Breaking up gently with a Scorpio

Is there such a thing? I'm a Pisces and usually I just stop taking calls from guys I don't want to see again, but he deserves better than that. He's not a bad guy, I just am unhappy and want out. I don't want to lie but don't want to be drawn into unnecessary conversation because then I WILL lie. 😢 Any advice? I want to do this ASAP because he is talking about us going to his cousin's wedding in May in Jamaica, and I need to get out of this relationship before he starts making plans and buying stuff. Thank you!

Thank you Starfish.

The thing is, I am intimidated and scared of him. He's never been violent, but I feel he has those tendencies. I can't be in a relationship where I'm cringing all the time. I need a more sensitive guy and he needs a tougher female, I think. That's why I want to be "nice" - I don't want him to hurt me, and I'm afraid he might. 😢

Estherfish

WOW... he intimidates you? Sorry to hear that, I can just imagine what you have been going throught gee, that if fucked up.. We can be intimidating but you should not let that get to you. I was not going to say anything but now I know the reason why you want to leave him. Let him know how he makes you feel, and be honest and look him in the eye and tell him. Don't be scare we are not violent people just vindictive.

starfish

The phone might be better, but just tell him stright out...

Starfish, thank you for that advice. Phone would probably be best at this point. He is out of town on business tonight, so will have to wait until tomorrow. That probably is better since I can know what to say.

Scorpionlady, I think in the heart, he's a good person and wants love, but he is a bully to me and I am really sensitive and can't deal with that. Like last night, I ordered dinner for us and he said on his steak sandwich, ask for no onions. So I did and the girl asked me if I wanted peppers. Since I didn't know the sandwich came with peppers, I said no. So he picks it up and first thing he says to me is "Why did you order without peppers?" So I think I ruined his dinner and then he says "Nah, I hate peppers, but I asked you to order without onions. I never said don't order peppers." That sort of mindfuck type stuff makes me want to run far away from him. He says I am too soft but that I have a fiery side. Once he made me so mad I called him an asshole and told him to get the fuck out of my apartment. He was in the process of leaving, but as soon as I said that, he sat down and started telling me why he was so upset. And then later he said he was being an asshole and he's glad I told him off. But that's not really me and I don't like to get that angry.

It's funny because we met on match.com and for awhile, I dated him and 3 others (no sex with any during dating). Him, a Leo, an Aries and a Gemini. When I decided to date Scorpio exclusively, I let the others know and the Leo said if I changed my mind and wanted to be treated like a queen to call him and the Aries said no problem because he wanted to date around more and the Gemini never called me back! It's just funny because I'm getting more into astrology and seeing some of the sterotypes of different signs. 🙂

I say still stay be honest.

We like honesty remember, and if she beats around the bush he is probably going to question her to death about "what she mean she needs more of a gently guy" he is going question it, no doubt...

Hell if a man told me that he needed a more gently women I would want him to explain it until I am satified with the answer.

I dont think telling him that he intimidates her is wrong to do.

"He says I am too soft but that I have a fiery side. Once he made me so mad I called him an asshole and told him to get the fuck out of my apartment. He was in the process of leaving, but as soon as I said that, he sat down and started telling me why he was so upset. And then later he said he was being an asshole and he's glad I told him off. But that's not really me and I don't like to get that angry."

And this is why he do what he does. scropios don't like weak people we will play on that hard and try and get you to be a bit stronger...

You should have been going toe to toe with him not fighting or holleriing but just standing your ground.. If he jumped on you for not getting the peppers or etc.. I would have been like "Look next time order your own dam food" Just let him know what he is doing wrong..

Was'nt it another girl that went through this same crap not long ago? Where is she...

Yea well the decision is up to EstherFish, she needs to do it the way she feels comfortable...

*hides under table waiting for other dxp memebers*

That's how I feel about it.

I would want a person to be honest with me. I would respect that more than to find out later that they was sparing my feelings. I would look at it as punk ass way to get out of a the relatioship.

Hell he might cuss her out regardless of how she says it.

Ugh, no Cancer men anymore. One stalked me on campus, I had to call campus security and they "talked" to him. He still tried to follow me around but he transferred. Then about a year ago, he tried to add me on myspace! 😢 Ugh, no. No offense, but my daddy was Cancer and he was crazy, too, so I sort of have a bias.

I understand about the tuffness, but it's just not me. I will speak up when I get mad, but I don't go around mean mugging just for the sake of it. He seemed so disappointed about his sandwich and I don't like to disappoint people I care about. I can be too sensitive sometimes I guess, but it's how I am. It is just a mismatch I think. He would be great with either you guys starfish and scorpiolady 🙂 But for me, I just need a guy who understands that I am softspoken and shy and that I'm not going to be cutting up just for the sake of it.

Thanks, I feel so much better now, but I had to comment on the Cancer men. LOL, nevah again!! 🙂

Call him on his shit. You will reverse the roles. They love a woman who don't take thier crap. I can handle scorp men famously. I guess because I am a scorp and will just let them know how it is. Trust me bullies are really teddy bears, especially scorp men. You should have told him to order his own sandwich next time! He would have shut up then. Trust me. Nah, you two aren't good for eachother. He feels you aren't enough of a challenge and you feel he is taking advantage of you, which he is because he doesn't feel you are a challenge.

I agree Cancer men are waaaayyyy too clingy.

EF: I am intimidated and scared of him. & he is a bully to me and I am really sensitive and can't deal with that.

You don't have to!

If you have male relatives and/or friends, have (at least) one present when you talk to the ScorpGuy in person, and try to remain as calm as you can when you tell him it's over. Most bullies won't try anything with another guy there; but if you think the Scorp might, make sure the guy on your side can kick his sorry ass!

Awww, EF, you sound like a real sweetie. A double Pisces, maybe? Is it your rising sign also? With a Scorpio man, you def. have to call them out on their bull shit or you will be in misery! I am not surprised you are unhappy. I understand if you feel uncomfortable confronting him, and the phone idea or as DY suggested, having another male present may be the best way to go. Whatever you decide, though, be honest with him. One of the toughest lessons for Pisces is learning to handle confrontation. If you keep avoiding it, you will only be thrown into more situations that demand it, and who wants that?

Pisces/Scorpio can be a wonderful match, but so can Capricorn/Pisces. You seem like a good candidate for a goat man. Just food for thought. Good luck! 😉

SS: Pisces/Scorpio can be a wonderful match

Yep. My Scorp Brother may have finally found his match...

'bout damn time!!