Independent Scorpio

We are known to be independent and not rely on others to do things or open up easy to someone. But in time, when you come at that stage with people eg partner, colleague or friend you start to depend on them with certain things.

When they have let you down, How do you react to that? Does it hurt you? Effect you?

It hurts a million times worse when you decide to rely on a loved one and they let you down. When it's happened to me, I've noticed that I tend to get really sad, hurt, and withdrawn rather than angry. I have learned not to rely on people. I just do everything for myself. I never let me down.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
We are known to be independent and not rely on others to do things or open up easy to someone. But in time, when you come at that stage with people eg partner, colleague or friend you start to depend on them with certain things.

this confuses me ^^^^ I can't go from being independent to dependent. It doesn't work that way for me, I cannot *see* that in my mind....even over time.

opening up to others is the easy part 😄

what can happen with me is balancing that fine line of expectations. You expect nothing from nobody and there are times you are pleasantly surprised. I run with that most of the time but I had to train myself to do so.

I can't be dependent on anyone for anything....and I admit, that is something I struggle with because we all need a bit of help at times. I have yet to figure out exactly when I should be asking for something or if I'm being downright ridiculous thinking I can do it myself.

with that said.....

When they have let you down, How do you react to that?

in the past, I'd take it very personally and I'd even cut poeple out of my life completely. I've come to realise that that was all ego. People can only let you down when you place expectations on them. With Scorpio, that's tricky beause we have such high expectations of ourselves......we tend to come right out of the gate expecting others to hold themselves to the same standards. We have to go through the trials and tribulations of learning that is is not realistic.

Does it hurt you?

used to. I'd take it really personally and be brooding or throw a pity party.....currently, it just stings a little bit and then I flick my ego a few times and tell it to calm the hell down....and that the world does not revolve around me.

Effect you?

used to. I'd withdraw almost immediately to lick my wounds...currently, I allow myself to feel those feelngs of betrayal (yes, it all leads back to the path of betrayal for me)....and then release them. That way, I don't supress them and they pop up somewhere else in a projection. How do I release them? Distraction works best. I tell myself it's okay to act like a total brat....for a little bit....but keep myself busy in interim (hopefully by myself and away from others) to the point those feelings dissipate on their own.

You said that much better than

I guess I just trust myself more than I trust others. I can get 99% of the things I need on my own. I learned to do that because I hate feeling like I NEED someone for anything.

You're also known to be cruel, secretive, and ticking time bombs. Is this you also?

Posted by Shruikan
It hurts a million times worse when you decide to rely on a loved one and they let you down. When it's happened to me, I've noticed that I tend to get really sad, hurt, and withdrawn rather than angry. I have learned not to rely on people. I just do everything for myself. I never let me down.

I recently had this and felt really hurt and i was even moody about it and my family noticed my behaviour. They gave me my space which i needed.

I'm more independent and don't rely on others to do my work or emotionally help me out because I??ve felt when I have, I'm disappointed.

Posted by TeaMint
My motto, if you want a good job do it yourself.

Fully agree with this

Posted by Piscescrazy91

Posted by Shruikan
I guess I just trust myself more than I trust others. I can get 99% of the things I need on my own. I learned to do that because I hate feeling like I NEED someone for anything.

Alot of you stingers are like that.

But I'm curious to know where this feeling comes from?
Why do you guys hate to depend on people for anything?

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I don't think the feeling really ever came from anywhere in particular. My parents told me that I was trying to do things on my own since I was little. My mom said that I would cry when she would try to dress me and I would struggle (and fail) to do it on my own. Same thing with bathing and (minus the actual crying)when I learned to play trumpet, piano, and guitar. It's the way I'm programmed. One of the greatest feelings in the world to me is to figure something out and accomplish something on my own without help. I feel empowered.