do people gossip about you?

i find that because i keep myself to myself and don't get involved with the drinking culture that is british expat living, i'm the subject of some really horrible gossip. i don't generally give a crap what people say behind my back but on two occasions, gossip has ruined two potential relationships. mostly cos the men involved took it upon themselves to automatically believe the rumours without reference to me at all! don't know what upsets me more really...the people who spread the lies or the ones who believe it.

the other problem is that i am a single parent and have been for five years. i work from home as a writer and investment analyst with occasional visits to offices away from where i live. british people can't help themselves speculating about everyone else. when they're not talking about the weather, they're talking about absent 'friends'. men included. it's like living in a goldfish bowl. i don't talk to them.

so basically, cos i don't have a man to support me and i rarely leave my house but sometimes, when i do, i am very dressed up (i like going to the casino with friends)....consequently, they think i work in the sex industry and cos i'm never there to defend myself, it's kinda absorbed by them as being completely true.

and the other thing is that if i do hear something....like i heard that i posted my profile on a no strings sex site...and i react angrily..i get called 'sensitive' or 'touchy' in an accusing way like i have something to hide.

i always say to a guy that if he were in a bar and he overheard someone talking about his woman the way they talked about me, he would punch their lights out! would anyone call them sensitive— NO!!! so in the absence of a man to stick up for me, i have to do it myself but it seems i'm fucked whatever i do....people prefer to believe the worst of others.

so does this kind of thing happen to you? it's been a theme for me since i've separated from my ex husband 5 years ago.

bling: i obviously don't know if i'm not there to hear anything but there have been occasions when things have come back to me via my kids cos all the kids here hang out at bars with their parents and overhear allsorts. plus a couple of guys i was seeing have made judgements based on what they heard in a bar i've never been to, from someone i probably don't even know.

intrigued: you're right, it's cos i have no rules either. i live on a parallel universe it seems and I LIKE IT HERE!!!

also, people just don't get what i do for a living at all cos there aren't many people doing what i do and i don't really get deep enough into a conversation with these people for them to ever get to know me. it's just easier to think i'm a high class call girl (flatteringly high class, LOL)..than it is to accept that i'm actually a very capable investment professional.

if they came to my house, they would see my bloomberg trading system with two screens and they would still be none the wiser probably.

it doesn't help that i like to dress slutty sometimes, LOL.

the joke of it is that amongst british expats, sex is probably the easiest thing to come by, whether someone is in a relationship or not. why anyone would need to post their profile online to get it is completely beyond me!!

Yeah all the time because according to some (JamieJamie) I'm insecure and defensive. Why wouldn't they gossip about me ?

....sorry I had to

Yeah everyone seems to talk shit about me unless they actually KNOW me and like me. (almost everyone that KNOWS me likes me). Jealous, much?

I've heard that I'm "all drama" and "psycho". I'm actually pretty low key most of the time. 'Course dxp gets to see me when I'm freaking out so I guess you all might think these things too lol. But ask some of the ppl that know me (Elle, Ankh) I'm not like that 99% of the time.