Sag girl + Aqua boy

I'm currently ignoring this aqua boy I like and I'm wondering if that's the correct way to handle an aqua ?
Has anybody dated or crushed on an aqua how was it?


His Chart
Sun Aquarius
Moon Aquarius
Mercury Capricorn
Venus Aquarius
Mars Libra
Jupiter Aquarius
Saturn Aries
Uranus Aquarius
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Sagittarius

My Chart
Sun Sagittarius
Ascendant Capricorn
Moon Aquarius
II Aquarius
Mercury Scorpio
Venus Capricorn
Mars Cancer
Jupiter Libra
Saturn Aquarius
Uranus Capricorn
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio

In my experience, Aquas use their charm to attract lovers to them; they don't generally chase. Mine would interpret too much ignoring with disinterest and move on to the next.

I chased mine, HARD. Probably not the best approach, thinking about ut now, because it may have been too much for him too soon.

I think a good balance between aloofness and interest would be the best route. Don't ignore, but don't show all your cards either.

Thank you ! ⤠Yeah this is exactly what I'm doing ,I'm the cat and he's the mouse..
I just get a little insecure when I do chase because I'm not use to it and I don't want him to think I'm wrapped around his little finger ..
But you are right I don't want him to think I'm moving on either..

I would bet that your Aqua moon feels a bit uncomfortable with the chase, yes. You'll probably have to be more aggressive than you're used to, but I think your Aqua parts will also understand where he's at and not feel slighted when he responds to you in odd ways. Thst was my problem...fire sun and mars wants what it wants. NOW. I didn't want another friend, I wanted HIM.

Aqua just doesn't play like that.

Yeah I kinda like the idea of having a best friend turn lover type thing..

I have grown to be very patient with him, are progress is like molasses but I'm optimistic because atleast its still moving ..

Did your aqua ever treat you different from the others?
We're you guys really private?

Posted by Eccentric_Owl
Yeah I kinda like the idea of having a best friend turn lover type thing..

I have grown to be very patient with him, are progress is like molasses but I'm optimistic because atleast its still moving ..

Did your aqua ever treat you different from the others?
We're you guys really private?

We were really young when we met, 19. I wasn't private at all about it. He, on the other hand, kept me a secret from his family for literally years. His mom didn't like me, and I was probably a little crazy obsessive about him. He considered me a friend that he had good sex with, and to me he was my boyfriend albeit a terrible one.

A lot of games were played for a lot of years. Meh, it isn't the best example of how to have ANY relationship, much less one with an Aqua. But I learned a lot from that. We're still together at 45, so something went right, lol.

It's just flustration really , sometimes I get wrapped in my mind from overthinking or from what I get mad about and instead of creating conflict I just become aloof and not talk, its just "I need my space thing." and to get a point across that I'm upset without using words...its just hard for me to communicate when I have so much to say and I usually say the wrong things or things end up worst..


I stay quiet verse exploding to sum it up

It's a rocky start I'm pretty sure you guys went through so much! But hey 19 to 45! That's great and you guys were young so mistakes are going to be made ..

I love relationships that you can build and learn from♥

He's going to give you the space you need. He'll know it instinctively. If you do blow up at him, watch out. Aquas have a temper and can hurt you with words without even having to try hard.

Wait until the anger subsides, then get back to normal. When you feel.calm and comfortable, rhen bring up whatever got you upset and just talk to him about it. He'll respond in a calm and logical way,.and try to set your mind at ease.

Yeah I have been in a situation where he stung me it sucked bad..
It's nothing now that I think about it , he was upset over something not regarding me but he kinda yelled at me and said he wanted to be alone..I did pester him a little but I did leave..I think the thing that got me the most is how he showed me he was upset and didn't want to talk to me ..yet he was okay with everyone else ..
It hurt my feelings, but I think I will talk to him tomorrow and ask him if hes done with needing his space too ..I think he is because when I ignored him he just started at me , I caught him and he just looked away , he kind seemed like he wanted to say something but he just gave me my space ..

