Heartbroken over scorpion

Through work I met a male scorpion. We talked all the time and got on really well. Everytime I turned round he was there waiting to talk to me. After about 7 weeks we kissed and I must say I never had a kiss like it. I told him I really like him but he never said he like me just said would I miss him when the job was over and he had to return home. I felt a little annoyed that he didnt at least say he like me so I lied and said I would get over it was no big deal. On the day he left he asked if I would come over and see him some time but I said I didnt know (I was hoping he would still say something like he would miss me etc). He phoned me when he returned home and asked if I would come over some time I joked with him saying why did he miss me (hoping against hope he would say sometime) he didnt. In fact he hasnt phoned me since not a word.

Sorry I hit the button before putting down the question. This is the first scorpion person I have ever met! I didnt realise (until reading this site) how complicated they are and how they never seem to say what they feel. Do you think he like me or am I reading to much into it because I like him. Please advise anyone!

It sounds like you're reading him just right. I have a male scorpion in my family and the characteristics are just what you mentioned. I also have a scorpion male friend in NYC. He calls or e-mails--I'm the one who has to give the initive (sp?) all the time. It may feel like you're giving 70% and they 30% when it comes to dealing with scorpion men. I speak from experience. I guess the best method here for you is to listen to your gut feeling.

Sorry! I meant to type in "never" -- as in referring to "never call or e-mails" " "

Tread lightly. He is playing games with you. My husband of 5 years is Scorpio. When they really have the hots for you, believe me they'll let you know for fear that somebody else will step in. Your first mistake was telling him you cared for him, before he told you of his true feelings. That's probably what a lot of women do with him. With a Scorpio male, you have to be unlike the "norm." Otherwise, he will treat you like the "norm." Trust me. Scorpio men don't think much of women who come off as being "easy." They like to feel their woman is somewhat of a "prize." Next time, if you come across one, let him tell you how he feels before you reveal yourself to him. If you don't, more mind games are on the way. He'll toy with you, because you've shown him, he can. There's a certain way you must go about dealing/relating to a Scorpio male. Women who feel they will sleep with whomever they want, with little or no discretion will encounter many Scorpio males, but they won't keep them. They'll sex you, but they'll not respect you enough to want you as their woman. The key to all men's hearts is to make them work for you love. Don't surrender so easily. It messes up the mystery and intrigue we all seek, to some degree, at the beginning of an encounter. Don't feed this guy's ego any more than you already have. If and when he calls tell him you have someone in your life, and that time has caused you to realize that he was just a passing fancy. Don't let him know how much you really care. Remember Scorpio men like mind games. If you don't want to play, forget about him.

I am not sure if any scorpion has a heart.. To me they run cold and hot.
When they want you and when they dont they make it very clear.
I am still not over mine.but guess it takes time. 😢

I completely disagree with you Yeah I hear ya.

First of all Scorpions in love are ALWAYS in love. Even if they are more affectionate at times than others, they ALWAYS love you.

You can't judge everyone for the doings of one. Please remember that!

Scorpios are complex puzzles and mystery cases. They DO have hearts and EXTREMELY sensitive feelings to match. I absolutely agree that they can make you feel in ways you've never dreamed possible. You just need to be careful how you present yourself, and if a Scorpio does love you, actions will speak louder than words!

I personally think that when you played to I don't care game you blew it. We scorpios' know when you care and when you don't. If you care and are trying to play a mind game, this is an insult to our personal radar. As soon as a game is afoot we either play or leave the playground. One way or the other we don't trust you. Never play a mind game you'll lose. If you don't know how you honestly feel say you don't know. If a scorpio ask you how you feel be honest. Be careful not to tell what you have'nt been asked. Do however be direct and forthcoming if there is something that needs to be aired (never do this in public). And make triple sure that if you love the person you treat them with the respect and dignity that you want to be treated with. That's the way to a scorpios' heart. Any game playing like the woman married to a scorpio male suggested is a bad idea, something I'm sure she'll find out in do time.

