Is he breaking up with me or its something else

Me and my scorpio man are so in love .. we have been together for like 6 months now ... but he doesnt seem to understand me at all and I thought its because we never had deep conversations so i started to tell him this .. in so many ways ... and till I decided to be bold and blunt about it .. that I cant take it anymore and we need to figure something out . Except he doesnt want to discuss anything and just keep saying there isnt anything wrong to him thus he wont and dont want to talk about anything ... so i kept stating that i cant talk to him and be with him while thwre are so many things that i don’t understand and that i need my space to think clear ... but instead he called and i thought that is sweet how he misses me .. but then i couldnt take him again because the issues hasnt solved yet ... but again to him its just illusions... so we kept fighting and fighting and fighting ... and now he told me am not okay but i need my time and space to rhink of everything..

Is he breaking up with me or its something else ?

Ok...

Summary: we are so in love but he doesn’t want to talk about anything and we fighting and fighting and fighting...

And where is the love part in this scenario? How old are you both? 17?

Posted by tiziani

"so i kept stating that i cant talk to him and be with him"

that'd do it.

Yep! Specially when he doesn’t want to talk about anything...he probably just want to come-fuck-go! And don’t talk to me about anything! I’ll call and will be nice when I want to fuck again...

Hummm okay .. maybe tge way i wrote it down is a little bit sharp ... there is more to the atory of course ... i was just stating the reasons of the fight ... we are 26&27 and you see the problem is ... in some areas we seem soooooo great and right for eachothers and in other areas we seem so distant ... to me i just cant normally talk to someone and pretend nothing is wrong while there is so mamy misunderstandings ... and he is exactly the opposite... we were okay because i never stated that it’s bothering me because i thought he is sweet that he puts his ego aside and actually calls and talk to me like nothing has happened ... except everytime we try to talk about it we seem so distant and he cant understand nor gives me the chance to explain ... which makes me more angry and cantvtake him ... but i do love him so much and u know he still has string feelings towards me am not sure but i know there are some cuz he never wanted to break up and always keeps coming back ... but i just wanted to know when all this happens and he doesnt give me my space when i ask for it and now he is asking for his space .. what is he doing ? And how i should act and what should i expect ?

Posted by Gemitati

Ok...

Summary: we are so in love but he doesn’t want to talk about anything and we fighting and fighting and fighting...

And where is the love part in this scenario? How old are you both? 17?

It’s the same him. Read:

he puts his ego aside and actually calls and talk to me like nothing has happened ...

When he wants sex? Or when else?

Let’s list his good qualities. From your post he seems like an ass or you seem like...less intelligent 27 I’ve ever heard from...

You keep saying you are NOT compatible!!! Don’t younsee that?

What else do you do together so you can say it’s a quality time...between fightings? Anything?

Noted

You can't change him. You can only change yourself. So either adjust yourself and your own communication and accept him the way he is or walk away. He will probably be more receptive to you if you work on your little temper tantrums and figure out how you can communicate in a way that suits him instead of trying to force him to be exactly how you want. You're going to push him further away and probably lose him if you keep trying to change him.

This is how some Scorpio men are. They don’t open up. We could talk for hours but it was never deep. I always felt like there was more that he wasn’t telling me. But he would tell me he doesn’t like to talk to anyone about his “problems”. I can’t be with someone like that. But I’ve heard not all are like that.

I’m with you: it caused a wedge between us. Now as far as him wanting his space now but when you wanted it he couldn’t give it, just sounds like he’s immature.

I think some of these comments are a bit harsh, geez you’re doing the right thing. Good job I’m a fellow fire sign and I am with a Scorpio so I can give my perspective.

We all know fighting builds connection, lets get that out there, anyone commenting otherwise just hasn’t realised it, having a fight is sometimes like having a good debate where we get all things out that we wouldn’t say normally and we learn and grow together, maybe it’s just the way a fire sign works. I actually don’t fight with my Scorpio and I really miss it. I’m guessing maybe makeup sex is there too, I personally think fighting isn’t bad, as long as it doesn’t go too far obviously.

Next I think Scorpios are game players, they like detective stuff, reading body language and trying to work out if someone is lying. Apparently they are good as detecting lies and also good at lying. Their minds work like maybe someone is lying and they need to detect it, this involves not being direct as you need to know what someone feels genuinely, yes they might be direct but then it still feels like a riddle to solve, like a start of a game, they put a comment out (unclear) for you to work out what’s going on. It’s like a game of poker, which btw somehow all the Scorpios I know love poker, anyway it’s like that kind of game. They must maintain mystery and a poker face.

Leos, like Aries, are kinda direct and upfront about things, except I think with me, I don’t like losing, if it feels like a game then instinct kicks in, I won’t lose, if it’s a game of who reveals what first, then I’ll play it. Revealing too much is a weakness. I don’t think Leos would play that? Or maybe so, they are competitive too.

