Male or female?

Who loves harder?

Who takes breakups the hardest OR takes the longest to get over someone they truly loved?

For both, I'd say MEN! Yeah yeah, I get that everyone is different but in my experiences, I've noticed that when a man is in love, it's a pretty big damn deal! When a woman is in love, it's like yeah yeah what's new!?! It's not as rare to see a woman die-hard in love & wearing her love for him on her sleeves...after all, "that's what women do." But oh boy, when a man is truly in love, it seems to be a bigger deal & something more people pay attention to, especially considering most men have way MORE people in their ears telling them NOT to settle down than women do.

Women may do most of the crying, begging or screaming when a breakup happens, BUT the min. she finds another guy that she convinces herself is "better" than the last one, BOOM! She magically moves on & carries on with her life. Nothing will stop her from giving the same 99% of herself to the next guy even though her doing so with the last guy resulted in heartbreak.

But men, no...when they're hurt, EVERYONE afterwards will feel the brunt of it. He may get a rebound, go have sex with another woman or pretend to have "moved on" but if you notice, it always takes men a little bit longer to actually commit AGAIN than it does a woman. It'll be harder for him to agree to give his all to someone else as quickly, even if the next girl he comes across seems to be "the one" or perfect...

Translation: Girl gets hurt by guy, she cries, goes crazy, over-analyzes everything, allows her self-esteem to take a blow, BUT YET the whole time she's actively & sneakily on the prow for the next best thing. When she finds it, she doesn't hesitate to snatch it up & "try again."

Translation: Guy guys hurt by girl, he's pissed, his ego & self-esteem takes a blow, he starts reminding himself that he should've listened to his buddies when they told him he was too young to commit, thus HIS VERSION of moving on consists of finding a sexual or no-strings attached rebound. If he sees the next best thing, he'll have the ability to acknowledge that, BUT he probably won't allow himself to jump back into anything strings-attached b/c it takes his heart a lot longer to process & move on from heartache

I would say men. Even when it comes to friendships. Most men I hang out with have one friend who they have a little Bro-mance with lol. I have never seen a woman/woman friendship as tight as a man/man one. And with relationships definately men. I have seen a man go through some serious shit, drug addictions, deaths in families, job losses but the only time I ever saw that guy shed a tear was when his life was all in order and his girl cheated on him.

Posted by libra sun
I have seen a man go through some serious shit, drug addictions, deaths in families, job losses but the only time I ever saw that guy shed a tear was when his life was all in order and his girl cheated on him.

Hmm, I've seen the same thing too. 1 of the guys I call my brother has literally been through it all, so much so that I'm surprised he's even still holding on! Seriously, he's been in car wrecks, lost both his parents, went through 2 miscarriages, lost his scholarship, etc. And through it all, he'd never shed a tear UNTIL the girl he was about to marry cheated on him & left him for his best friend.

This is why women are so sneaky! We can make a man think that he's all we need, that he's the only 1 we want, that we're nothing w/o him. And men buy into this. Some men won't even have the balls to break up with a woman b/c he's too afraid that she'll crash, crumble or go insane if she loses him.

However, that very same woman that everyone is afraid will go "insane" if she's dumped/heartbroken, is DEF. sub-consciously open to moving on & replacing his ass IF she can find someone that SHE believes is "better."

And trust & believe, the min. she finds that "better" it's as if the guy before never existed!

But a man? Nope. If you break, you buy! Even if a man sees something "better" afterwards, he'll have MORE trouble actually giving his heart to someone else again. It takes men alot longer to get into another relationship after they've been severely hurt in the last one.

Women may kick, cry & scream, leaving us all to believe that she'll never have the ability to move on physically or mentally, BUT don't get it twisted! A woman is ALWAYS willing to ride off into the sunset with the next "best" thing. Moving on isn't the challenge or something she's afraid of! It's actually FINDING something "better" that's the hard part!

Posted by LoveBucket

Posted by krysrenee7
This is why women are so sneaky!

Women are so sneaky because we come from man and, that's one of the things that followed us from man in our creation. :-)

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LMAO!!! Good point!

I am going to have to say that both sexes have pretty much the same ability to inflict and suffer pain. I really don't see where one group or the other has any real advantage or special ability either way.

Posted by LoveBucket
Sort of like who cries harder -- men or women? lol

Women because whether you believe in God or not, it does not matter -- the woman is God's greatest creation therefore almost everything women do, we do it harder and better than men.

Funny...My girlfriend and I were just saying that God realized he messed up when he created Man and fixed it when he created Woman!!!! I know! I know! I know! I ask for forgiveness every time I say it. So I got a T-Shirt Made! LOL!

I forgot to answer the question! I think whomever loved the most...gets hurt the mostest!