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I have been "friends" with a scorp guy the same age as me since beginning of last december..we have been on and off all this time and have recently been seeing each other again. So anyways, i saw him last night and i said to him that we?ve known each other a while now and i thought it was time he decided if he wants a proper relationship, as opposed to a random set-up. He knows how i feel, and i sense that he is holding back, even though he acts like he is about to explode keeping his feelings in. He finds it hard to be randomly affectionate and i know for sure that i have scared him, but it needed to be said and done. So, now should i just wait for him to respond (he didnt do anything except say h had to go because he was having dinner with his mum)!! God, the hardest thing will be if he says he doesnt want anything more, because in that case i just cant see him anymore..it will kill me.

Any thoughts??

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but I don't think he has the same feelings for you that you do for him. A year is enough time to know. For me, if I care about someone in that way, you can be sure that once they show an interest, I will come on full force. Him having to have dinner with mum, was his way out. Sorry....

Sure, i know what you mean! The reason it has been like this is because i am from another country and am always back and forth, and he also relocated for about 4 months too, so there hasnt ever been an ideal time for us to take the next step until now, that?s why i wanted to ask him about what he thought about it. He told me loved me before but i have taken that with a pinch of salt..but you know he just has to tell me straight up, all this beating about the bush isnt helping either of us. I think he knows its now all or nothing..as opposed to me allowig him to keep me on a string. I have to think about myself now, and i can spare myself heartbreak then i have to know now.

So, should i give him a few days to think about what ive said, or is it ok to contact him first?? God im almost scared of him, i never know how he?ll react!! Silence is the worst punishment..he?s too good at that 😢

He more than likely was beating around the bush so he wouldn't hurt you. We don't like hurting people on purpose. The choice is yours whether or not you want to contact him. If you do contact him and he is on the up and up with you then ask him what his intentions are and to speak from his heart...not what he thinks you want to hear. If he dodges you, then I think you will have your answer.

Sola, there's that ol' libra/scorp thing... LOL!!! If he is about to burst with his emotions, then he probably does care and is in a shock that you, the libra came straight out and told him. Although, I find this normal for libra guys who have persued me, unlike some girls on the libra board... Give it time, he will come back with an answer either way.

Thanks guys, honestly. Like i said, it was difficult for me to bring this up with him, because i knew he would be happy to continue as it was..i wasnt. I have no problem if he decides that us being together isnt for him..at least its saves my feelings and my pride further down the line. I wont push it, i will wait and see what he says (if anything). He has trouble like me with relationships, but its not healthy for either of us to not know where we stand or where its headed..i just cant live like that. I know that i love him sincerely..he just wont let me get too close. I suppose i could have chosen a better time, but then is there ever a good time to have a difficult conversation?? Still nothing, so i guess he?s leaving his silence to do the talking. He is so frustrating!! 😢

I remember your stories about 2 different Scorpios. Is this is the same guy from last year that all the Scorps on this board said is a waste of time? http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/messages.asp?id=785358&p=1&sort=asc<BR> http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/messages.asp?id=834256&p=4&sort=asc<BR>

All I know is when a Scorpio truly loves you, they don't let go, they come on to you full force like a Tornado. They leave no doubt as to how they feel, they don't run from committing to you. They stick to you like crazy glue. Never evasive. From your stories this guy always gave you massive doubt. He only seemed to be into sex and nothing more. He didn't pursue a committment with you. He was seeing other girls and randomly calling you. He would disappear and reappear when he felt like it. Their actions always speak louder than words. After asking for a relationship with them, they don't say I have to go to dinner with Mum (and then don't invite you) nor give you an answer.

Maybe he will change his mind but I wouldn't put too much heart or hope into it. Be careful with your heart. Watch how he treats you. Don't contact him, the ball is in his court. This is his decision to make. Hope this works for you.

Humph, I have very recently found out that they do tell you how much they like you and that they are not ready for a relationship and still stalker call you like they are insane. Crazy. They can force you to kick them to the curb even as friends.

Yeah..it was one of those from earlier!! Ha, now that ive said it and its out in the open, i feel like a weight has been lifted!! Over the past couple of days ive though long and hard, and you know what..i think i just thought i wanted a relationship with him, but if im honest, its not what i know i want (does that make sense)??! He?s not on my wavelength at all, and even though we?re the same age..its like im light years ahead in terms of maturity.

Thanks guys..i know i said it before, but this one is gone for good 🙂

p.s, capangel...the other scorp from the other earlier phoned me yesterday but i missed the call!!

Oh my God! How many topics about "Scorp guys" can we possibly make——

Yea but, there should be a magazine for this kind of thing. It seems like every other topic is about, "What a Scorp male thinks" or, "The secrets a Scorp male carries" or even, "How to seduce your Scorpio male."

I can answer all three right now.

1. We want a beer and something naked.

2. We don't want to share our thoughts because we have none.

3. Give us a beer and something naked.

We are seen as complex because we are just a little different. As long as you use the word "guy", you can put it next to any word (even Scorpio) and you still have simplicity.

irish! Why can't you stay in one place?