Forgiving

Do you find it hard to forgive someone once 'that line' is crossed and to trust them again, even when they try really hard to be your friend/lover again ?

I do 😢

The forgiving may be easy but it's the forgetting that's the hard part. Especially when you don't change your ways.

When you make a mistake, learn from it and don't repeat it again, and again and again.
Therefore, how can you expect to be "forgiven" when you play the part of the perpetual idiot that never learns?
Renewing the memory of old wounds with new ones in that same old hole, which grows larger and larger with time?

It's not enough to forgive, you must be able to forget. And to forget, you must not be reminded. And to not be
reminded requires the offending to cease the offending. Then, perhaps, "trust" can be regained. Otherwise,
the only recourse I think of is a) guard my heart b) make like an idiot and perpetually "trust" the person
whom I know, from past experience, will betray my trust, to my own detriment.

Pardon my need for a Lobotomy.

Unless:

The metaphorical "line" is a great distance away so someone has to really fuck up in order to cross it but once they do.

Forgiveness will happen in time, will I forget ever? Nope.

And 9 times out of 10, I don't know em anymore x(

Depends on what line was crossed. Typically for crossing a line with like cheating, you'll never hear from me again. You can show up at my front door and I won't answer. You can keep anything of mine you still have. I don't wanna see you even to get stuff back. I can buy new stuff. Once a line like that is crossed, there's no forgive or forget. It's just forget. Forget about anything that has to do with you.