This post is to the woman married to the scorpio man and all her family of scorpio people. You lost. As clever as you think you are you're not. That is the reason that you're having trouble with the scorpios in you life. As soon as you start the game we'll finish it(most of the time not to your liking I'm sure). One piece of advice stop playing games. Whatever is real will stand the test of time, lies, manipulations, acts of marytordom, false quilt, scapegoating, deception by omission or commission, will all be discovered whether the scorpio choose to expose you or not.

I have been with my husband for 9 years. Married for 5 years. Scorpio men are full of games. My father and husband are Scorpios. If you don't know that, you're already losing. Don't let him know you're all crazy for him when he's blown you off. If you do, you can be guaranteed that he won't be very interested in you. Scorpio men attract many women, so it's nothing out of the usual for them to have women throwing themselves at them. My father had to contend with this kind of attention all of his life, and many women are attracted to my husband. Don't sell yourself short. My mother was also a Scorpio and recently she called me and during one of our long conversations she confessed to me that if she'd handled my father the way I handle my husband, she wouldnt've had many of the problems she and he experienced during their marriage. One thing I can tell you is I always understood my father for some strange reason and I fully understand my hubby. My husband was a supervisor at my job. There were many women, of all ethnicities, falling over him. Guess what? I didn't. I set my standards high, when I saw he played and enjoyed games, I played them better. Of course, it drives him crazy, but he bought me a $ 5,000 engagement ring, bought a house, etc. Not the others. So much for blurting out your true feelings, all at once. In time, I let my husband know my true feelings, but before I did I had a promise ring. There is a right way and a wrong way to go about things. Read the signs. When a person plays games with you, it is a sign that they like games. Either play the game or end it. Simple. All of us play games, to some extent. Even I say I can't stand playing games, but we all do it. Again, I know what I'm talking about. I'm not a young girl with little or no life experience, just talking. I'm married to a Scorpio, and I have studied his nature over a period of years, just as I did my father. But, the signs aside, pay close attention to what people don't say to you and less on what they say. Your scorpio likes games, my dear. He's playing. Either play or quit the game. One or the other. If you don't, he'll mess your mind/emotions up real bad. Good luck.

It seems as if you're an intellegent woman. What puzzles me is why women in general think that the man has to put the money on the table before he's entitled to taste the gravy. I am also a women who has lived long enough to know what men want and how to give it to them. I was married for eighteen years to a man who was incapable of love because he was never loved as a child, he had no reference. He thought that material things could satisfy the longings of the heart. For him this would be enough since he was also very poor as a child. However so was I but money and material possessions are useless when you are in emotional pain because your mate is indifferent to true love. He had nothing when I married him I asked for nothing except love. Unfortunately it was the one thing he knew nothing about. Since he did'nt get it when he could have learned the ways of love he could'nt give it when it when I needed it. He would give me things and only after he realized that the withholding game was'nt working. Yes people do play alot of games and humanity is in a losing position because of this. Just think of the power your husband had over you when he knew you could be bought. He had to buy your confession of love for him. I wonder was it worth the price he paid. Tell me is that all you're worth? Let's see a 5000.00 ring a house a car. Think about wether or not he was just playing to win you because you were playing hard to get or if he truly loves you. How will you ever really know let's face it everyone wants to keep the prize they won. Your motivation was to manipulate and control this women of maturity is a con game not love.

In my opinion, any woman who chooses to love and give herself to a man who has nothing to offer her, is a damn fool. If a person loves you, they will show you. Afterall, love is a verb. Even our Lord Jesus said, if you love me you will keep my commandments. Action. With love comes responsibility. A demonstration of one's devotion, admiration, and loyalty.
Money is not the root of all evil. It is a reality that we all must come to grips with, and no amount of love will replace that fact. Yes, my husband won the prize(that being me). It didn't come cheap, as I don't sell myself cheap. I'd rather have a marriage with a man who doesn't mind demonstrating his affection for me, as opposed to one who doesn't, at all. Dysfunctionalism is a reality of human kind. There's no way of getting around that. However, I know my husband loves me. I don't question it, at all. Yes, gifts are a part of our love, and I make no apologies for it. For those who choose to live on love and love, alone, more power to you. But, as for my house, it will continue to run just as it is. I've met many assholes in my lifetime, male and female, alike. Perfection can't be found in anyone, and as long as we're human, imperfection will be our reality. To know someone and love them for who they are, despite their shortcomings, is what love is all about. Everyone has the right to like what they like. If you don't like it, that's your business. However, let's face it. Many men and women do like games and wouldn't stay with someone who didn't present themselves as a challenge. Marriage doesn't change that.
We are just as we are. Your husband had problems. You married him with his problems. Would you rather he not demonstrate his affection for you, in a materialistic sense, and simply hold and cuddle you? It's like rich people saying, "Money isn't everything." It's easy to say it, when you're on the receiving end.
A lot of men show their affection for women in this way. That's nothing out of the ordinary. In my opinion, they're not wrong for doing it. In all things, there must be a balance, but romance without finance is always a nuisance.

