If every woman on earth...

-STOPPED Settling
-STOPPED Giving up the goods too soon (And by 'goods' I mean any physical, sexual, or emotional benefits)
-STOPPED Putting up with bullshxt
-Got some standards
-Got some self-esteem
-Listened to her instincts/intuition
-STOPPED taking back the Aholes who already showed them 100 times that they don't respect her
-Stopped encouraging/enabling men to disrespect her
Anddddddd....STOPPED sleeping/messing around with men who are commitment-phobes, taken, married, or not worth it

...Players, cheaters, pimps, dogs, etc. would NOT exist =)
Oh yeah....AND....

1. The divorce rate would drastically DECREASE
2. The marriage rate would drastically INCREASE
3. The rate of unwanted children being born would dramatically DECREASE
4. The rate of good relationships/marriages would INCREASE
5. The rate of abused women/domestic violence would drastically DECREASE
6. The rate of men fearing commitment or not taking love seriously would DECREASE
7. The rate of women who actually DON'T end up in jail for killing their husbands would INCREASE =P

Just thought I'd share that with ya =)

agreed xinfinity.....but while chicks dump guys for being married skanks (and tell the wife what a low life her husband is) and the wives continue to take their husbands back because they don't want to get off their azses and support themselves then we will never make any progress.

I've done my bit, obviously to no avail😢

EVERYONE needs to get involved, not just we much maligned, hard headed Arieses who think we deserve a whole guy all to ourselves.

men need to listen to this advice too. not just women.
i agree with everything.

"...Anddddddd....STOPPED sleeping/messing around with men who are commitment-phobes, taken, married, or not worth it..."

hang on... P-Angel took me to task the other day for saying we should be open with our expectations/hopes etc with the other person right from the start. I sure don't want to waste time dating some guy that is not the real deal.

Maybe married people shouldn't dish out advice to single people without thinking it through first.

Maybe married people should keep their genitals for spousal use only until they get un-married and can start over.

end of grumble. for now.

i feel like there's a general lack of respect between fellow human beings.
that definitely needs to change.

we're all in this together just like RHAP said.

*RNAP

sorry lol

Posted by Jesse91
we're all in this together just like RHAP said.

no you are quite right Jesse - Really Hot-under-the-collar Aries Person.

This subject is a sore point for me at the moment - nice to be on the majority side of a discussion for once!!!!!!

I know the general goal for people is to get married, have kids, build a life with just one person, but what if that doesn't seem right for everyone? 😛 Maybe some get down with being less serious and permanent. There have been a lot of times in my life where I just wouldn't have gotten over my slump except for men who just want to be bump buddies. AND I've learned there is a difference between someone who says that then stalks you later and someone cool with the short term companionship. Mmm, friends can be fun.

Unfortunatley Krys there is an ENTIRE WEBSITE devoted to encouraging people NOT to boot their cheating spouses onto the kerb.

🙂They need P-Angel over there stat, telling them to wake the fuck up to themselves. Oh, and WoundedBird to drop in sporadically with a couple of pages of the Koran or maybe a psalm or two.

Posted by Sickleesweet
I know the general goal for people is to get married, have kids, build a life with just one person, but what if that doesn't seem right for everyone? 😛 Maybe some get down with being less serious and permanent. .

It's perfectly fine to not want serious committment for now or ever, BUT disrespecting yourself or others just to maintain that life style is NOT ok.

That's what I tell mistresses all the time! If you want a no-strings-attached relationships, that's totally ok. BUT, stop looking for those relations with guys who are already taken! There are 10 million other guys who are NOT taken/married that wouldn't mind giving you the same thing that some married guy could give you.

Being single or wanting a no-strings-attached relationships should NOT be synonymous to OR equal: disrespect, betrayal or lack of standards/morals.

Any time a woman hooks up with a married/taken man, she's cheating herself b/c she's giving herself the impression that someone whose already lowlife enough to betray their own partner is as good as it gets. You can't possibly have good self-esteem if you feel that being a homewrecker is the best option or is as good as it gets. There are 1 million other guys/girls that you could have that same "connection" or "benefits" with.

Posted by krysrenee7
-STOPPED Settling
-STOPPED Giving up the goods too soon (And by 'goods' I mean any physical, sexual, or emotional benefits)
-STOPPED Putting up with bullshxt
-Got some standards
-Got some self-esteem
-Listened to her instincts/intuition
-STOPPED taking back the Aholes who already showed them 100 times that they don't respect her
-Stopped encouraging/enabling men to disrespect her
Anddddddd....STOPPED sleeping/messing around with men who are commitment-phobes, taken, married, or not worth it

Wow, that would be like ALL attitude and NO woman! What man could handle that? No thanks, who wants Ilsa the She-Wolf of the SS anyway?

