Don't know what to do regarding my scorpio friend/crush, I just want to get back to normal again :(

(I'm a female cancer)
We had a fight a couple of months ago, and we haven't met each other since then.
Prior to that we used to hang out all the time and we would also talk all the time. Friends often thought that we were practically a couple.
Since our fight, we've not met..but talked a bit, on again, off again-but usually it's been him initiating the conversations..and his replies have been pretty neutral.

I really want to meet up with him to apologise for my side of what happened (to be fair we both hurt each other)
But it's been difficult..obviously. I'm way too scared that he'll refuse to meet up and just flat out reject me.
Today I finally got the courage to ask him if I could call him and his reply was simply "I'm sorry, I can't" he didn't even state why, and I was too scared/anxious to ask.
Tomorrow is his birthday and I don't know if it would be appropriate to wish him happy birthday, or not.

To my understanding, a Scorpio tends to freeze people out if they're angry/hurt by them..which kind of has been done to me-but at the same time, if I write to him, he replies to my texts.. He still follows me on all forms of social media-and he hasn't unfollowed me there either. Am I missing something? Is this normal for a scorpio? Does he hate me? Or does he still have a soft spot for me?

I really don't know what to do.. my poor self has been driven crazy by all this. Is he testing me? Is he playing mind games? What is going on..

If he replies, that means he still cares, which is a good sign. If he stops replying and unfollows you…u've lost him. Thats just how we are,
we can get very cold and detach easily for fear of being hurt again. Dude…if he still follows you on social media i can guarantee he's watching every move/post/like you make, we're stalkers smh. The best thing to do is make more of a GRAND effort to be around him again. Scorpios can't resist dramatics. He's probably waiting for something
like that happen. Pop up on him with a birthday present and an apology, post a Happy Birthday post for him (cuz he's watching.)

All in all, it doesn't take too many times to thaw a scorpio out, but it takes something grand!
Plus cancers & scorpios the most compatible in the entire zodiac, it won't last forever.

Posted by Scorpico
If he replies, that means he still cares, which is a good sign. If he stops replying and unfollows you…u've lost him. Thats just how we are,
we can get very cold and detach easily for fear of being hurt again. Dude…if he still follows you on social media i can guarantee he's watching every move/post/like you make, we're stalkers smh. The best thing to do is make more of a GRAND effort to be around him again. Scorpios can't resist dramatics. He's probably waiting for something
like that happen. Pop up on him with a birthday present and an apology, post a Happy Birthday post for him (cuz he's watching.)

All in all, it doesn't take too many times to thaw a scorpio out, but it takes something grand!
Plus cancers & scorpios the most compatible in the entire zodiac, it won't last forever.

He'll reply to me, but his replies are very short/neutral/simple. His replies might either take 5 minutes..or hours..
When we were fighting, the sting that ultimately got to me was him telling me he didn't like my negative personality...and that he was tired of it.. I couldn't argue my case and I just backed away. (To be fair, I can be negative, but I have more of an anxious/overthinking/emotionally vulnerable personality than a negative one)
Dear Scorpio, how do I let you warm up to me again?
Did he probably suspect that I developed feelings for him and that he got scared and ran away? (He is graduating at the end of the semester and moving away)
He never likes anything I post..which recently just gets me very agitated.. :/
I have no opportunity to meet him in person by chance since we both live in different areas and our campuses are different..
He just simply said 'I'm sorry, I can't" when I asked if I could call him.. I felt really bad but better try than nothing, right? (I wonder if he was busy or if he didnt want to talk)

How can I wish him happy birthday? 😢 my only way to do so right now is just texting him..

"Dear Scorpio, how do I let you warm up to me again?"

Stop chasing him!

Someone tells you they don't like your personality and are tired of it and you say "let's talk so I can apologize"?! Your personality is who you are, the good AND the bad, is messed up to apologize for being you. Honestly you are behaving as a doormat and as I scorpio that kind of behavior makes me want to punch you in your face.

So my advice is: don't wish him happy birthday, delete him from all social media and work on your self esteem. I can assure you that once you accept and love yourself he will come back running begging for your forgiveness.

If he was really hurt I think he would have deleted you from social media...the fact that he still has you on there I think says at least something, although my Scop ex immediately deleted me from everything when we broke up because it was simply "too painful" to see what I was up to, so it could go either way.

I think a simple text on his birthday (good excuse to reach out again) would be ok and just include in the same text something about meeting up.

For example: "Just wanted to wish you a happy birthday. Can I maybe take you for a birthday drink soon? I would love to catch up."

Posted by LittleMissPerfect
"Dear Scorpio, how do I let you warm up to me again?"

Stop chasing him!

Someone tells you they don't like your personality and are tired of it and you say "let's talk so I can apologize"?! Your personality is who you are, the good AND the bad, is messed up to apologize for being you. Honestly you are behaving as a doormat and as I scorpio that kind of behavior makes me want to punch you in your face.

So my advice is: don't wish him happy birthday, delete him from all social media and work on your self esteem. I can assure you that once you accept and love yourself he will come back running begging for your forgiveness.

This is brash advice considering we have no idea why they were even fighting.

Why is everyone on this site so quick to tell people they need to work on their self esteem?! People are coming on here because they are feeling down and out about a situation, of course that's the side of them we are going to see! Just because someone is having a hard time and needs some help getting back in their lane with their head on straight does not make them pathetic/have low self esteem/any of the other harsh things I see people saying on here.

Betrayal is a close friend saying they don't like you and refusing to pick up the phone to talk.

Loving someone who keeps rejecting you to talk things out is low self esteem. I didn't said she is a bad person I read she is going through a rough patch and told her to love herself first.

I wished him a happy birthday and he responded well to it. Now I also know which cafe he hangs out at regularly..
..Do I 'accidentally' run into him? Or is that a terrible idea?

Posted by thinktoomuch
Wow. You´re even worse than me, and I´m the scorpio stalker 😄 Lmao!

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Posted by thinktoomuch
Wow. You´re even worse than me, and I´m the scorpio stalker 😄 Lmao!

It doesn't mean I'll seriously do it... I just don't know how to not be afraid to talk to him and ask to meet.

Posted by thinktoomuch
Well hey man, if this is your style then by all means, go right ahead. Who am I to tell you, what to do?!

It´s just the whole thing: you find out not through him, when his birthday is and then make a topic about it, if you should do it. You do it. And then also find out, where he hangs out at. Then ask if you should go there. Do you really need to ask? You already know, what you´re going to do. Many people go about dating and getting into dating this same way, that´s how they show it in movies even. But nobody really talks about it like this, ´cause asking like this makes you look kinda... Yeah, well stalkerish. Manipulating.
And trying to manipulate or control anything rarely makes it turn out good. It´s not natural or organic, based on a mutual interest, and therefor it can rarely last.

He will know ofcours, that you being there is no accident. I think he already know, that you´re probably gonna turn up there at some point. And what does it really matter anyways? We live in a free world. Do your thing! But perhaps try to not get involved in anything, when you are already this afraid. Sort that out first.

I knew about his birthday from before, but that's not really the point..

All I want is just to fix my friendship/relationship with this guy, but I'm afraid of rejection. I'm afraid of screwing up and ruining my chances forever.