*stares

He was okay with everyone else because he doesn't like them the way je les you, and it's probably hard for him to process his anger and how he feels about you at the same time. You're still getting to know each other, and he may still be trying to figure out what kind of "friend" he wants you to be. If it's any kind of emotional thing, it's going to be hard for him to pin down exactly what he's feeling.

Mine doesn't treat me any differently than he does anyone else. I'm not treated special at all. He's just more comfortable being his true self to me, which includes all of his emotions, warts and all. Letting me into his "deeper" self, I guess. He says I'm the only woman who has ever really understood him. I consider that a huge compliment.

*he doesn't like them the way he likes you*

Arggh, phone...

Posted by sultrykitty
He was okay with everyone else because he doesn't like them the way je les you, and it's probably hard for him to process his anger and how he feels about you at the same time. You're still getting to know each other, and he may still be trying to figure out what kind of "friend" he wants you to be. If it's any kind of emotional thing, it's going to be hard for him to pin down exactly what he's feeling.

Mine doesn't treat me any differently than he does anyone else. I'm not treated special at all. He's just more comfortable being his true self to me, which includes all of his emotions, warts and all. Letting me into his "deeper" self, I guess. He says I'm the only woman who has ever really understood him. I consider that a huge compliment.

This makes perfect sense ! This explains exactly why I don't know where I stand with him on what I am to him ..thank you! I just need to keep being patient..
And that to me is amazing and adorable, and exactly what I want ..
I just have this need to want to understand everything about him no matter if its good or bad ..Thank you Sultry for opening my eyes (:

Idk its just something we both do ,it makes sense to me I rather wait a couple of days not talk and calm down and think rational then try to solve something right then and there and create a huge dilemma..when it is just mediocre..
This is just a mutual thing we have in common ,I wouldn't recommend it if your partner or crush doesn't understand that it's a thing you do to cope with your anger.. I overthinking especially when I'm angry so a couple of days to clear my head and think of a way to solve the situation is best for me..

Lol, I think most is pretty spot on here. I say don't be afraid to pull out your Sag charm. Don't think I know too many Sag personally...but 1 I know for sure. Had similar walls to Aquas and was afraid to be her. Think its best to communicate. If Aqua can learn to question why when Sags tongue turns arrow sharp and she learns his tempers are either misguided or to hear him out from his angle..which the Sag I know is surprisingly great at listening and then thinking for a different angle. She seems to love that what seems to be a complete interesting different angle. Many attitudes can work well together. Both like space, both have this ride the waves attitude.
Be you, that's who he wants. But communication is key. Be a team always. Take him out and just grab him by the hand and lead quickly. That'll keep him on his toes.
If you hide your weirdness, how will your fellow kindred be able to recognize you?
Just a thought. Originality and honest true form should be enough to get his Aqua glare and make him follow your spark around the room.
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Thank you, I kinda been hiding myself because I didn't want to make him overwhelmed but I will show my weirdness and be me thank you!♥

You just may be surprised how much he thinks you make sense.
The sag I know seems to think that no one gets her. I think it's odd how well she can probably follow an Aquas chaotic mind. Good luck. Waiting for details lol.

Meh, I like an Aquarius guy too... ugh. Theyre the only ones who don't pay much attention to me!

Posted by Eccentric_Owl
I'm currently ignoring this aqua boy I like and I'm wondering if that's the correct way to handle an aqua ?
Has anybody dated or crushed on an aqua how was it?


His Chart
Sun Aquarius
Moon Aquarius
Mercury Capricorn
Venus Aquarius
Mars Libra
Jupiter Aquarius
Saturn Aries
Uranus Aquarius
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Sagittarius

My Chart
Sun Sagittarius
Ascendant Capricorn
Moon Aquarius
II Aquarius
Mercury Scorpio
Venus Capricorn
Mars Cancer
Jupiter Libra
Saturn Aquarius
Uranus Capricorn
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio

I tried to commit suicide after reading this. I was laughing. But it didn't work.
Depressed.