confused

I have been around this libra man for about a year socially- we started talking and flirting-he confuses me- he always nice but recently I called him to the table on his flirting- he phoned me the next morning and we met up later in the week- and lord how he seduced me-I thought about it all the next day. He found out I was going to a club to hang out and he was there. I got alittle drunk- had a good time- and several people said- you know he was watching you. Now he knew I would be there. We were not there together. We both have mates (not each other) I had no intention of sleeping with this guy but too late. I have been reading about the libra man which is a scary thing. I got up this morning and thought about how in the world am I going to get this guy out from under my skin. He makes me think that he was jealous a couple of comments he made last night but he told me another day that he is not a jealous man. What the heck should I be expecting? Are they usually one night standers? I found out that he has cheated many times on that mate and he is a flirt. Is this a sign of the libra man?
I am not a whore, I was under the idea that he and his wife had an open marriage but I have been around her and I don't think so now. What have I gotten myself in for?

ok sooo...... I really hopes this helps you🙂


first I'm also a libra and he doesn't seem like a true libra to me. libras are loyal and they are almost never one night standers, most libras want something more then that, and something thatis true. as for the sleeping with him..... obviously he's intrested in you and same goes for you witch means, you both are unsatified with your mates who are lacking some where in the relationship. my advice.... you both should take some time away from your mates because unfotunatly they aren't cuting it for you. you and Mr.right feel something for eachother and I think it should be explored, but not on the right terms, not behind your mates back..... one last thought is do you really want to be with someone who would cheat on someone? because if he would do it to his wife he would do it to you........


weell..... good luck and I hope this gives you some insite to make good chouices🙂

-bri

thanks for the comments- I know that this is a no win thing for anyone- I guess I just need some advice and a listener because I dont want anyone to know
I am scared- he has phoned me and if I call him he calls right back- his phone numbers are monitored so I know she does not trust him-(not that she should) but he says he'll take care of it. I can not tell if he is unhappy or if he just stays for the kids because he has left before. He is very personal with me. He offered to wait to do anything if that is what I wanted but I wonder is that what guys say (like players) when they are smoothing things on with you. I am usually a good judge of what peoples intentions are but he confuses me. Maybe he is confused. I agree that I should go my on way for awhile but I dont want to hurt anyone. Maybe I am infatuated- and that could cost me everything I have. When he says think about me everytime I talk to him. I asked him if he thought of me and he said "yesterday, today, tomorrow" I know he thinks of me too. I know guys think different than girls but my thoughts are crazy with him. Is this guy that good?

Hello Sag

I am sympathetic to what you are saying, I don't know much about astrology, but you must know this has nothing to do with 'libra behaviour' or any other star sign for that matter.

Where do you want to go with this, and what are your hopes? Do you think it marries up with what he wants? The fact that you're already confused about him and his intentions is going to lead to a whole lot of emotional clutter and drama, that neither of you seem to be in a position to deal with, since you both are with other people.

There is no such thing as open marriages, it is a contridiction in terms, perhaps some can have relationships which aren't exclusive, but not marriages.

Infatuation, lust, passion are all immensely powerful emotions which can sometimes blind you to the reality of the sitaution. A situation which in all cases will lead to some-one getting very hurt.

Perhaps this isn't what you wanted to hear, but I wish you well in seeking the clarity that you need.

humm.... is he a good guy? well it depends..... I think staying in a marriage for the kids is a big comitment and sacrafice, so if that's the case yes he is a good guy, but still just because he's unhappy with his wife isn't an excuse to cheat on her...... play it casual don't go any farther then you have because you have to keep in mind, he is married, and it's one thing if he and his wife have some kind of understanding that there marrige is "open"because their only married because of the kids, but even so if that's the case do you really want to be in a relationship that can only go so far?
-bri

I have just come out of a r/ship with a Libra (its not the same scenario as above but he is a damaged one who just cannot/won't commit to anybody and I have put in 10 months to realise Im just wasting my own time even though I have immense feelings for him), but perhaps you should put your story up on the Libra board? The not being happy part? like mine is/was, they are always searcing for "the one". Like I said, I spent 10 months trying to understand, but all through that time, he would be scouring the singles sites online and shock/horror, meeting others (not often but it did happen) because of curiosity.....this is not good for the one who has feelings so I had to end it....I finally realised that Im not "the one" but basically a fill in for when it is the right time for him.

All I can suggest is be true to yourself...Librans are NATURAL charmers and say exactly what you want to hear....they have PERFECT timing too, and can play people like a fiddle. Im sure they dont mean to hurt others but many times they do end up doing so.

