Broke up W/ Scorpio

Did he cheat? No, Did he hit me? No,.. He actually lied to me about something pretty important. I Found out when he was 19 he had sex with a 15 and 13 y/o at a party. Only reason i found out is because when we got stopped by a cop they ran us and i heard them say he was a registered sex offender. He told me he wanted to tell me but couldnt.. Uhm yea, i am a model mother in my town. I coach kids soccer,and baseball. I am leader of my schools PTA,I Donate my time to big sister,and work part time at boys and girls club. I Have an award for being an outstanding citizen in my community. On tyop of all my volunteer work, I am going to school fro criminal justice. This could have ruined me! He was gonna register my address without telling me!!!.. I Had to break it off, I Loved him,but that kind of lie and background, it would never work out.

I am sorry to hear the sad news.. 😢

For me, past is past.. he was only 19.. the girls he had sex with were 15/13... 4-6 years gap...they were both simple too young.. now if he's 30..and he had sex with a 15 or 13 year old.. that I would be scared about..

anyway, I understand how you feel..I, too, was burned by a Scorpio.. he didn't tell me he had a child from another woman. I found out about after 6 months dating... I was hurt.. but i was stupid back then.. i took him back and gave him another chance.. only to find out he was still married with the mother of the child... he gave the same BS your scorpio did.. "I wanted to tell you but I was scared to lose you" (dah dah dah)

Indeed Scorpio men have something hidden in their sleeves.. never trust them at first sight.. no matter how good/perfect they seem to be..there are always skeletons in their closets.. LOL

Awww... I'm sorry hun. I remember you speaking so well of him. I hope he resolves everything he needs to, and I'm glad you're putting yourself first.

Wow, that's just plain fucked up. Buy a friggin gun woman. If he can fuck a youngin, there's no telling what he can do next now that you cut him off. Also, try to buy it from a small mom-n-pop gun joint. I bought a pistol from a large store, and I paid $ 150-200 more than what I could've bought it for at a smaller shop.

I SOMEWHAT agree with BG, at least about how he may have made a drunken mistake, but he lied about it, and tried to get registered at her address. That's messed up for sure. All I can say though is I hope those underage chicks really did look older. He shoulda checked for IDs though.

Luckily I don't fuck at regular gettogethergetdrunk parties.

I'm sorry this happened CG. Big ol' HUGS for you.

I feel bad for the guy, I do. I've seen several young men ruined by an underage hoochie that pressed charges (or her parents did), esp when the guy hit it and quit it. And that Sex Offender albatross hangs around your neck for YEARS.. 20-25 minimum in Michigan, last I knew. So I really feel for him about this terrible situation.

HOWEVER... regardless of whether he "deserves" his lasting punishment (The List) or not... the truth is what she said.. it could RUIN her in her town.. ESP the Criminal Justice part, and ESP because she has children. I understand his reluctance in telling her, but I cannot condone it -- nor can I agree with him thinking he might just mosey on down to the local cop shop when his next 3 month check-in was required, and blithely scribbling down HER address as his home residence. They DO make home visits occasionally... and if they showed up to check that the registered address was correct, and saw evidence that children live there... a whole WORLD of hurt could have started raining down on her head before she knew it. Next, she'd be fighting Protective Services JUST to keep her kids and would STILL have to get rid of the boyfriend!

I know it's hard, CG - but I'm proud of you for doing the right thing by you and your children. Kudos!

A seemingly good relationship has ended.

A person lied and the lie was discovered by a dramatic means (cop etc.).

You have standards for yourself and others, that is to be admired, I think all women (and men) should respect themselves more like you do.

But, the incident was personal for you, and not sure what we can say other than, that sucks.

I hope you told him what and why you broke up, truthfully so he knows how to do right the next time, you don't have to explain how he should live his life, but of all this talking, he should know why you couldn't be with him.

