Scorpio man only contacts me if i pull back. Why?

We've been texting back and forth but he has not called at all. So I haven't either. We text a lot and he flirts a lot with me. However, I noticed that I initiate the conversation 75% of the time. One day I decided to not contact him first because I was annoyed with doing it and he didn't contact me until the next day on his own. Like wth! Why is he only contacting me if he doesn't hear from me? Does he even like me or is he playing games? What should I do? I feel like cutting him off because I hate playing games.

Thanks for the advice in advance.

-Pisces sun
Aries moon
Capricorn Venus

He's Scorpio sun, Sagittarius moon, Sagittarius Venus

With statistics of 75% you haven't really given him the chance to miss you and therefore initiate. That's normal. I'd pull back more and ease off so it gives him room to breathe.

What is it you want from him?

Posted by AgentP911
With statistics of 75% you haven't really given him the chance to miss you and therefore initiate. That's normal. I'd pull back more and ease off so it gives him room to breathe.

What is it you want from him?

I definitely agree with giving him room to breathe. I don't think I've given him the chance to prove whether he liked me or not. It also kept me from knowing his intentions towards me as well. I have not spoken to him since Wednesday so I think his actions, or lack thereof, proved to me that he's not really interested as it seemed.

In general, I want a relationship with a man that values me, respects me, and takes me seriously. From him? To show consistency and interest so that I can show this back to him. Once i know a guy is all in I give my full attention to them.

That sounds reasonable to me. I think the pulling back will provide the opportunity for him to engage with you, if he wants to. What's the history, have you met or is this online?

Control.

Posted by Dapadon
We've been texting back and forth but he has not called at all. So I haven't either. We text a lot and he flirts a lot with me. However, I noticed that I initiate the conversation 75% of the time. One day I decided to not contact him first because I was annoyed with doing it and he didn't contact me until the next day on his own. Like wth! Why is he only contacting me if he doesn't hear from me? Does he even like me or is he playing games? What should I do? I feel like cutting him off because I hate playing games.

Thanks for the advice in advance.

-Pisces sun
Aries moon
Capricorn Venus

He's Scorpio sun, Sagittarius moon, Sagittarius Venus

Have you met in person yet?

Posted by AgentP911
That sounds reasonable to me. I think the pulling back will provide the opportunity for him to engage with you, if he wants to. What's the history, have you met or is this online?

We met on tinder.

Just an update:

I saw on his Twitter account that he was venting about some girl "rejecting" him because she wasnt interested. He seemed pretty upset about it even though it's hard to interpret text on social media. I'm wondering if he was talking about me? If it's another girl, I wonder if that could also be the reason he hasn't been initiating? Crazy but it gives me some type of clue to go off of.

Well, there's two scenarios here...

Either he's talking about you and he's perceived you as rejecting him even though you haven't done anything to actually reject him which would mean he's a bit of a fruit cake.

Or he's not talking about you and he's referring to someone else who he's been dating and I'd say he was quite into her to take to social media to vent about it which, in my opinion, is rather immature and shows you how he deals with things.

What this does tell you is it might be prudent to give him a wide birth. How old are you guys?

Posted by Dapadon
Just an update:

I saw on his Twitter account that he was venting about some girl "rejecting" him because she wasnt interested. He seemed pretty upset about it even though it's hard to interpret text on social media. I'm wondering if he was talking about me? If it's another girl, I wonder if that could also be the reason he hasn't been initiating? Crazy but it gives me some type of clue to go off of.

Did you read what I wrote in the Pisces forum? I told you that story about me and my bf for a reason.

I've just read the same post on the Pisces forum.

You guys haven't even met in person. Wtf!!

Why are you even asking anything about this? It's been two weeks of bullshit texting and the dude hasn't asked to meet you in person. He's not that interested. I think Khaos said it perfectly in the Pusces thread. You're just filling in boredom for him. Tinder is ok but you need to separate the shit from the not too shit exceptionally quickly. A little messaging to see if you have common ground and if you're looking for the same thing and then he asks you out. You meet up. You take it from there. Not this endless bullshit texting.

Posted by Dapadon

Posted by AgentP911
That sounds reasonable to me. I think the pulling back will provide the opportunity for him to engage with you, if he wants to. What's the history, have you met or is this online?

We met on tinder.

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So you haven't met then. That's what I thought.

Posted by Dapadon
Just an update:

I saw on his Twitter account that he was venting about some girl "rejecting" him because she wasnt interested. He seemed pretty upset about it even though it's hard to interpret text on social media. I'm wondering if he was talking about me? If it's another girl, I wonder if that could also be the reason he hasn't been initiating? Crazy but it gives me some type of clue to go off of.

Read this:

According to Vanity Fair Tinder is nothing more than a whore fest for young men.

From Vanity Fair on Tinder:

"You could talk to two or three girls at a bar and pick the best one, or you can swipe a couple hundred people a day—the sample size is so much larger. It’s setting up two or three Tinder dates a week and, chances are, sleeping with all of them, so you could rack up 100 girls you’ve slept with in a year.”He says that he himself has slept with five different women he met on Tinder—“Tinderellas,” the guys call them—in the last eight days."
"Alex, his friends agree, is a Tinder King, a young man of such deft “text game”—“That’s the ability to actually convince someone to do something over text,” Marty explains—that he is able to entice young women into his bed on the basis of a few text exchanges, while letting them know up front he is not interested in having a relationship."

"But Marty, who prefers Hinge to Tinder (“Hinge is my thing”), is no slouch at “racking up girls.” He says he’s slept with 30 to 40 women in the last year: “I sort of play that I could be a boyfriend kind of guy,” in order to win them over, “but then they start wanting me tocare more … and I just don’t.”"

So are you looking to laid and then dumped like trash? If so, wait patiently in line for this chump. He'll be back. I promise.

Posted by AgentP911
I've just read the same post on the Pisces forum.

You guys haven't even met in person. Wtf!!

Why are you even asking anything about this? It's been two weeks of bullshit texting and the dude hasn't asked to meet you in person. He's not that interested. I think Khaos said it perfectly in the Pusces thread. You're just filling in boredom for him. Tinder is ok but you need to separate the shit from the not too shit exceptionally quickly. A little messaging to see if you have common ground and if you're looking for the same thing and then he asks you out. You meet up. You take it from there. Not this endless bullshit texting.

If you looked on the Pisces forum you will see that I've come to a resolution already. Thanks anyway I guess

Posted by LetltB
So are you looking to laid and then dumped like trash? If so, wait patiently in line for this chump. He'll be back. I promise.

So late and unneccessary. Bored? Go kick rocks..