I can truly agree with what you say, however I think you missed the point. The point is if you love someone it should not matter if they have money or not, or if they can actually love you in return. Christ taught us that. When I married my husband I loved him not only for my sake but for Christsake. Yes he had come from a group of mercenry christians.They could not get pass the fact that he and his brother cost them money, an offense punishable by abuse. Unfortunately, he equated material things gifts and such as a show of love. These things meant nothing to me, although would accept them as graciously as I could in replacement for the ever present lack of love. The time we spent together improved his knowlegde of true love so that I'm please that he can actually express love and devotion for our children. My decision to give up on his ability to love me and focus on making it impossible for him to continue to spread his indifference on to our children. Now he has to take sole care of them at least once a week. My other point is that I did'nt need his money, nor should any grown person need their life financed by another. Gifts are great, they may even go up in monetary value over time however they are no prove of a persons' love for you. Any challege in a relationship should be based on the general trials of life not the cute sneaky ways to get around and go around the true challege of imtimacy. My husband may not have been able to love me but we had a truly imtimate relaionship. The life I live without him is as happy as the life I lived with him because my happiness never depended upon him. I simply felt that he could stand firm enough without me and thrive on his own. He has actually done so (amazing how people will grow up wheh their scapegoat is taken away)He was ready. You see if I had left him before my children would have missed out on the grow-up verison of their father. Now I have the experience to see whose coming a mile away and if he comes bearing material gifts I'll know he's not the one. If he comes bearing the gifts of the spirit I will know that he can love me for his sake and Christsake. I'm not saying that your life is wrong, I'm saying that life without love, compassion, empathy, sympathy, a little altruism from time to time is sad and whoreist.

To get back on topic:

I am a scorpio woman, so I can't speak for scorpio men and whether they really are heartless manipulators. Sometimes it's hard to find any man, period, regardless of sun-sign--who doesn't disappoint in these ways.

But one thing I can tell you all, is that if you feel that you're giving 70% while only recieving 30% from your scorpio, you're probably right. Scorpios will never, ever give ALL of themselves to another human being. Never. And why should we? If you can't respect our privacy and secrets, you're definitely not cut out to be in a relationship with one of us, and we probably don't see you as trustworthy enough to tell all to.

That may be blunt, but what do you expect? I'm a scorpio! : ) Seriously...the best you can expect from a scorpio with regards to "sharing" of themselves with you, is probably that we'll tell you *as much as we can, without revealing what we don't want you to know*. It's usually less of a case of deception with us, as it is a case of "get out of my business".

I'm sorry, but them's the facts.

Very good analyze of scorpios!I am in love with a scorpio guy from my group of friends.I am in a relationship and he had severals since we know each other.There has always been a very powerful attraction between us.It is so much to tell-I want to spear your time though.Anyway,I dropped clues that I like him very much and I received in clues in return that he likes me-but his are so subtle that sometimes I think I am only imagining things.
Last year-december-I told him!And for the first time I know him his eyes were burning!I am Pisces and Leo rising and too proud to let him know that I love him-but somebody has to make the first step!And he is too afraid or too unsure of me to be the first.So I am going to send him a postal card printed with " I miss you" and my signature on tha back.What do you think?L

Instead of saying "I miss you", say, "Thinking of you". It's more mysterious, and he will enjoy the challenge of trying to figure out what you mean. No hearts or smilies yet though. Take it from me, I'm a scorp! Good luck my dear.

