Attracting the wrong people?

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Dreamer02
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When I started dating after after getting divorced, was meeting a bunch of duds. Another emotionally unavailable Aqua, a too-proud Taurus, a Colombian gigolo (LOL). And I was the girl who always met decent guys w/ no problem (lucky I guess). I was like WTF, man? Finally, I realized I was trying too hard and I was attracting ppl who were exactly where I was: not really ready.

I've always hated dating anyway and decided to just focus on myself, my career, my spiritual growth. And was quite proud of my decision. Then BOOM, when I wasn't looking, 9 months ago I meet this fucking AWESOME Aries, and we have been dating for a few months now. I SWEAR, he is exactly what I envisioned/projected and what I prayed for. Its crazy. smh 🙂
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When I started dating after after getting divorced, was meeting a bunch of duds. Another emotionally unavailable Aqua, a too-proud Taurus, a Colombian gigolo (LOL). And I was the girl who always met decent guys w/ no problem (lucky I guess). I was like WTF, man? Finally, I realized I was trying too hard and I was attracting ppl who were exactly where I was: not really ready.

I've always hated dating anyway and decided to just focus on myself, my career, my spiritual growth. And was quite proud of my decision. Then BOOM, when I wasn't looking, 9 months ago I meet this fucking AWESOME Aries, and we have been dating for a few months now. I SWEAR, he is exactly what I envisioned/projected and what I prayed for. Its crazy. smh 🙂



Love this! That's what I'm doing now. Just focusing on myself. So far so good 🙂
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Posted by Dreamer02
always hated dating anyway and decided to just focus on myself, my career, my spiritual growth. And was quite proud of my decision. Then BOOM, when I wasn't looking, 9 months ago I meet this fucking AWESOME Aries, and we have been dating for a few months now. I SWEAR, he is exactly what I envisioned/projected and what I prayed for. Its crazy. smh 🙂



That's what I've been doing... for literally years ... more like, putting out a loner "dont touch me" vibe while I got over my ex marriage. Earlier this year I started to feel like i could stand a guy in my life again, and bingo... they started cropping up... with mixed results. The two guys I really liked were either unavailable (still getting over a divorce) or had a fatal flaw (l.i.a.r.). So, I'm currently in travel mode, not looking, but for the past two or three weeks, I've apparently got a magnet on me for guys that are great, but just don't capture my interest.

I agree that I have got to be back in "not looking" mode, but not to the extreme of "don't touch me."
Interesting to note that I met the two guys I really liked this year literally while at my laptop working.
Thanky for the input, y'all! You rock.
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AutumnalChick
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Okay I'm glad it's not just me.

Guys who are into me lately have been MUCH younger than I am, and I won't lie, that is great for my ego, but I'm not interested in dating someone young enough to be my kid (if I'd been slutty and gotten knocked up at a young age 😉 )
Recently I met someone I thought was great .. close to my age, same interests, smart, fun, sweet, super cute, interesting job ... and it turned out he just broke up with his fiancee a MONTH ago and is very much not ready to date again. And I don't want to be anybody's rebound, either. Yet another guy (among VERY few) whom I've actually liked who is unavailable.

So using this line of logic discussed here ... we attract what we are ready for ... I'm immature 😉 and not ready for a relationship even though I think I am
Paging Dr Freud ... Dr Freud to the Scorpio board, stat.