HELP, scorpio friend...

Here it is... I love him, he loves me, and we both know that. We spend INCREDIBLE amounts of time together and it just keeps getting better and better. I feel as if we've been connected at the hip these past few months, playing pool, dancing, laughing, drinking, cruising, shopping for appliances, going to shows, performances, having lunch, dinner, dessert, simply listening to music and talking all night, etc.
BUT he's got a girlfriend. And even though I LOVE it like it is: PLATONIC, I can't help but feel like I'm being slightly led on or being used as some sort of back up plan or revenge tactic later on should he and his girl decide to split. (They constantly argue.) And, not that I'm complaining, but we constantly make little sexual hints and innuendos, and sometimes he REALLY turns me on, and oh, when he does that thing and acts like he can't get enough of me, and he calls me all the time, and he always wants me to come over to his house, and, well I'm thinking "how come he doesn't do all of this with his girl?" and "when does he ever see her if he's always with me?" and I know I need to quit jumping at every invitation, but I can't help it, he's so damn persuasive and I can't resist no matter how hard I try. He justs yanks me out of my own little world.
I don't know. I'm just wondering if maybe all scorpio's are this involved and INTENSE in their non-sexual or "friendly" relationships.
Can someone kinda clue me in? I don't know where I stand, even though it's nice, wherever it is.

Okay, im gonna speak from experience and i mean noone any harm when i say this. In each of the two relationships i have had with scorps they have both spent time, when they knew it was as well as over between 'us', lining up the next conquest. One of the scorps i still know, on friendly terms, does this even now. I look at each new girlfriend and think, "gee, i feel sorry for you, i know what's in stall for you you poor thing!!!"

I dont know, these are just my experiences. You've got to ask what sort of a guy would be spending more time with another girl rather than his 'girlfriend'. I have a rule. The way a person deals with their ex-girlfriend or boyfriend is the way he/she will deal with you. The funny thing is that when i confronted the people i was with, they denied any involvement and blamed it on the other person.

People tell me Ive had bad luck with scorps (like i got the 'bad' ones or something) and looking back on it, yes i did but now i go for strength of character regardless of the sign.

Yes, both my partners were alluring (well, i thought so at the time!!!), but they managed to do the wrong thing by me in the end so watch out.

Sorry, dont mean to dis scorps, just sharing my experience. They were definatley the dodgy ones. The funny thing is that it was THEY who were doint all the prouncing of LOVE and i got the "

I must agree with the post above and I too mean no disrespect to other scorpions. What I have seen is an involved scorpio then go after another person. They befriended this person very slowly (maybe the testing, pull and push thing) popping along for a 10 minute chat until they appeared to spend every waking moment with them. When they were apart I know he would phone and constantly keep in touch and eventually this ended in an intimate relationship. If I was you I think my main concern would be why do they do this. Is it because they know the other relationship is at an end and dont tell the other because they are afraid to hurt them (eg if someone cares about you and you see this every time you look into their eyes its very hard to say goodbye and hurt them) or is it because if things dont work out with the new girl on the block then ole faithful is still around (better someone than no-one) or is it because they get so wrapped up in the new relationship they dont think of the ongoing one or is it only certain scorpios who do this and they are on an ego trip and truthfully care about no-one but themselves. I'm sorry that this post rises more questions than answers but hopefully some nice scorpio will post and clear these quesions up. I hope for your sake that this is a geninue scorpio but do remember he has a girlfreind and it doesnt seem to bother him what he is doing to her. Although you are not actually intimate yet the feelings are there so in a way he is being unfaithful. Good Luck to you for a scorpio's love can be like no other and unfortunately when it doesnt work can leave you hurt for a very long time.

Hey thanks you guys. Very helpful. I like these boards ALOT. People actually use them like they are SUPPOSED to be here. I'll be coming back often.

I think the answers to your post so far are incredibly accurate. Really good stuff.

I'd just like to add that regardless of sign, gender, race, or cultural background, there are a lot of people who really enjoy the 'fun' phase of relationships where everything is still new and fresh. Once that runs out and reality sets in with the responsibilities they set the next romantic thrill in line and hop over.

I am in total agreement with the comment that the character of a person seeing a new person while still dating the 'old' person is clearly revealed. Habit patterns such as that are not easily broken.

I understand you feel you love each other. So please take the time to clarify in your own mind whether he loves *you* or just enjoys the *feelings* of 'being in love' and vice versa, because there's a huge difference between the two.

The disloyalty issue also bothers me, because the true scorps that I know are either on the extremely loyal end, while the others are on the bitter/jaded/use-and-throw-away-people as-they-please-without-a-conscience end. The latter usually have dead consciences and can turn out to be incredibly venomous people. So if he really is a scorp, I'd exercise great caution.

p.s. IMHO Scorpios are not the only sign that enjoy the process of seduction, though they have a certain intensity and flavor to the way they approach it. He doesn't seem pure scorp to me [a scorp that enjoys shopping for appliances and public dancing? does such an animal exist? :-) ]

Take care

Thanks Scorp 25, your insider info is appreciated. Doesn't make me feel much better, but time has away of taking care of that, I guess?

Lovers of men,

One other thing, to all who are involved with shady Scorpios...it's not as if they weren't being honest about their current situations! I don't look at it the same way as Scorp 25; in that, a man has to do what he has to do!!! It all depends on each individual situation, and I would rather have an honest friend than a dishonest lover!

Enjoy the time you have and if nothing else, chaulk it up to a very fine memory!!!

Susan