I dont understand scorpio man

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Chocone
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Im dating a scorpio man since about 4 months. I really love him and enjoy every moment with him. I just dont get him, he doesnt tell me personal stuff, doesnt open up to me. I met all his friends and family, so I think he really likes me 2. The problem is, after we see eachother which is about twice a week, I dont hear anything from him over 2 days. And sometimes he wants to see me everyday? It changes all the time! Is this a test? He tells me he doesnt like to text.. But still I just dont understand him! Im scared that he is cheating or something.. Im a Gemini woman and I love to text, Im really not sure if he loves me..

Thanks for your help
Xxxx
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Scorpio men are really really strange but when they trust you, that's it. Scorpios are the most complex sign emotionally. They typically don't open up to anyone (sometimes not even their family) and don't like to get personal with ANYONE. I have allot of experience with scorpios and let me tell you, as a Cancer I run everytime I find out a scorpio's close. They're really awesome, but too damn difficult. This doesn't mean that he is cheating, not at all. He's just secretive in nature and takes his time. He will test your character out multiple times, trick you multiple times if he has to and when you actually pass his "test" THEN and only then he will start letting you in. And this might take years or months, it's a slow progress but many tell me it's definitely worth it. They're the most intense and passionate sign out of all them. Have some patience, tell him if he doesn't like texting you'd love to call him as you need the communication and would love it. Ask him how he would feel about that. Good luck x
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Posted by Chocone
Im dating a scorpio man since about 4 months. I really love him and enjoy every moment with him. I just dont get him, he doesnt tell me personal stuff, doesnt open up to me.I met all his friends and family, so I think he really likes me 2.
😕....so what is this "love" based on exactly? Basically you're saying you love a man you do not know. It also sounds one sided. You "really" love him, but "think" he "likes" you.

Let go further....

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...The problem is, after we see eachother which is about twice a week, I dont hear anything from him over 2 days. And sometimes he wants to see me everyday? It changes all the time! Is this a test? He tells me he doesnt like to text.. But still I just dont understand him! Im scared that he is cheating or something.. Im a Gemini woman and I love to text..

Thanks for your help
Xxxx
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D*mn I should have read the last line first. Anyway....He's spending time with you right? So what's the issue? Scorps don't communicate the same as Gems do. Space and silence is needed occasionally, especially 4 months in. You're over thinking this---sooo over thinking this. He sees me twice a week and sometimes everyday = cheating? Jesus. Stop it or you'll sabotage it aka, typical Gem manipulation to get a reaction/test his feelings.

Slow down and just let it unfold naturally.
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Posted by PhoenixRising
Posted by Chocone
Im dating a scorpio man since about 4 months. I really love him and enjoy every moment with him. I just dont get him, he doesnt tell me personal stuff, doesnt open up to me.I met all his friends and family, so I think he really likes me 2.
😕....so what is this "love" based on exactly? Basically you're saying you love a man you do not know. It also sounds one sided. You "really" love him, but "think" he "likes" you.

Let go further....

Posted by Chocone
...The problem is, after we see eachother which is about twice a week, I dont hear anything from him over 2 days. And sometimes he wants to see me everyday? It changes all the time! Is this a test? He tells me he doesnt like to text.. But still I just dont understand him! Im scared that he is cheating or something.. Im a Gemini woman and I love to text..

Thanks for your help
Xxxx
D*mn I should have read the last line first. Anyway....He's spending time with you right? So what's the issue? Scorps don't communicate the same as Gems do. Space and silence is needed occasionally, especially 4 months in. You're over thinking this---sooo over thinking this. He sees me twice a week and sometimes everyday = cheating? Jesus. Stop it or you'll sabotage it aka, typical Gem manipulation to get a reaction/test his feelings.

Slow down and just let it unfold naturally.
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Okay thanks for this post really helped me.. you're right im always overthinking and i cant change that..
oh well i just have to chill haha
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Hi Gem

I get what you mean here.

I can speak from my own experience...past boyfriends were Gemini, Taurus, Aquarius, Capricorn. A lot of earth in their charts. Pretty open guys. I got accustomed to certain things.

1. If a guy likes you, he texts and calls consistently

2. If a guy likes you, he wants to open up naturally and wants to know everything about you

3. If a guy likes you he is all relaxed and can't wait to see you every time

4. If a guy likes you he TELLS you, he tells you ALL THE TIME

5. If a guy likes you...he DEFINITELY calls an extra amount after an amazing date r close time together.

These rules pretty much did me well through a lifetimes....and then I dated a Scorpio. Not just a Scorpio but a Scorpio with 5 planets in Scorpio including Sun and Venus and Mercury and his moon in Capricorn which made him even less communicative.

Boy did he confused the butter out of me.

One minute he couldn't wait to see me, the next I would hear nothing for days. One minute he was telling me everything he was doing with his day, the next day he was keeping his life a secret. One minute he would travel 3 hours after a long day to meet me wherever I was, and the next day a 30 minute drive is too much. Especially bad was the one worst thing......after a particularly close and wonderful date he would go AWOL for 2 - 3 days every single time.

I get it.

You're not being needy. He is not following the "rules" we are accustomed to from previous relationships, from the stories of Shakespeare, songs, movies and what we come to expect from romance and a guy who likes you.

Scorpio men are not always like that, especially if they are fearful. My best advice to you is to let him have the space and let him know you love him when he comes back. If he has introduced you to family I think he must like you.

I can try and psycho-analyse a little bit (being Scorpio myself) and I just think Scorpio men can be a little strange like this. I think they are not 100% sure, I think they don't like being vulnerable, I think they like to push and test.

All I can say about my guy is I have ended the relationship because of this FIVE times (we currently aren't together) and every single time he misses me and won't go away- so he does like me - he just has a hard time relaxing into it.

It depends on the person...some people are good at intimacy and others are bad.

I agree fully from the Scorpios I know that once you get past whatever barriers they have; you can't find a more worthwhile lover.