Heather

Hi...
I have no practical advise to give ya...
but id say....
"Enjoy being yourself. Try not to manipulate your being for the attention of another. Do what you think is right without being overly suspicious of your own motives and of how it might affect this other person. Afteall what 'will be' is what 'has to be'! No point in torturing yourself for something that is not in your control. I feel if you are true to yourself, then it doesnt matter that this person is not impressed with you! If someone has to be coaxed and cajoled to give some of thier attention to seeing the nice person that you are then maybe he/she is not worth the effort! Afterall, life is all about interactions - not about winning everything your heart desires. It surely cant be that simple - u cant get everything!"
Thats a lot of abstract - i know!
However, thats just some of my thoughts - i couldnt keep them to myself - though i tried!! 🙂
Have fun and all the best!

Right on sista, or brotha (?). I think that we all must be who we are. And if Scorps can be themselves, then why can't we? Does anyone really want to have to pretend to be someone else in order to keep their partner around? Especially, if the behaviors make us unhappy?
Scorps rule, I know there is one in my life that I can't shake, but I finally realized that if he can't make THAT move and is so terribly afraid, then it becomes his loss. Although I do agree that with Scorps it is best to be direct, honest, and yourself but not too much too soon. A good game of push and pull filled with trust, love, care and consideration might work. But too many games and shift-shaping and the only loser willbe you. Careful with your heart - and careful with your self. Good luck - you can do it, whatever is best for you.

Love isn't love unless it is expressed;
caring isn't caring unless the other person knows;
sharing isn't sharing unless the other person is included;
Loving, caring, and sharing can make for a very happy marriage/relationship.

Late for the Sky

Now the words had all been spoken,
and some had the feeling still wasn't right
and still we continued on through the night.
Tracing are steps from the beginning,
until they vanished into the air.
Trying to understand how our lives had lead us there.
Looking hard into your eyes;
there was nobody I'd ever know
such an empty surprise, to feel so alone.

Now from ease some words come easy,
but I know that they don't mean that much,
compared with things that are said and a mother's touch.
You never knew what I loved in you;
I don't know what you loved in me.
Maybe the picture of somebody hoping I might be.

Awake again; I can't pretend and I know I'm alone
and close to the end of the feelings we've known.

How long have I been sleeping?
How long have I been drifting alone through the night?
How long have I been dreaming I could make it right,
if I closed my eyes and tried with all my might to be the one you'll need.

Awake again; I can't pretend and I know I'm alone
and close to the end of the feelings we've known.

How long have I been sleeping?
How long have I been drifting alone through the night?
How long have I been running for that morning flight,
through the whispered promises and the change in life,
of the bed where we'll both lie?? late for the sky.
Jackson Browne

My Scorpio broke off with me saying he's not happy. He's very jealous of any man who talks to me although he denies that he's jealous at all. When he broke off his reason was that I "blew-up" because we had an argument over the phone because he had not called me in 9 days. I know he had not called me because, of course, he was jealous - of a long-time male friend from out of town whom I had not seen in many years. I assured him he was just a friend, but he didn't believe me. When he broke off he told me that it may change, but that I should move on I told him he was right that I am moving on that I will not call him any more. He said that I call could him any time. What does this mean? Are these games he's playing. We've been seeing each other for 15 months and it's not the first time we've broken off because of his jealousy (which by the way I never know when it's going to manifest since sometimes it's a couple of days after whatever incident he happens to be jealous about). I love him and I've told him, but he says he doesn't believe me that I'm playing games. What is it with Scorpios? Are they in love when they're jealous and do they run away when they realize they actually have feelings for a woman? Or is this all a game to the Scorp male? He's got an enormous ego, which I feel is just a cover for deep insecurities, old hurts and resentments. I've been playing it very cool and have tried to show him love without going overboard - afraid that he'll take advantage, but nothing seems to work. He's still very complicated and full of resentment. I want him back, but I'll be damned if I call him. I didn't do anything wrong -so I got angry because he didn't call - big deal. If he broke off because I called him - why should I call him now? Scorpios and/or Scorpio partners please school me.

