Help out a sag with your input please

Hey Saggies,

I was hoping to get some advice or maybe just to have my feelings justified. So here is how the story goes.

I have been dating this Leo guy for close to 2 years. We have been living together now for 4 months with my 2 kids and his 1 daughter. The home we live in is a house he purchased for us to live in. I pay a set amount monthly directly to him he takes care of all the bills or anything thing that comes up out of the blue on the home as this is how he wanted it.

SO basically our relationship is great, fun, happy, he treats me great I treat him great sex is out of this world.

My issue is that I have been telling him I love him here and there since we have been together about 9 months.. I never get it back not even once??_. So a few months ago I out right asked him —do you love me?? he couldn't even say yes I do??_ he looked like a deer caught in headlights and said why why why are you doing this right now.. I left it alone went to bed and didn't want to hear from him the next day??_.

He text me to say that he thinks im misunderstanding and that he things actions speak louder then words and he shows me how he feels about me.. we talked later that night and he said he doesn't belive in a verbal expression of feelings that people say it and it doesn't mean anything. I told him I believe in both verbal and actions and I do that for him but he said he could never promise me he can say it. So I have left it at that??_

I sorta feel like im being played for a fool because he says it to his mum to his kids to our bloody cats but will NOT to me or my daughter when she tells him she loves him.. he says oooo that's nice thanks. So does anyone think that he doesn't love me but doesn't want to lose me so he is stringing me along?

I think if its true that he doesn't believe in verbally expressing it then why is it selective verbal expression. I mean im happy so probably should let this go I just don't wanna be played for a fool.

Is this still happening? I read your other thread and you said the same thing there as you did here.

Yes this is still happening now of course I don't say anything to him we just carry on day to day with our life we are happy. I guess what keeps popping into my head is does he love me?.... if so why cant he say it?? Or at least confirm it when I had asked him??_ If he isn't in love with me I would probably stay with him because things are really good however its not knowing its being lead to believe that he cant say it but shows it??_ I guess I feel that in a relationship both people should be equally emotionally invested in order to feel secure??_. I am putting my self into this 100% and I only ask that the person I share my life with is doing the same??_. Im not a crazy person I just want other peoples opinions here I guess to feel better about how im feeling.

You mean to tell me that one of the most romantic signs on the planet can't tell you he loves you and gives the ole "Sagittarius" line about actions speak louder than words.

He doesn't love you. You're there to build him up. Sounds like the condescending "me superior to women" bull SOME Leo males pull. That he said that to you is a wake up call

Im pretty sure I know that he doesn't. Im think it's a mix of feelings I have either hoping im wrong or hoping that these thoughts will just go away. However for me committing is very hard and the fact that I have opened up and given my love told my deepest thoughts and fears to this man it's a hard pill to swallow but I am just the same as most and Love is something I want returned. I don't want to be old and dried up looking back wishing I had love in my life instead of companionship. It's a hard call cause dude is so pretty awesome lots of chemistry same morals and a great time together he truly is my best friend with one huge key component missing.

Where do i go from here?

Posted by shorty1978
Yes this is still happening now of course I don't say anything to him we just carry on day to day with our life we are happy. I guess what keeps popping into my head is does he love me?.... if so why cant he say it?? Or at least confirm it when I had asked him??_ If he isn't in love with me I would probably stay with him because things are really good however its not knowing its being lead to believe that he cant say it but shows it??_ I guess I feel that in a relationship both people should be equally emotionally invested in order to feel secure??_. I am putting my self into this 100% and I only ask that the person I share my life with is doing the same??_. Im not a crazy person I just want other peoples opinions here I guess to feel better about how im feeling.

Sounds like he is definitely holding back. . . Whether he isn't ready to commit saying those words . . . Or Like beautifulsoul says there are other factors at play for himself. It seems only you can make that decision . . . Have you challenged him about being able to say to cat?! He find saying those words difficult as he may have been hurt in the past?

i'd dump him quickly and start the detox process. better do it now than wait because it'll only get tougher