How does trust work?

Everytime I ask myself this question I feel ridiculous because it sounds so natural to everyone else. And then I think again and realise that I don't trust anybody to hell and back and I think it'd be nice to not take past betrayals as a reason as to why people suck. I can trust some people for certain things but there's always a part of me that will be holding back, as a safety cushion.

So for all Scorpios and Scorpio dominants or people with general trust issues, have you ever trusted somebody 100% and never doubted them? How did it go on the long term and how did you let yourself go?

The thing is that so many people I know deserve my trust, they're amazing people and have never done me wrong but there's still a part of me that is just too suspicious to give it all in.

I don't think it's them that should bear the "burden" of my trust, I usually blame myself when wronged because I did trust them at some point. I take negative emotions much harder than most people and I guess I'm scared that the next time it happens I won't be able to recover, although I have many times.

I've only trusted one person immediately and without question from the beginning. I don't know why or how it happened, but it did. I regretted it. I had to find out from an ex boyfriend they were still doing things behind my back and that turned out to be the tip of the iceberg. I'll never trust that way again. I learned the hard way. It's better to stay guarded.

That video was truly eye-opening, I never really thought about it that way. It's something to meditate on 🙂

Posted by beautifuldiaster
Yes, I've completely trusted a couple people. It doesn't always turn out bad but it has for me and I'm sure it will again.

I trust openly, which one one hand 1.is naive and dangerous 2. Vital to building a relationship with someone.

My aunt told me one time, never trust anyone until they deserve it. So with that, I gibe chances and over time, a the consistent affirmation equals 100% complete trust.

Funny how it takes forever to build and an instant to destroy.

I say just give someone close to you chances to prove their trust And over time it will happen naturally.


My last relationship, the guy would purposely leave his phone out when he went to the bathroom, or leave money in his car when I took it to the store... I would laugh about it because it was so obvious what he was doing. But, to this day he knows he can come to me and I will never betray him. Consistency = stability.


Did something happen with you that made you distrust so passionately?

Nothing in particular, just growing up in a family that couldn't respect my privacy or my naturally guarded behaviour. I've never learnt how to trust someone from the beginning, and as a result always detached myself but I've come to a point where it just feels lonely not being able to have one person to trust whole-heartedly so I'm trying to change that.

Even in relationships I set a bit of distance but I'll let him know that I just need time to adjust. I got jealous and suspicious easily but I knew he loved me and reassured me a lot, our relationship ended because we both moved away but that's the closest I got to trusting somebody fully. I still expected some sort of f up though.

I don't think scorpios trust anyone 100% . Does anyone with any common sense? There is something aloof about their nature. If they fall in love it's different. 100% in a partner is a lot, calamities happen you can't plan for. Would you be satisfied with the most boring guy on earth?

In psychology class it was asked, "Why do people do horrible, unethical or uncaring things." The answer was that " People do things that have the most benefit."

In my ethics class, we were discussing Michel de Montaigne's essays. The Brother said that "You should not judge a man by his actions, but by his intentions." I asked well how do you know what his intentions are? He said, you can't. I thought that was cruel. But he was right, people aren't so nice sometimes. Really bad stories, seem to be so common. I'am not saying don't trust people. It just seems to take so many varied situations to find out.

The world is not Disneyworld, I have no problem not trust anyone 100% . It's survival instinct, wiser to reserve a percentage.

I have problems trusting in a 100%

Ive been disappointed too many times in my life, and you know how it goes... fool me once ....

Trust someone in a 100% in your circle of friends, huge disappointments. Trust someone at work, no problems on a personal and work level. And so on.

I have no problems keeping my mouth shut. Im always observing, paying attention, learning the way others - especially friends, potential friends or potential love interests - behave or handle things I say or things other have said to them.

Im interested in a Cap guy... so imagine the huge trust issues rofl. But now he started opening up to me and Im doing the same, so he can see its a two way street. And yet I dont give all the info.

I have a hard time with trust as well. I don't understand how some people can just be so naive as to trust people as much as they do. Either they are so naive or they are so very lucky that they haven't been burned... yet there are people who have been burned and then say that they can't allow that person (especially an ex who hurt them badly) to mess things up for the next person they start to date even though that person is being shady and I can see it but they don't... it makes me crazy.

I don't think I have ever trusted anybody 100% , and though I have trusted to a point, that trust was broken so that is very hard to get it back.

I hate how jaded I have become, I learned some hard lessons and had my vision skewed by an ex who overthinks everything and yet has some great insight into the way the world works. It's depressing, but he was right about a lot of things so I can't exactly wish I was naive again, that is why I was so confused about why things would happen or people would act certain ways. I was in my own fantast world I fabricated for myself, not paying enough attention. Now I am almost paying too much attention.

Posted by liya92
Everytime I ask myself this question I feel ridiculous because it sounds so natural to everyone else. And then I think again and realise that I don't trust anybody to hell and back and I think it'd be nice to not take past betrayals as a reason as to why people suck. I can trust some people for certain things but there's always a part of me that will be holding back, as a safety cushion.

So for all Scorpios and Scorpio dominants or people with general trust issues, have you ever trusted somebody 100% and never doubted them? How did it go on the long term and how did you let yourself go?

I'm a scorpio with 3 three scorpio planets in my chart and No, I never trust somebody REALLY 1515145% and I think I never will.. even my ""best"" friend think that I tell her everything because I speak a lot, but if you look closely, she knows nothing about me, and because I think that we all have a "time" in which we have the impression to trust a lot and after, because the person is use to ourselves, I have the impression that there's less trust and more judgment.. this is what I feel with my friend..
haha the few time I have a boyfriend I always make it clear : I trust in anybody 4851% (100% isn't enough) and I'm always gonna be suspicious of everyhting : imagine I let myself go, and 2 years later we broke up and he takes advantage of me because I let myself go.. I never let go in front of people, I feel weak in that case : I never cry REALLY in front of people..
The fact that I let myself go, offer him/her/whatever the opportunity to "hurt" or take advantage of me

Posted by liya92
Everytime I ask myself this question I feel ridiculous because it sounds so natural to everyone else. And then I think again and realise that I don't trust anybody to hell and back and I think it'd be nice to not take past betrayals as a reason as to why people suck. I can trust some people for certain things but there's always a part of me that will be holding back, as a safety cushion.

So for all Scorpios and Scorpio dominants or people with general trust issues, have you ever trusted somebody 100% and never doubted them? How did it go on the long term and how did you let yourself go?

I'm a scorpio with 3 three scorpio planets in my chart and No, I never trust somebody REALLY 1515145% and I think I never will.. even my ""best"" friend think that I tell her everything because I speak a lot, but if you look closely, she knows nothing about me, and because I think that we all have a "time" in which we have the impression to trust a lot and after, because the person is use to ourselves, I have the impression that there's less trust and more judgment.. this is what I feel with my friend..
haha the few time I have a boyfriend I always make it clear : I trust in anybody 4851% (100% isn't enough) and I'm always gonna be suspicious of everyhting : imagine I let myself go, and 2 years later we broke up and he takes advantage of me because I let myself go.. I never let go in front of people, I feel weak in that case : I never cry REALLY in front of people..
The fact that I let myself go, offer him/her/whatever the opportunity to "hurt" or take advantage of me