And I can’t see a Scorpio complimenting a Leo at the level a Leo would like. Some men know, and I think Scorpio men maybe a high chance of knowing this.. women get bored once they control a man, it’s what women go for and if it’s too easy then they loose interest. I’m guessing he knows this, I’m guessing he wants to maintain mystery, and he’s still weighing you up too. You asked for the time to think, perhaps not in words, words don’t matter because the Scorpio will read the body language, and you asked for all this because you aren’t confident. So get your head in the game, believe it’s going to work out, don’t have so much doubt and have a little more confidence that things will be ok. All it is, is you need to give it a bit more time, and you’re being impatient, just enjoy things. I get annoying that I don’t really know what will happen at the end, I think water signs don’t talk like fire signs. Fire signs are about where we are and where are we going, water signs seem to be interested in other things.

Exactly ! ... and i realise thw difference between us ... and this is what breaks my heart ! .. because i didnt want to start this relationship in the beginning because i saw the differences between us but then he never stopped the chase and the beg to give him a chance and all the love and the amazing things he do and say and i took so much time to think it through.. and i thought to nyself someone who loves me this way and so serious about me and that he reallly wants me and want to give it all to me is someone who will make me happy ... and he did ! Day by day i fall for him more ... untill suddenly he started to do some small things that -to me it bothers me because it plays on my confidence side and inner issues and insecurities- and i didnt want him to know .. so i just get more cold and silent for a while .. till i realised he’ll never ask whats wrong .. so i started to show it then to joke about it then to say it straight forward u know ? And this made it all go wrong .. he started to say that to him he think it’s stupid to get offended/mad or sad because of such things and i asked him to respect that because it matters to me even if to him its nothing but for no luck .. and i got more and more of that and he got more of me explaining and stating things thats bothering me because he wasnt lsning or understanding anything i said.. and i finally stood up to him and told him that i cant do this i love you sooo much but u r hurting me by ignoring something important except for some reason he took it the other way as i’m not accepting him as someone who cant keep discussing things over and over .. and honestly the arguments turned very hurtful to me the sad part is he keeps saying i love you i really love you and just want us back but he doesnt wanna change at all ... i feel like i reached to a point that a lot of things had broke and i want him i want him to fix that but his ego wont let him do that ... he is very different from the man i met and loved VERY and am shocked and hurt but i want to fix it somehow some way ... this is way I decided to be better and just simply shut up be patient and give him all the space he needs ... my only concern is ... is it worth it? I’m I Going to face a cruel person in upcoming fights ? Because honestly yes i’m strong and i want what i want ... but also i’m too sensitive and this is why i think 10 times before going into a relationship... and then i get this ... i dont know ...

Posted by AriesJo

I think some of these comments are a bit harsh, geez you’re doing the right thing. Good job I’m a fellow fire sign and I am with a Scorpio so I can give my perspective.

We all know fighting builds connection, lets get that out there, anyone commenting otherwise just hasn’t realised it, having a fight is sometimes like having a good debate where we get all things out that we wouldn’t say normally and we learn and grow together, maybe it’s just the way a fire sign works. I actually don’t fight with my Scorpio and I really miss it. I’m guessing maybe makeup sex is there too, I personally think fighting isn’t bad, as long as it doesn’t go too far obviously.

Next I think Scorpios are game players, they like detective stuff, reading body language and trying to work out if someone is lying. Apparently they are good as detecting lies and also good at lying. Their minds work like maybe someone is lying and they need to detect it, this involves not being direct as you need to know what someone feels genuinely, yes they might be direct but then it still feels like a riddle to solve, like a start of a game, they put a comment out (unclear) for you to work out what’s going on. It’s like a game of poker, which btw somehow all the Scorpios I know love poker, anyway it’s like that kind of game. They must maintain mystery and a poker face.

Leos, like Aries, are kinda direct and upfront about things, except I think with me, I don’t like losing, if it feels like a game then instinct kicks in, I won’t lose, if it’s a game of who reveals what first, then I’ll play it. Revealing too much is a weakness. I don’t think Leos would play that? Or maybe so, they are competitive too.

And I can’t see a Scorpio complimenting a Leo at the level a Leo would like. Some men know, and I think Scorpio men maybe a high chance of knowing this.. women get bored once they control a man, it’s what women go for and if it’s too easy then they loose interest. I’m guessing he knows this, I’m guessing he wants to maintain mystery, and he’s still weighing you up too. You asked for the time to think, perhaps not in words, words don’t matter because the Scorpio will read the body language, and you asked for all this because you aren’t confident. So get your head in the game, believe it’s going to work out, don’t have so much doubt and have a little more confidence that things will be ok. All it is, is you need to give it a bit more time, and you’re being impatient, just enjoy things. I get annoying that I don’t really know what will happen at the end, I think water signs don’t talk like fire signs. Fire signs are about where we are and where are we going, water signs seem to be interested in other things.

