crabapple
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Cancer/venus in gemini VS Scorpio/venus in sag
Hello scorpios,
Please help me with this.
I am a cancer sun/leo moon/gemini venus, while my ex-boyfriend is a scorpio with venus in sag.
We had been together for a year, and things had been great till he started disappearing sporadically.
I felt neglected, but left him alone every time he went away because I didn't want to push him away further... besides, he always came back to me anyway. Always came back and said he missed me and that he still loved me. ._.
One month ago he started acting strange again, and this time he was even colder to me than before. He wouldn't talk to me, and only asked me over when he wanted sex.
I tried my best to just do as I've always done, because my own work load was piling up, but I couldn't get past how emotionally unfulfilled I was. I called him out on his behavior and told him how hurt I was by it, and how I felt like I was just a booty call to him. He shrugged it off, and said that nothing was the matter.
We went on a 'break' from one another, and two weeks later he abruptly dumped me on FB...
He told me he still loved me and truly loved me, but his family forbids him from marrying a foreign woman like me (I'm straits chinese, while he's vietnamese) and that he couldn't talk to me as comfortably as he could do so like before because the sparks were gone. He told me that we could still be friends, and that we could even try to patch things up again (despite saying that his family will never be able to accept me).
My heart broke, and I've been crying uncontrollably for the last two weeks that he's been gone.
Yesterday he came back to me again, and said, "How are you? How is work? Please take care of yourself, alright?" He said that somehow he doesn't feel awkward talking to me at all.
We chatted for a while and somehow he brought up the topic of bringing new men into my life, and how he was a 100% sure that "men will be all around me" (I quote him). I told him that I haven't moved on yet, and that I still need some time.
He said, "You will take time but in the end you will get over it. I hope."
Somehow it ended with me telling him how much I missed him, and with him pleading with me not to think about it anymore. He said, "Didn't we agree that this was for the best of both of us?"
I'm just soooooo confused by what this scorpio guy is doing... Can someone please shed some light on it? Why is he going back and forth and hurting me like this?
Please help me with this.
I am a cancer sun/leo moon/gemini venus, while my ex-boyfriend is a scorpio with venus in sag.
We had been together for a year, and things had been great till he started disappearing sporadically.
I felt neglected, but left him alone every time he went away because I didn't want to push him away further... besides, he always came back to me anyway. Always came back and said he missed me and that he still loved me. ._.
One month ago he started acting strange again, and this time he was even colder to me than before. He wouldn't talk to me, and only asked me over when he wanted sex.
I tried my best to just do as I've always done, because my own work load was piling up, but I couldn't get past how emotionally unfulfilled I was. I called him out on his behavior and told him how hurt I was by it, and how I felt like I was just a booty call to him. He shrugged it off, and said that nothing was the matter.
We went on a 'break' from one another, and two weeks later he abruptly dumped me on FB...
He told me he still loved me and truly loved me, but his family forbids him from marrying a foreign woman like me (I'm straits chinese, while he's vietnamese) and that he couldn't talk to me as comfortably as he could do so like before because the sparks were gone. He told me that we could still be friends, and that we could even try to patch things up again (despite saying that his family will never be able to accept me).
My heart broke, and I've been crying uncontrollably for the last two weeks that he's been gone.
Yesterday he came back to me again, and said, "How are you? How is work? Please take care of yourself, alright?" He said that somehow he doesn't feel awkward talking to me at all.
We chatted for a while and somehow he brought up the topic of bringing new men into my life, and how he was a 100% sure that "men will be all around me" (I quote him). I told him that I haven't moved on yet, and that I still need some time.
He said, "You will take time but in the end you will get over it. I hope."
Somehow it ended with me telling him how much I missed him, and with him pleading with me not to think about it anymore. He said, "Didn't we agree that this was for the best of both of us?"
I'm just soooooo confused by what this scorpio guy is doing... Can someone please shed some light on it? Why is he going back and forth and hurting me like this?
So sorry that I've reposted so many times by the way. Something's wrong with my internet connection plus I'm new here 🙂
Posted by crabapple
Hello scorpios,
Please help me with this.
I am a cancer sun/leo moon/gemini venus, while my ex-boyfriend is a scorpio with venus in sag.
We had been together for a year, and things had been great till he started disappearing sporadically.
I felt neglected, but left him alone every time he went away because I didn't want to push him away further... besides, he always came back to me anyway. Always came back and said he missed me and that he still loved me. ._.
One month ago he started acting strange again, and this time he was even colder to me than before. He wouldn't talk to me, and only asked me over when he wanted sex.
I tried my best to just do as I've always done, because my own work load was piling up, but I couldn't get past how emotionally unfulfilled I was. I called him out on his behavior and told him how hurt I was by it, and how I felt like I was just a booty call to him. He shrugged it off, and said that nothing was the matter.
We went on a 'break' from one another, and two weeks later he abruptly dumped me on FB...
He told me he still loved me and truly loved me, but his family forbids him from marrying a foreign woman like me (I'm straits chinese, while he's vietnamese) and that he couldn't talk to me as comfortably as he could do so like before because the sparks were gone. He told me that we could still be friends, and that we could even try to patch things up again (despite saying that his family will never be able to accept me).
My heart broke, and I've been crying uncontrollably for the last two weeks that he's been gone.
Yesterday he came back to me again, and said, "How are you? How is work? Please take care of yourself, alright?" He said that somehow he doesn't feel awkward talking to me at all.
We chatted for a while and somehow he brought up the topic of bringing new men into my life, and how he was a 100% sure that "men will be all around me" (I quote him). I told him that I haven't moved on yet, and that I still need some time.