I am not a psychologist and I don't think I can help you!! All I can say is that if it is hurting you too much, then where is the love?? If someone loves you, they don't want to see you hurting or suffering. Ya know what I mean!? This happens everywhere all the time, and your not alone. This is just something you have to live with. If it is too much to bear, leave! I know your afraid to move on, and it doesn't feel to good to have to be by yourself, but if a man is worth his salt, for God's sake, he wouldn't leave you in this situation!!! He's not a man! IMO

It sounds like you told him you are not fooling around, but he can't figure it out for himself. It boils down to TRUST! Ask him why he thinks the way he does. It would be a different story if he caught you with the evidence or he caught you in the act. If not, then he has a mental problem. There is nothing wrong with you having a male friend. I don't see the problem. Either do you, so why are we even discussing this?? You seem like a great person don't let this get to ya! All I can tell you is it is not your problem.

He isn't gonna change! He is not a little boy. Apparently he has gotten f*** over by a woman and he doesn't trust any of them. You have two choices. Except him how he is and don't even talk to a cashier a the grocery store, or leave him. He is not going to change. Guys that have been f*** over before aren't going to change. He isn't going to trust you or any woman. The ball is in your court. Can you love him just the way he is? You'll have to be honest with yourself. You can also love him and not live with him. He could be dangeous. You should think about it!!!

Susan

I was married to a guy who was very insecure and hated me talking to any sort of guy eg guy in supermarket etc. I was young when I married and thought well when we marry he will then understand that its him that I love and want to be with and so it will settle down - BIG MISTAKE! When guys are like that they never change for the better they just get worse! I dont think they can help it or even understand why they do it. Mine used to blame me with being with other men etc and then later on that evening would say I know you werent but it was just jealously that made me say that etc. Its a very hard life to live. Good Luck to you

I say dont call him. He is testing the water. Dont do it.

Reply to 210: Thank you. Over the weekend I decided it's best not to call him. I feel if I call him he will know he has me at hello, but if he calls me it's because he's afraid that I will move on. Also, I think that once he admits that it is his jealousy, even to himself, he will change his behavior of blaming me for his past hurts and resentments having nothing to do with me. He's a very wise and clever guy. He's not a kid. He knows I mean what I say that I will move on. He's heard the messages on my voicemail from other very eligible guys. He's also met another man whom he knows is very interested in me, but I'm just interested in this Scorpio. I just want to be sure that I'm doing the right thing in not calling him and waiting for him to call. Also, if he calls me I'll know that he's getting over his anger. Like I've read from other comments - Scorpio does not forgive. I'll be glad if he just forgets whatever sin he thinks I've committed. I can deal with that. Thanks for everyone's response. I really appreciate all your comments. It's helped a lot.

67.34.232.102:
Something you said really piqued my interest! You said your scorp has been giving you signs that make you belive that he definitley likes you (jealous and the fact that he stuck around for 15 months!). And finaly when you broke off...instead of saying "have a good life" he actualy asked you to call him whenever you like!!!

Any scorp men out there who can tell us what the hell do you guys mean by that— The reason i ask is because my scorp told me the same thing when we broke off!!!!

I am exasperated...and i really truly would feel much better if i knew what he meant(and like 102 id be damned if i asked him)!

Though i would be fine even if i dont know! Afterall...it is time to move on and not stick around wondering what i did wrong!!!
🙂 but it is soo difficult!

To: 207.199.2.34
From: 67.34.232.102:
Yes, honey, it's verrry difficult, but you have to be strong. If he comes back don't let him walk all over you. My Scorp has tried to control all aspects of our relationship either through his jealousy, my jealousy, him playing the victim, etc. I let him think that he has control and for the most part it's allright with me, but then because of my Virgo analytical strengths I start analyzing every word, every scenario, every context in which he tells me things and I know when to stop him. I now realize that's why he broke up with me -- because I stopped him, ergo, he wasn't happy with me any more. But you know what? I'd rather be alone than give up any kind of control to someone who has not appreciated me, shows no gratitude (you know that 7/30 percent - well he's gotten the 70), can tell me to move on after I put up with him for 15 months. You said my Scorp stuck with me for 15 months, no honey, I put up with him for 15 months. Take the attitude I've taken when you find it "sooo difficult" not to call him: I love myself more than I could ever love him. Good luck to you, honey. Keep in touch.