Another Gemini/Scorpio Quagmire

Met a scorpio guy online last November, we exchanged daily emails for two weeks before deciding to meet up... It wasn’t love at first sight but he slowly grew on me. We have the same interests, the same values… I love the way he thinks, his kindness, his attention to details when it comes to planning dates and trying to please me.

The problem is, we’re both very stubborn. The power play started a couple of weeks into our relationship (I use this term loosely as we haven’t had the “talk”) and culminated at the end of January when I ignored one of his text messages. I eventually replied two days later and he decided to freeze me out for an entire month. I couldn’t sleep, eat, let alone focus at work… It hurt like hell but I was determined to stand my ground and did not contact him once.

He resurfaced two weeks ago and invited me to one of my favorite events. No apologies, no explanations as to where he was during that month…Nothing. I was fuming but politely declined. I didn’t mention his disappearing act either.

He reached out again telling me that he was about to go on a business trip and practically begging me to meet him before his trip. I had something else scheduled on the day he wanted to meet so I proposed an alternative date and asked him if that day would work for him. He knew he wouldn't be available but waited TWO days to tell me he wouldn't be able to make it. I wass so fed up at that point. I decided to ignore him.

I’m on day 9 of no contact. Part of me wants to reach out to him and try to patch things up but I feel like it's going to do more harm than good. Stupid mind games... I should have called him out on his BS at the first offense instead of playing along...

Is this salvageable?

Run Gem, run.

Posted by Opti_Mystic
Met a scorpio guy online last November, we exchanged daily emails for two weeks before deciding to meet up... It wasn’t love at first sight but he slowly grew on me. We have the same interests, the same values… I love the way he thinks, his kindness, his attention to details when it comes to planning dates and trying to please me.

The problem is, we’re both very stubborn. The power play started a couple of weeks into our relationship (I use this term loosely as we haven’t had the “talk”) and culminated at the end of January when I ignored one of his text messages. I eventually replied two days later and he decided to freeze me out for an entire month. I couldn’t sleep, eat, let alone focus at work… It hurt like hell but I was determined to stand my ground and did not contact him once.

He resurfaced two weeks ago and invited me to one of my favorite events. No apologies, no explanations as to where he was during that month…Nothing. I was fuming but politely declined. I didn’t mention his disappearing act either.

He reached out again telling me that he was about to go on a business trip and practically begging me to meet him before his trip. I had something else scheduled on the day he wanted to meet so I proposed an alternative date and asked him if that day would work for him. He knew he wouldn't be available but waited TWO days to tell me he wouldn't be able to make it. I wass so fed up at that point. I decided to ignore him.

I’m on day 9 of no contact. Part of me wants to reach out to him and try to patch things up but I feel like it's going to do more harm than good. Stupid mind games... I should have called him out on his BS at the first offense instead of playing along...

Is this salvageable?

Hmm.. something different.

You say it culminated in you ignoring a message he sent,

for two days.

How did it begin?