He said, "You will take time but in the end you will get over it. I hope."
Somehow it ended with me telling him how much I missed him, and with him pleading with me not to think about it anymore. He said, "Didn't we agree that this was for the best of both of us?"
I'm just soooooo confused by what this scorpio guy is doing... Can someone please shed some light on it
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Crabapple.
For a straight chinese, you sure have excellent english. I can only assume that you both live in the states.
I think his family can shove it where the sun don't shine. - sorry, my opinion.
As for him, IF the both of you have discussed the ending of the relationship.
I am sorry, sweetheart, but I am afraid you must accept that.
All you are needing right now is time. Draw close to your family and friends for emotional support, ok.
I know that it hurts, I've been there. But I have a song for you, though it's a man singin' it, I hope it can help you.
Crabapple.
For a straight chinese, you sure have excellent english. I can only assume that you both live in the states.
I think his family can shove it where the sun don't shine. - sorry, my opinion.
As for him, IF the both of you have discussed the ending of the relationship.
I am sorry, sweetheart, but I am afraid you must accept that.
All you are needing right now is time. Draw close to your family and friends for emotional support, ok.
I know that it hurts, I've been there. But I have a song for you, though it's a man singin' it, I hope it can help you.
sorry but i wrote a complete load of nonsense, lol.
all i was gonna say is that it's not fair for him to contact you and you should ignore him if he tries to contact you again unless he's making it very clear that he wants to be with you irrespective of what his family think.
there's obviously a part of him that won't let go of you but he should be all in or not at all imo. when you're up against your family objecting to the person you're dating, you know that if you want to continue seeing that person you have a fight on your hands.
it's the consequence of that family battle you have to be prepared to live with so it's in his best interests to work out for himself what he wants cos a scorp will overcome any obstacles in the path of love if their heart wishes it.
i have 5 siblings and all of us have been 'disowned' by our parents at some stage or another, lol. seriously though. we're jews and one brother married a hindi girl...another a greek orthodox girl.....one married a CHRISTIAN (eeeeek!!! oh yeah, that was me lol)....i have a jamaican ex sister-in-law....a chinese sister in law....and my sister married a drunk irish CATHOLIC...
anyhow...my parents realised they'd disowned us all and have spent years trying to get us back. at the end of the day, your parents can't dictate who you may or may not fall in love with. their job in life is to deal with their own karma and not interfere with their kids'. we can fuck it up all on our own.
fuck. i replaced drivel with drivel it seems. LOL!!!
all i was gonna say is that it's not fair for him to contact you and you should ignore him if he tries to contact you again unless he's making it very clear that he wants to be with you irrespective of what his family think.
there's obviously a part of him that won't let go of you but he should be all in or not at all imo. when you're up against your family objecting to the person you're dating, you know that if you want to continue seeing that person you have a fight on your hands.
it's the consequence of that family battle you have to be prepared to live with so it's in his best interests to work out for himself what he wants cos a scorp will overcome any obstacles in the path of love if their heart wishes it.
i have 5 siblings and all of us have been 'disowned' by our parents at some stage or another, lol. seriously though. we're jews and one brother married a hindi girl...another a greek orthodox girl.....one married a CHRISTIAN (eeeeek!!! oh yeah, that was me lol)....i have a jamaican ex sister-in-law....a chinese sister in law....and my sister married a drunk irish CATHOLIC...
anyhow...my parents realised they'd disowned us all and have spent years trying to get us back. at the end of the day, your parents can't dictate who you may or may not fall in love with. their job in life is to deal with their own karma and not interfere with their kids'. we can fuck it up all on our own.
fuck. i replaced drivel with drivel it seems. LOL!!!
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Please help me with this.
I am a cancer sun/leo moon/gemini venus, while my ex-boyfriend is a scorpio with venus in sag.
We had been together for a year, and things had been great till he started disappearing sporadically.
I felt neglected, but left him alone every time he went away because I didn't want to push him away further... besides, he always came back to me anyway. Always came back and said he missed me and that he still loved me. ._.
One month ago he started acting strange again, and this time he was even colder to me than before. He wouldn't talk to me, and only asked me over when he wanted sex.
I tried my best to just do as I've always done, because my own work load was piling up, but I couldn't get past how emotionally unfulfilled I was. I called him out on his behavior and told him how hurt I was by it, and how I felt like I was just a booty call to him. He shrugged it off, and said that nothing was the matter.
We went on a 'break' from one another, and two weeks later he abruptly dumped me on FB...
He told me he still loved me and truly loved me, but his family forbids him from marrying a foreign woman like me (I'm straits chinese, while he's vietnamese) and that he couldn't talk to me as comfortably as he could do so like before because the sparks were gone. He told me that we could still be friends, and that we could even try to patch things up again (despite saying that his family will never be able to accept me).
My heart broke, and I've been crying uncontrollably for the last two weeks that he's been gone.
Yesterday he came back to me again, and said, "How are you? How is work? Please take care of yourself, alright?" He said that somehow he doesn't feel awkward talking to me at all.
We chatted for a while and somehow he brought up the topic of bringing new men into my life, and how he was a 100% sure that "men will be all around me" (I quote him). I told him that I haven't moved on yet, and that I still need some time.
He said, "You will take time but in the end you will get over it. I hope."
Somehow it ended with me telling him how much I missed him, and with him pleading with me not to think about it anymore. He said, "Didn't we agree that this was for the best of both of us?"
I'm just soooooo confused by what this scorpio guy is doing... Can someone please shed some light on it? Why is he going back and forth and hurting me like this?