You speak about how your life almost got screwed up, well that you solved, now that you have posted the story here, all that has happened is we now get to say, sorry it happened? and then everyone gets to dump on this guy without knowing him.

G-dforbid anyone, to include you, make a life mistake and then have it publicized and discussed over and over, so that rectifying the mistake seems even more daunting.

*shrug* I feel CG is sharing because it hurts her, and this can help her work through her pain. Also, she's been here for years and talks about her life a lot, and it would soon be very obvious that she and the Scorp broke up - now it's all out in the open, instead of her going through having to explain to well-meaning and concerned DXP friends over and over.

Actually, I did not read a single comment (not even from CG herself) really hardcore downing this guy... most of us know a guy who got screwed over by a system meant to protect children from pedophiles, but often chewing up young men and ruining their lives for a youthful indiscretion. Most of us were mostly concerned that he'd kept it from her, KNOWING how much it could damage her life and reputation.

CG,
I can understand your hurt. But then he was only 19 then and may be as others said the girls could have acted more mature and fooled him just for the thrill of getting laid. As someone else said many of them appear more mature and fuller for their age.

The man did something knowingly or unknowingly in the past when he was just 19. Can't love, if it is 'pure and true' forgive that ? ---especially and very importantly if he has not repeated it again - as Mr Nice said ? Isn't true love unconditional and forgiving ?

Moreover if your love is true then it should surpass everything and it should not make you worry about your position in society. I am talking about pure all encompassing total love here...nothing less.

Sorry CG, you remind me of my beloved sister, I didn't mean to come down hard, I want you to be proud of who you are and know you rock this world. You are admirable in so many ways, I don't want you to feel fumbled up by someone who lied to you, that is all I want.

Thank you guys for not slammin me down when i am down. I am still depressed as hell about this. We sat and had a long conversation that involved us both crying pretty damn hard. It was so hard on us. He let me into his mysterious shell. He told me why and how. He said that he was 19 at a party, and he was into drinking and meth real bad. He had smoked meth for 3 days. He than went to a party and was real down and depressed, two girls he said he swore one was 18 and the other 17. He did what he did, and later found out their age and never talked to them again. His 18 y/o brother who had a crush on the 15 y/o turned him in,and told the girls parents who had him put in prison for 5 years. Now i know why he wanted to see my I.D when we met. He cried and told me that because of that incident no woman wants to date him and he wanted to tell me but he was scared, and he was gonna tell me before he registered. Yea, we lived together. He said that incedent was the reason he was drug free and wont drink with me. He just moved out, but we vowed to stay friends. We hang out with each other all the time. I would be with him, but with my reputation as an outstanding citizen of my community i cant. I Go to law school and they randomly drug test me and run my background,one false move and i can be thrown out of school. Let*It*Be i am going to be a Bounty Hunter like my dad. I have also done underground thai-boxing for 14 years and i am in my local fight club. I Still love him, and always will. I Know we make mistakes, my first husband was 19 and i was 16 when we first had sex... So who am i to judge, and my ex wasnt screwed up and knew my age. Ya know? Its sad the only reason we cant be with each other is because i have kids with an ex that would love a reason to take the kids, and the work i am in. He will always have my heart..

I Know beetle, it does suck, i am still not over him. He is coming over tonight to watch TrueBlood with me and eat popcorn. It will be hard for me to look at him because there is still that chemistry between us. But neither of us will make a move, we made a pact we would stay friends and not get it anymore complicated than it needs to be. At least i still have him to talk to, because he always listens and doesnt tell anyone my secrets, and my friends and family think i left him because i am not ready for a relationship, i wouldnt dare tell his secret, i rather look like a mean b*tch than betray his trust. Thats just me, well gotta run he just got here,i hear his truck outside! and trueblood will be on soon! Love you guys! *huggs*

HAHAHA! Gotta love how picesprincess shows her concern for OP and yet has an avatar like she does. What a hypocrite.