A Friend In Need

A friend of mine is dating a Scorpio (as am I) and would like feedback to the following questions. I cannot give her answers because I know very little about Scorpio's but maybe your response would help the both of us.

Her Scorpio wants to be exclusive but doesn't want expectations. She feels this is a way of having your cake and eating it too. I disagree because they ARE exclusive. To have your cake and eat it too would be dating other people. In any event, she wants the relationship to progress and it appears that whenever she tells him this he asks her such questions as, ?Where do you want it to go?? etc. He told her he likes the way things are but when she tells him she is unsure whether or not she likes the way things are, he suggests they spend more time together and do more together.

I have no idea what to tell her. This confuses me as well. Does anyone know what he is trying to say? Does he really deep down want the relationship to progress and is hiding how he feels? Why does he always suggest they do more and see more of each other when she appears to be confused? Does he feel threatened that she will break it off?

I heard that when a Scorpio is in love you'll know it. This doesn't sound like love to me. He doesn't appear to be ?hunting her down?.

Any advice/comments would be great!

Hell, I wish my man was like hers!! Mine has his cake and eats it too.

Anyway, this isn't about me. It sounds like he cares very much for her. Otherwise he wouldn't insist on them doing so much and being together so much. Men will distance you if they don't want to get close. It sounds like he may be wanting to "test the waters" of their relationship for a while to see if it is going to be a solid relationship that will stand the test of time, and a full commitment.

You didn't mention how long they've been together, how old they are, whether they're financially stable, have ex-husband/wife, kids, etc. All of these elements can cause people to take it slowly to see where things are going.

Also, the fact that he turns the question on her "where do you want this to go," sounds to me like a tale tale sign that he definitely wants the relationship to progress and he wants to hear her say it.

If she really loves him, tell her to be patient and nurture the relationship. Maybe even backing off of pressuring him to know where it's going will prompt him to start the ball rolling. As long as she's anxious to know, he knows he has her hooked. If she'll act like she's no longer interested in knowing, he may then start the pursuit that she's wanting. If it is meant to be, it will work out. I wish her, and you too, good luck.

Thanks for the response. I called her right away and read her your opinion; she's pleased. She said it sounds like you pretty much hit the nail on the head and wants to know if you have any other information that may be helpful regarding the personality of a Scorpio (I'd like to know myself). I believe she said his birthday is in November.

They are both in their mid-thirties, no children, financially stable and have been seeing each other for about six months. He's never been married and she is divorced.

Thanks again!

My response was based purely on my feel for the way his behaviour sounded and not specifically on the way a "Scorpio" man "is." Unfortunately, my man is the first Scorpio I've ever been with and he's definitely not exclusive with me. So, my experience with a Scropio in romance is limited and apparently I got a lemon.

However, there are alot of postings on this web site though that should give some insight into the scorpio male. There are both good and bad and in between, like most men. I'd suggest reading as much as you can on Scorpios to get a feel for their characteristics.

again, good luck to the both of you.

She should thank God he's not hunting her down. If he were then she would have something to worry about. I personally don't think that he loves her yet. And believe me he won't if she starts dramas and games to get him to do reactionary displays of possession. If she wants him why would she wonder why he wants to spend more time together and be involved in more activities. What does she want? I don't understand what the problem is. This is why I say she wants dramatic displays of possession. I don't think she's ready to be loved the way mature scorpio needs to love. If it is not broke don't fix it.

I agree. I thought, by the comments, we were talking about teenagers. I can't believe we're talking about grown ups in their thirties. What in the hell is going on with women these days? Ladies, if we expect men to be mature we have to be mature, ourselves. This female doesn't sound mature, at all. You're right. She doesn't sound like she knows what she wants. I'm not saying her Scorpio is genuine or a rat. I'm simply saying that I can understand where the confusion would come in. Why would you ask someone you care about, who's supposed to care about you..."Why do you want to spend more time with me?" Hello! What is that about? It sounds extremely immature. Either you're worth a man's time or you're not. If you don't think you are, you won't have his time for long.

I am amazed on the amount of good advise being spead on this subject. I am glad I am older and wiser and I wouldn't want to be anything less than 40 anymore. It takes that many miles of bad road to get to a place of maturity.

Why not just enjoy one another for what ever 'it' is. And like my grandmother you to say "what will be will be."

I am finally in a place where I've worked through most of that stuff, and the twist is there is no one around to share it with...Oh well, I still have the company of my animals, and I still have hope. I would like to fall in love again someday, but I am not sitting aroung waiting for it to happen. I can still go inside my thoughts and remember.

I dont mean to be rude but why are you staying with him 204.167? Dont you think you deserve better?