advice needed - scorpio male is sulking

I've met this scorpio on an online dating site, we have been writing since beginning of July, nearly every day. This is mainly a sexual thing - he wants to explore his submissive side and sees me as a dominant woman who can give that to him. But we also noticed that we have a scaring amount of interests in common. He says things like he can only think about me, I own him etc. etc. We already skyped a few times. Since he lives in a different country, we haven't met yet but he is supposed to come for a visit next weekend, we booked a hotel already.
I signed off that dating site a good while ago, but when realising he was still active, I signed back in 2 weeks ago just to keep my options open. The day I signed back in, he writes me a message he deleted his account because he is "too busy" 😉 (which he did). I stayed signed in anyway.

The thing he is doing recently is the following: he suggests to skype spontaneously, most of the time I can't because I have other plans (besides, I'm not jumping though hoops...), I suggest a different time, he says he can't but suggest an alternative - usually very late at night.
there have been 2 or 3 times already he said we will skype later on this evening and then he was not home until midnight. Fair enough, if we do not agree on a specific time, that might cause a misunderstanding. So I was never really angry with him, he would also apologise very dramatically. He just moved country and is in the middle of settling down with apartment, studies etc. maybe that's also important to know. I already told him once, in a nice jokingly way he should just let me know if he cannot make it. BUT Saturday, we were supposed to skype at a specific time which HE suggested (after the usual back-and-forth about when we both have time to). He said at the stroke of midnight he would be there at my convenience. Stroke of midnight, nothing happened. I wrote a message after half an hour that if he suggests a time he should stick to it. That I hate when people waste my time by not showing up and I find this disrespectful. He only read this message the other day, NO reply whatsoever.

Any idea what to do now?
it seems to me he is sulking and punishing me for giving out to him?!
Or doesn't he dare apologising because he knows there is no acceptable excuse for this anyway?

Does this behaviour come from the fact he might be pissed off that I am still on that dating site?

I am a Virgo with rising sign Scorpio and I thought I understoo

This doesn't sound like mainly a sexual thing or you being dominant. He's 'topping from the bottom' as they say. If he's truly submissive and looking for this type of relationship or arrangement then you need to step away as it's clearly not your thing and you're looking for something different, something that is not this.

Yes, a submissive scorpio seems to be rare indeed. But for some reason he wants to explore this. I think he always had his way with the ladies and it was way too easy for him, he got bored. I agree this is not mainly sexual anymore, from both sides and developing into something else.
I already came to the conclusing he is trying to be dominant, in a sneaky way. I am just confused on how to handle this situation now?
Leave him alone and cancel the hotel since I cannot be sure he will come over for that visit?

Posted by Shanai
Yes, a submissive scorpio seems to be rare indeed. But for some reason he wants to explore this. I think he always had his way with the ladies and it was way too easy for him, he got bored. I agree this is not mainly sexual anymore, from both sides and developing into something else.
I already came to the conclusing he is trying to be dominant, in a sneaky way. I am just confused on how to handle this situation now?
Leave him alone and cancel the hotel since I cannot be sure he will come over for that visit?

Well I guess meeting him the first time in a booked hotel will answer all your questions. Yet you say the other ladies were too easy?

lol....Ok.

Yes, that's at least what he said, most women in the past bored him.

Anyway, I told him to think about what exactly he wants and that if he wants to do the sub/dom thing he has to stick to the rules, no sneaky games.

I cancelled the hotel and will leave it up to him to organize the next meeting. He confessed that he does not feel whole enough to meet me yet, since he is in bits about a dispute with his mother. I"ll just give it a rest for the moment. Thanks everyone for their advice, I'll definitely think about if / how I want to continue with the whole thing.

Good advice Ram. Good on OP for cancelling and taking charge. Hope you work it out. There's various websites which are good for assisting with being a Domme. I won't put them up here! Just google but you're looking for more educational, thought proboking stuff rather than porn. You can see if this really is something to float your boat and the best way is to go for it and practice. You might want to take the lead and help your sub identify what he might lie and what works for both. Being Domme isn't always about barking orders and sticking pins in his willy!

Other perks can be that they clean your house (as my mate did with her sub, she's well into it all and does it professionally, I just found it funny when I went round there) but it's definitely more of a mind thing.

thanks, will check out this site. And then see how it goes 🙂