Having a baby on your partner

I don't see how some of you do it! If my man were to ever have a child with another women WHILE we were together OR even right after we broke it, there'd be NO turning back!

Cheating period is already automatic terms for immediate dismissal, but my gosh, having a baby on your partner is about the most cold hearted thing you can do!

Not only does it show that you 1. Cheated period 2. 99% most likely did NOT use protection with that person, but ALSO that 3. A combination of 1 & 2 above means that you've subjected your partner to stds and/or played russian-roulette with your partner's health!

I could NEVER stay with a man who had a baby on me, even if I was married to him for 100 years. Some things are just NOT ever acceptable, regardless of how long you've been with someone. Married people or people who've been with their partners for long periods of time oughta have deal breakers too.

Sometimes you've gotta ask yourself, "What's love got to do with it?"

I'm SHOCKED at how many men actually stay even though the baby wasn't theirs (when it was supposed to be) & at how many women stay AND are willing to raise another woman's child all b/c her man cheated on her & got someone else pregnant!

If you're gonna stay, don't take your anger/resentment out on the child, BUT why stay in the 1st place?

Be real, that's something that I don't think most humans with GOOD self-esteem are built to deal with

I found the title really funny after imagine it literally.

Oops. Imagining***

Posted by Amandus
I found the title really funny after imagine it literally.

Hahahaha! Yeah a woman LITERALLY having a baby on her man would actually be quite disgusting. I'm sure he'd pass out & never be the same!

Locally, there was a married, well to do, guy that knocked up some girl that wanted a bit more than the apt he was renting for her after the baby was born and he decided he was not going to leave his wife, so he killed her then just left the kid (just over a year old) in the parking lot of a hospital in a different state.

What people will do to keep things on the down low...

(No, the wife didn't stay... she left before his conviction - Smart woman!!!)

Posted by QLIbraMale
This world already has enough misery, if you can't accept or forgive your lover for their past mistakes, than move on and don't bring up the past. "People define break up, in different ways." To you he might of cheated to him it was over so he was single at that moment.

I agree that killing or being violent towards your partner for ANY reason is unacceptable, whether someone is forgiven or not.

Forgiving someone doesn't mean that you have to stay in a relationship with them.

We can all over-complicate the definition of what it means to "break up" BUT the fact remains that BREAK (meaning it's over) oughta be a part of the equation.

HOWEVER, feelings/loyalty for someone shouldn't turn off/on like a light switch. If someone screws another person 15 min. after we broke up all b/c we "technically" weren't together, I would have no choice but to assume that 1. They had already been screwing that person 2. The relationship/feelings towards me were gone a long time ago & 3. There'd be no chance of getting back together. There's NO incentive to get back with someone if they've already screwed & knocked up 5 people in a 1 week time span.

When you still love or have feelings for someone, it should NOT be natural for you to want to go give yourself to someone else. After all, that's why people in relationships stay faithful; it's NOT b/c of the title, but b/c of the feelings they have towards eachother. Those feelings are what keeps people loyal to eachother. And if someone can stop loving me 24 hrs. after a break up, it'd be pretty damn hard to believe that they were human lol

...or that they ever loved me in the 1st place. And if in that case, if I'm left with 2 option: That they're not human, OR never loved me, there'd be no point of getting back into a relationship with them

There's alot of things that people can "Technically" do once the breakup happens, BUT I guess it comes down to a moral issue.

Yeah technically I can screw some other guy 30 seconds after the breakup is official, BUT why would I even want to? If I'm already banging down the door of someone else 2 min. after I'm "technically single" that's a good indication that I was on my way to doing so anyways...i.e. cheating.

And sometimes it's not even about the other person. When you 1st get out of a relationship, you need time to breath, to think & to heal. HOW long that process may take differs & depends on the person & the circumstances for the breakup. But any time I see someone whose so quick to jump from 1 to the next, that's normally NOT a good thing.

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Posted by krysrenee7
...or that they ever loved me in the 1st place. And if in that case, if I'm left with 2 option: That they're not human, OR never loved me, there'd be no point of getting back into a relationship with them

like always I agree with most your topics wholeheartedly HOWEVER getting married sometimes the flames died, even if the wife felt he cheated within hours after breakup, to the husband their passionate flames dieds years ago and both would be in the Right.

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Oh absolutely. Sometimes the flame does die. BUT in that case, why not make sure you're physically AND emotionally done with 1 person before you go jumping to another?

While I'd be understanding of the guy who approaches me & tells me some sob story about how the "flame" died, I'd still be instantly turned off if I found out that he'd only been single for 2 hours.

I absolutely do believe some guys when they swear that they're not still sleeping with their ex's even if they just got out of a long relationship, BUT just on principle, I wouldn't want to start anything new with someone who just got out of a relationship (REGARDLESS of the reason) b/c that's bad business. It takes a person longer than 24 hours to fully move on & heal. It would serve no purpose for me to start something new with someone who has recent unfinished business.

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Posted by krysrenee7
...or that they ever loved me in the 1st place. And if in that case, if I'm left with 2 option: That they're not human, OR never loved me, there'd be no point of getting back into a relationship with them

like always I agree with most your topics wholeheartedly HOWEVER getting married sometimes the flames died, even if the wife felt he cheated within hours after breakup, to the husband their passionate flames dieds years ago and both would be in the Right.

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And I think that's where 2 people can disagree. To some, they only feel obligated to be loyal/faithful IF there is a relationship title attached to it while others base their loyalty/fidelity off of how they feel towards someone.

That's why 2 people who aren't even "technically" together yet may agree to stop seeing all outsiders/flings; it's b/c once those feelings develop, the loyalty & fidelity towards the other person comes naturally & doesn't need any titles.

Then there are the people who literally go by the book. They may STILL love you to death but if they're broken up with you, even for just 2 hours, they'll justify sleeping with someone else by using the "technically" line.

And again, I'm NOT talking about the people who are no longer emotionally or physically attached to their partners. I'm talking about the people who are still very much in love with/care for their partners & yet conveinantly allow all that loyalty/fidelity to go out the window the second the break up happens (especially if they know they're gonna get back together soon).

Idk, call me old-fashioned, but I believe that you shouldn't be moving on to the next one UNLESS the 1. Title is gone AND 2. Once your emotional/physical attachments or ties to someone are non-existent.

Just like it's wrong to be in a relationship with someone you care about & yet sleep with someone else, it's just as hurtful to your partner when they hear that yes, you still love them, BUT that you feel justified in screwing someone else just b/c you guys technically weren't together. That's bullshxt & it would hurt just as much if we had just broken up the same way it would persay he screwed someone else while we were technically together

Posted by Lena282
It goes under the category of cheating. Just send him on his way.

Yeah, pretty much. He's got a kid now, so I should be the last thing he's worrying about and vice versa.