Oh and don't fall for a married man....its bound to end in disaster for YOU.

wow- I appreciate all the comments. It is sad that we do what we are going to do anyway. I spent this past week trying to put into my head that this is temporary and no good will come of it. I keep telling myself that he is only in it for the ride so I can talk myself into remembering my morals and how they are out the door at this time. This part makes me feel so sick inside. Then the other part is that he calls me and seems to tell me how I am on his mind. Then I start thinking-if he wants to use me-then I will do him-then tell him ok- we're done-move on now.
(lol) although I am a big girl and will move on. I am tired of trying to reason this out in my head. I can not even believe he is in my head. I dont think I want him to leave his family. I think maybe I am just going thru something of my own. I am scared that he will get the best of me. (because I am not expecting it) I know its hard to understand. I enjoy being around him alot and I know the same is true for him. He told me that he wants to be with me and just gives caution to the wind. When I think about how guys do- he could just stop calling or coming around and yes, that would be it. Even if he is sincere with me, I guess I jusst dont believe it. The feelings I have are weird, I like him alot and when I go to thinking he acts like most guys- then he turns it on. It took me a couple of days to read these comments because I was trying to leave it alone so that maybe I would not think about it. I do appreciate the advice and will keep reading any comments you may have until I finally work my way thru this.

well still confused alittle-I guess I need to wait this out so I can get over it- I am thinking about leaving my husband of 20 yrs. I feel so guilty- because he deserves better than I am. I have tried to tell him that we are just missing something here. He just dont understand what I am saying. I am not sure I could save my marriage. I feel like there is something wrong with me- I am so out of my character. I think all the time about this other man. He thinks of me too but I realized today that I am having a hard time letting go. I dont want to and he is not asking me to. Of course- he says, whatever I want he will be ok with. Its kind like everything is always up to me. I wish I could just talk to him and not bring any emotions into it. I am wondering- do I really like him or am I just in it because I am bored. He fascinates me and I like being around him. I know he feels the same about me. Its just we cant be together. Why is it- that we have just been together a couple of times and I feel like hell inside?

"Though, you sound like you're ready to ditch your marriage anyway, so there's no need to feel guilty about anything, you don't owe anything to the libra's wife, and your husband, you've already consciously decided to betray, you can either stay in boredom w/ him, and punish yourself w/ the guilt you already feel, leave him and decide to live the life that's best for you, or adopt the libra's secret strategy, and continue an affair w/this man, make him your haven for happiness, ignore all others, but still keep your marriage"

Glad she's not LIbran....choices, choices...not a good recipe LOL

Ummmm we all know how this ends...if he's not going to leave his wife?? you'd only be strung along for months, even years in the hope one day he'll "realise" you're "the one". Ultimately though, even if he were to "realise", if he can cheat on his wife, he could do exactly that to you in the future....think about it. Is it worth the emotional rollercoaster you'd be setting yourself up for knowingly?

been thinking about these comments- maybe I am infatuated- I wish I could do like guys do- you know- just have sex with you and say ok we're done and move on. I could get over this guy. It would take alittle time but yes I could- I am a big girl and I do not need a man to take care of me. I do feel guilty because my husband is to die for. I have told him about my boredom (only) and he is there for me. Maybe I need alittle chase toward him. I been thinking about the few things I enjoy about this other guy and they are the very things that me and my husband use to do. Right now, I wish that I could be the one to break this cheater guys heart. Ya know, the way it always happens to us. I think he is only interested in the sex. I told him from the beginning that yes I like him but I am not interested in having anymore kids and that I would never ask him to leave his wife. He said a couple of times later- lets dont say the "L" word- my reply was-
why would I- I dont feel that I am inlove with you- I just like you. I am confused though because I am trying to figure out why he says those things to me. He said he felt guilty because he cant give me a piece of his heart. I never said anything about that to him. My comment to that was- ok I will enjoy what I have but hope to fill a space in his soul. Well, I did decide to make out with him again. I did not talk to him for a couple of days after that which he thought I was calling to end it. In that conversation- he said that I had impressed him as he had never been touched the way I touched him. (which I do believe is true if nothing else is) what I want to know is why does he watch me when we are making out and that is about the best way I get direct eye contact with him. I am living for the moment I guess- I think there is a definite strong sexual attraction. I am not sure about the rest except that I still think he is a dawg. He says he thinks about me alot- I think yeah right- but I do think about him and things I want to say to him. Guys?? What would be your thoughts??

OK- I'm crazy and he must be crazier (or just that good) He wants to show me all kinds of sex. Sounds kinda interesting but- WTF- I said ok- I like making "like" with you- you're fun. He says- "you mean making love" I said ok when you do "make love" to me- I want to know it. I have not said those words to him. He said- "I dont want to hurt you but I dont want to be hurt either" I think if he were more available to me- I might not like him. All my life I wanted a man who would love me- found it 20 yrs ago- and now I feel like I am losing my morals. We frequent the same place and that is how we get to be around each other. I am so attracted to him it is unbelievable. He say stuff like his neighbor and his wife flirt all the time. I am like 'what are you a bunch of swingers or something'
see why he confuses me? I think he needs some attention or is looking for some- cause he said the neighbors wife came on to him. Like I said WTF? Maybe he is just addicted to sex- although the talk is actually better than the act but dern some of the things he says is wild but interesting. One thing though- the last time we were together- I had no intentions of doing anything with him but he kinda pushed himself toward me and when I got stand offish he talked about how tired he was. I thought that was immature and actually felt used. He just dont know- on most days- I would take him home for acting like that. Because I do not put up with too much. I feel like I dont even want to be here in my home because of the things I have done and still want to do. I guess I will just keep these things to myself for now. But this boy is still driving me crazy.