACTING like he's hiding something, it's b/c HE IS. No, you're NOT imagining things.
3. If a man already has children & doesn't take care of them, please do NOT assume/believe that you will be any different! Yes, some "baby mamas" are dead wrong & do everything they can to keep the good fathers away from their children, BUT most of the time a father is void in his child's life, it's b/c the father made the CHOICE to be absent. You can't be a man or a father FOR him. And the only person who probably can is the actual woman he knocked up.
4. If he swears that YOU'RE the only person he doesn't lie to, cheat on or disrespect, that's BULLish! Not only should you want a man who cherishes you, BUT you should ALSO want a man who knows how to cherish the OTHER people in his life too (his family, his friends, himself, etc.) Especially watch out for those men who actually have the NERVE to JUSTIFY why they lie to/betray others. Trust me, you're being lied to & betrayed too, you just don't have proof yet OR he's putting in extra over-time to try to hide it from you.
5. Yeah yeah yeah, he-said-she-said is not always true, BUT if the people CLOSE to him are warning you about him, LISTEN! No, his MOTHER isn't a hater. NO his best friend doesn't want you to himself. No his ex girlfriend isn't always saying bad things about him b/c she wants him back.