The #1 reason...

What is the #1 reason you're still in your current relationship?

For those who are single, what is the #1 reason you want to be in a relationship?

I get that most of you may have SEVERAL reasons, however I'm saying that if you could pick 1 thing out of many, what would you consider to be the strongest reason OR #1 reason why you're still holding on? And be honest!

If you could narrow it down & pick the #1 reason you're still holding on, what would that reason be?

For those who are in relationships:
-Is it the sex?
-Too afraid to be single?
-They're financially supporting you?
-You don't feel like you can get anyone else OR anyone better than your current partner?
-You're more in love with the person they USED to be OR the person you WISH they were (vs. who they really are NOW)?
-You like being in a relationship just for the sake of being in 1?
-You like the aspect of being able to say that you're "taken?"
-Their looks?
-Their income/wealth/success?
-They've put up with more of your baggage/drama/bullshxt than any other person has or would?
-They're good with your kids/your kids love them?
-They make you look good (eye candy)?
-Others tell you that you'd be dumb to give up what they consider to be a "good thing?"
-B/c there's nothing actually wrong with your relationship?
-You honestly don't know!?
-Others?

For those who are single & want a relationship?
-You think having a companion will remove all your problems?
-You can't handle being alone?
-You see everyone else being in/getting in relationships?
-You wouldn't feel as taken advantage of if you gave the goodies to someone you actually had the "title" with?
-You need a rebound/replacement?
-Others keep making you feel bad/encouraging you to be in one?
-You honestly don't know!?
-Others?

I have to agree with elle, those were rather negative... geez...

For those who are single & want a relationship?

-You think having a companion will remove all your problems? Nah, it'll introduce new ones. I'm a realist, and also dig a challenge.

-You can't handle being alone? Yes I can, but whoo would it be nice to see a smiling face and have arms round me at night. Someone to bounce ideas off of, share thoughts. The dog is great, but she just doesn't have that je ne se qua I'm into.

-You see everyone else being in/getting in relationships? Mehhh, that doesn't concern me if someone else is in one. Good for them if it's a healthy one.

-You wouldn't feel as taken advantage of if you gave the goodies to someone you actually had the "title" with? Goodies come with title.

-You need a rebound/replacement? Quite the reverse. Not into rebound ( it rarely lasts ) and replace the ex? Noooo thank youuuuuuuuu. Be like putting a button tire on a Hummer emotionally. Doesn't work too well and the mileage SUCKS.

-Others keep making you feel bad/encouraging you to be in one? Nope.

-You honestly don't know!? I operate well within the confines of relationship. It moves and grooves me, shake rattle & rolls me. The belonging, the care taking, the conversations and love making. All of it. Even the arguments. All the ups and downs.

-Others? I'll get back to this one. Best leave m'self a post-it.

In a relationship

Because its good.

because we go together like peanut butter & jelly. =)

i dont think they were negative...just the truth.

Posted by ellessque
if all those reasons were the truth to you......then you probably need to evaluate the relationship.

i know some may perceptualize those as reasons to NOT enter into a relationship (LOL @ aquas) but if a relationship transpires to THAT list.....you may have a problem.

Exactly.

That's also why I added "others" b/c I'm fully aware that the reasons I stated are not the only reasons people may want/be in a relationship.

HOWEVER, it's no secret that alot of the people who are in relationships/want to be in one are in them for what different people consider "wrong reasons."

And I just wanted people to be honest about the REAL reason why, even if half of their reasons were considered to be "wrong reasons" according to everyone else.

We all get something out of our relationship, whether we're selfishly wanting/expecting/getting it or not. I just wanted you guys to narrow it down to 1 main reason if possible

^Bullcrap^

I do find it interesting that instead of spinning the reasons in a positive light, the reasons were automatically listed as negative. Instead of the reasons being the "right" ones, they were classified as the "wrong" ones. Obviously, we aren't going to be honest if we're with someone or not with someone for the wrong reasons, but to instantly assume that our reasons our wrong I think says something. I'm single because I've been worrying about myself and getting a job, and I can imagine that my friend is with her boyfriend because he makes her happy despite their down moments.

We can't even classify a reason as wrong unless there is some universal agreement that a reason is wrong.

LOVE

So is it my fault that people can't be honest simply b/c the reasons I stated were more negative than positive?

So what, some of you will only be honest if I sugar coat things? That makes no sense & isn't MY fault or problem.

I mean hey, if you read the list & thought deep down, "Yep, even though it's horrible I must admit that I'm only in my relationship still b/c of .....blank" who is that MY fault?

Whether I'd stated the reasons negatively or positively really doesn't matter b/c it shouldn't change your answer to that question regardless!

I could've just as easily listed all positive reasons. That wouldn't change the fact that some of you were in your relationship for what's considered to be "wrong reasons."

That's also why I put "others" b/c I was fully aware that there are 100 different reasons (more than what I've listed)

I thought I wanted a relationship turns out I just wanted sex.

Posted by exoskeleton
negative AND cynical.

because i'm in love. simple as that. 🙂

agree....... This is all it takes for a scorp but for me this is the main factor.........

Everything is stable. LOL