Posted by krysrenee7

Posted by Sickleesweet
I know the general goal for people is to get married, have kids, build a life with just one person, but what if that doesn't seem right for everyone? 😛 Maybe some get down with being less serious and permanent. .

There are 10 million other guys who are NOT taken/married that wouldn't mind giving you the same thing that some married guy could give you.

There are 1 million other guys/girls that you could have that same "connection" or "benefits" with.

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Just checking.....so what are my chances of meeting a single sexy guy - 1 in a million or 1 in 10 million——?

I mean serious/marriage guys not FWBs

Maybe it's too early in the morning - maybe I am reading that wrong. Seems like woeful odds. Need coffee.

@ReallyNice...you can't knock something you've never tried! You'd be surprised. There are PLENTY of single, serious & commitment-ready men. BUT...you wouldn't know that if you were always keeping your eye on/focusing on all the guys who are already taken. It's hard to notice a "good" thing when you're always staring down the "bad" things in the room

Once a woman gets some self-esteem about herself, gets some standards, knows how/where to pick em, the quality of men she's attracting AND able to keep around will drastically INCREASE. The only women who challenge that theory are those who haven't yet tried getting some self-esteem. They always wanna knock something they've never tried.

I'm the perfect example of what happens when you finally put your foot down & accept nothing but respect. I found a good 1 & yet I still have him as we speak. But see, had I been entertaining all the players or trying to keep all the wrong men, I would've been 1 of those infamous women always walking around with an attitude & swearing that good men don't exist.

Women always walk around with a stank attitude, wondering why they can't find a good man is if they don't have anything to do with it. If you're attracting the same ole players or commitment-phobic men, it's b/c there's something in YOU that you're lacking OR not demanding from men.

And if you keep players around, you get what you ask/pay for. Expecting a player to turn into a prince is the SAME as expecting a 2 year old to understand algebra! The 2 just don't mix. Never have. Never will

The only issue I have with this is that it suggests that the majority of men are pieces of shit and the majority of women suck at figuring this out (in which case, the latter is probably true lol).

And at the end of it, women are either fucked before even getting a chance to test things out, or men in general are just not worthy of our time until a certain point.

Oh I would never mess around with a married or otherwise engaged man. I might with a rebound if I think it won't hurt him in the end, but never someone already with another person!

I just happen to be in a place right now where marriage and kids aren't right for me personally. So I play the field and make awesome friends along the way.

I guess everyone needs a dream world.

Posted by Candeh15
The only issue I have with this is that it suggests that the majority of men are pieces of shit and the majority of women suck at figuring this out (in which case, the latter is probably true lol).

No, not all men are this way. BUT if the shoe fits, it fits. Although all men may not be this way, ALOT of them are. It sucks but it is what it is. And although all women don't fall for these types of men, it's no secret that ALOT actually do. So this post was moreso for the women/men who can't deny that the shoe fits

I hate to say this, but the majority of the women who actually go for these types of men actually DO have a hard time figuring this out. Common sense isn't so common anymore. It's 1 thing to date a bad boy once, learn your lesson & never do it again. But certain women continually attract the same types of men every time, which leads me to believe that nope, they haven't figured it out yet. Smh smh

Posted by krysrenee7
@ReallyNice...you can't knock something you've never tried! You'd be surprised. There are PLENTY of single, serious & commitment-ready men. BUT...you wouldn't know that if you were always keeping your eye on/focusing on all the guys who are already taken. It's hard to notice a "good" thing when you're always staring down the "bad" things in the room

What exactly does this mean??....

Uhmmmm, you forgot to add one item to your list:

- the rate of single women would - INCREASE

Case in point:

Almeda Moe
Moe loves to fish. He was sitting in his boat the other day when he heard a voice say, 'Pick me up.'
He looked around and couldn't see anyone. He thought he was dreaming when he heard the voice say again,'Pick me up.'
He looked in the water and there, floating on the top, was a frog.
Moe said, 'Are you talking to me?'
The frog said, 'Yes, I'm talking to you.' Pick me up then, kiss me and I'll turn into the most beautiful woman you have ever seen.I'll make sure that all your friends are envious and jealous because I will be your bride!'
Moe looked at the frog for a short time, reached over, picked it up carefully, and placed it in his front pocket.
The frog said, 'What, are you nuts? Didn't you hear what I said? I said kiss me and I will be your beautiful bride.'
Moe looked at the frog in his pocket and said, 'Nah, I'd just rather have a talking frog.