Sagittarius man in hot pursuit, won't take no for an answer.

My co-worker, a Sag male, has vigorously pursued me for 1-1/2 years. I am a Taurus female. I believe that astrology is correct about personality traits, so I put him off for a year and told him we were not compatible. I saw how he treated and talked about the women he was using and I wanted nothing to do with him. He's selfish, a functional drunk, a die-hard party-goer, well-known womanizer, part-time drug dealer, smoker (I hate smoking), and a quasi-chauvinist with double standards who has no interest in domestic or family life.

I regularly turned him down for dates because I knew he was trouble and couldn't give me what I wanted. We became very good friends because we were both brutally honest, have a similar sense of humor, and are very comfortable with one another. Despite his darker qualities, he has a heart of gold, fights to death for the underdog, will give you the shirt off his back, is a charming and brilliant conversationalist, an intellectual philosopher (with questionable philosophies), and is a trustworthy confidante. We talk and laugh for hours and never run out of interesting things to say, but I told him that friendship was all he could expect. I am an INFJ and he's an ENFP.

I skillfully dodged a romantic relationship with him for quite a while, but he just wore me right down. He would not let up - no matter how logical and well-reasoned my argument against him. He stopped seeing all his other girls and paying attention to the things I said. He would seek me out, buy me lunch at work, and try to help me if I had an issue. We became friends with benefits, but he started saying he loved me and calling me every day. He would talk about marriage and meeting my family; I would change the subject. I loved him too, but I didn't want to get too involved with him, so I ignored my feelings.

After he kept standing me up for dates HE arranged, I stopped talking to him a month ago and asked him not to call. I felt like he was playing around with me and was taking my time for granted. For all his professions of love, it seemed he didn't want to take me out or do anything together outside of my bedroom. I got annoyed with that and cut him off. We haven't spoken in over a month. I moved on and didn't look back.

He got word that I'm returning to work (I took a 2-month leave of absence) and he texted me yesterday to say he was glad to hear I was coming back and he missed me. I am almost certain he's expecting to "conquer" me again when I return to work. I don't want him thinking this is the start of some toxic on and off pattern. It looks like I have to let him wear himself out and continue ignoring him, because he won't take no for an answer.

Do you think he'll get the message this time? How long does it take these guys to freaking give up!?

(Here's a natal chart breakdown for me and him for those who are interested.)

Co-Worker>>>>>>>>>>>
Sun 11°28' Sagittarius
Moon 06°02' Taurus
Mercury 25°41' Sagittarius
Venus 22°5

And then I totally mix it up! Oh goodness...

Co-Worker (Unrelenting Sagittarius Male)

Sun 11°28' Sagittarius
Moon 06°02' Taurus
Mercury 25°41' Sagittarius
Venus 22°51' Capricorn
Mars 09°01' Sagittarius
Jupiter 24°02' Taurus
Saturn 16°54' Leo
Uranus 09°29' Scorpio
Neptune 13°34' Sagittarius
Pluto 13°36' Libra

Me (Taurus Female)

Sun 07°39' Taurus
Moon 22°43' Scorpio
Mercury 25°06' Taurus
Venus 17°32' Gemini
Mars 16°51' Taurus
Jupiter 09°24' Sagittarius
Saturn 00°37' Scorpio
Uranus 08°16' Sagittarius
Neptune 29°01' Sagittarius
Pluto 27°46' Libra

Both. I've told him that we should keep things platonic and not be involved romantically. I told him I would not be sleeping with him again. And I haven't since. He has said that those words "fueled him" and 'made his blood boil with desire'. Shortly thereafter, I just cut him off.

Posted by YellowSubmarine

Posted by TaurusLadyForever567
Both. I've told him that we should keep things platonic and not be involved romantically. I told him I would not be sleeping with him again. And I haven't since. He has said that those words "fueled him" and 'made his blood boil with desire'. Shortly thereafter, I just cut him off.

Oh God.. I know what you mean.

Tell him you want to get married and have babies, it might scare him off.

If that doesn’t work, tell him you’ll report him to HR.

If he still doesn’t stop, actually report him to HR.

Funnily enough, I know a girl that wears a fake engagement ring at work so the men won't hit on her - she doesn't like to mix work and pleasure.. not suggest you do this, just sharing different ideas.

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Wow!! Lol! That's an amazing idea.I should try it sometime 😛

Just do the horizontal poker with him and he will soon be a distant memory.

Dude's got a fixed moon...good luck getting rid of him. I mean, why did you sleep with him in the first place given all the bad traits you listed? Smh

The only way possible is to annoy him.

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Posted by DMV
Just do the horizontal poker with him and he will soon be a distant memory.

She already did... you mean again?

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oh i went back and actually read all that.

this story sounds so ridiculous to me.

as usual, Taurus women "feels" like a big bad man is trying to "conquer" her.

yawn.

Posted by DMV
Just do the horizontal poker with him and he will soon be a distant memory.

I thought that's what would happen when I gave him some the last time, but this guy is like the proverbial 'sticky booger' that you can't get off your finger. Know what I mean?

Posted by beautifulsoul74
Dude's got a fixed moon...good luck getting rid of him. I mean, why did you sleep with him in the first place given all the bad traits you listed? Smh

Because he does have some endearing qualities and we had a very inexplicable attraction to one another. I assumed he wouldn't attach himself and would be on his way. That wasn't the case.

Posted by DMV
as usual, Taurus women "feels" like a big bad man is trying to "conquer" her.

yawn.

I honestly don't understand what your tryna bring across