cancer mom driving me insane

oh my god, my cancer mom drives me insane. she asks way too many questions about everything going on in my life and tries to imply that i can't take care of myself. i just got really annoyed at her and said, "mom, you're subconsciously training me to put up with emotional abuse from women." and then she FLIPPED OUT (scorpio rising) and put me on this huge guilt trip (she's good at those.)

what bugs the most is that when i want to talk to her about shit that's going on in my life that *I* care about (namely my failing love life) she laughs at me and then asks what i had for breakfast, how good the oatmeal was, if i got my new apartment key, makes sure i didn't leave it in the door on the way into the house, if my room is clean, if i had trouble putting the sheets on my bed. I'M NOT EVEN KIDDING!

shaka, before you make posts it's generally a good idea to know what the fuck you're talking about. 😉

Well, it just sounds like she is not taking you seriously, or not how you would like her to take you.

This could be both annoying or refreshing, depending on how badly you want / need her to listen to how you feel or vaidate your emotions 🙂

"she asks way too many questions about everything going on in my life and tries to imply that i can't take care of myself"

Her implying that you cannot take care of yourself is a tried and true cancer mommy. I had one of those. She was the biggest worrywort and even so I adored her she never truly let me be an adult she was always babying me even when I didnt want her too. Thats the funny thing with parents you can up and move to Uganda for years but when you come back its that same dynamic.. The relationship between parent & child hardly changes a great deal. You will have to take her with a grain of salt..and realise that she is not perfect but you are lucky she is still alive for you. She may not take you seriously in the love department but I think you should level with her and let her know what is important to you. Also caller Id always helps with moms that want to talk all the time.. But be sure to make the time you speak or see her quality time. You dont have to answer the phone every single time she calls. Especially if she tends to be exasperating.

marchgirl, the pics in your prof are freakin' adorable. if they weren't so wild and dangerous and stuff, they'd be soooo cute. i'd like to play with one myself, lol.

do you see how fluffy it is? and look at that face. awww.

thanks.. i thought it was neat too. My girlfriend sent it to me through email bout a month ago. When I first saw it I was certain the polar bear would eat the doggies.. but no I think it was very heartwarming.

i'd also like to point out that huskies are pretty big dogs, but they look small compared to that big ole puffball. it could have killed them easily...must have been well fed. 😛

lol that's a funny story. my cancer mom is cool too.