I find it difficult myself, in fact I asked a similar question about my Scorpio, where does it end? It’s not like there is a deep conversation where you feel like you know each other, and you don’t really know how they feel towards you. I can be a patient guy and give the lady time if she needs but then sometimes it’s nice to talk about each others goals and dreams, I don’t think you get this from a Scorpio. It’s almost like they are scared of their own feelings, I think they have them but they feel vulnerable sharing them.

It’s taken time but I do notice certain things that do indicate they like you, I might be wrong about these but for me it’s good enough so far. I’ve only been with my Scorpio five months so, I’m hoping good things take time and once they open up they they really do, and it does feel a bit more special if someone takes time to open up, as you know they are not doing it easily. But the things for me are, they are jealous.. like mine seems very jealous when I’m out with friends, when I’m not giving her attention, and she even jokes about it, like she knows she is a little and that I know she is, but she jokes like it’s almost like she’s telling me she likes me. Maybe someone says “I like you lol”, but a Scorpio would phrase it “having fun without me? Lol” and the other thing is, I don’t notice straight away, but in arguments they go to flip the argument round on you, make you feel guilty or may even say something else is wrong, when they know it was actually something bad they did. Like, you have feelings, you are entitled to those feelings, and if you want to talk about them, you should be able to, but it’s almost like he knows he’s wrong and he makes out it’s you, not him. I know Aries do too, lol I always blame the other person, but I say it direct. Scorpio does this but not directly. I think sometimes, I let my Scorpio win, the arguments feel unconnected to what the issue actually was, but I feel like she’s trying to get out of it so that she still has the upper hand and that we are still together. It kinda feels a bit sweet, a bit silly. I’m sure Scorpios have quite intense feelings, they just feel vulnerable expressing them and it sometimes shows it different ways. They may manipulate people they like.

Don’t get me wrong, I think the threat of being dumped is very real, and it will hurt. You want to feel secure, but I think they do too. The whole thing feels like trying to dance with a Scorpion. And what bothers me the most is, how do you give yourself to someone who can manipulate and play with feelings, in kind of a selfish way like that. But I think you have to take it for what it is. Like I do love my Scorpio, it’s not boring for sure, it’s kinda what makes them sexy too, the danger. I do think they have feelings though. Also, like for fire signs, I think we show our feelings and expect the other to do so in return, Scorpios kinda want this, but it’s almost like we’re looking for the other person to reveal different things to what we reveal ourselves. Like I might talk about my dreams, but Scorpio doesn’t want that, they want something else, so then they don’t reveal. It’s kind of a mystery. But that’s how I see it, maybe it’s the same for you, and if you feel like it’s the same and you understand it, then maybe it’s a bit easier to deal with.

You have been together six months, so something is kinda working, I’ve been with mine five months, I’m not sure how, and I wonder about the connection level, like shouldn’t it be higher.. but then at the same time, 5 or 6 months is not that short, it’s somehow working.. will it continue to work? I think you just have to be positive. Have confidence, confidence that it will work out, but if it doesn’t then also have confidence that it might be for the best too. Whatever happens, it will be for the best.

I find it difficult myself, in fact I asked a similar question about my Scorpio, where does it end? It’s not like there is a deep conversation where you feel like you know each other, and you don’t really know how they feel towards you. I can be a patient guy and give the lady time if she needs but then sometimes it’s nice to talk about each others goals and dreams, I don’t think you get this from a Scorpio. It’s almost like they are scared of their own feelings, I think they have them but they feel vulnerable sharing them.

It’s taken time but I do notice certain things that do indicate they like you, I might be wrong about these but for me it’s good enough so far. I’ve only been with my Scorpio five months so, I’m hoping good things take time and once they open up they they really do, and it does feel a bit more special if someone takes time to open up, as you know they are not doing it easily. But the things for me are, they are jealous.. like mine seems very jealous when I’m out with friends, when I’m not giving her attention, and she even jokes about it, like she knows she is a little and that I know she is, but she jokes like it’s almost like she’s telling me she likes me. Maybe someone says “I like you lol”, but a Scorpio would phrase it “having fun without me? Lol” and the other thing is, I don’t notice straight away, but in arguments they go to flip the argument round on you, make you feel guilty or may even say something else is wrong, when they know it was actually something bad they did. Like, you have feelings, you are entitled to those feelings, and if you want to talk about them, you should be able to, but it’s almost like he knows he’s wrong and he makes out it’s you, not him. I know Aries do too, lol I always blame the other person, but I say it direct. Scorpio does this but not directly. I think sometimes, I let my Scorpio win, the arguments feel unconnected to what the issue actually was, but I feel like she’s trying to get out of it so that she still has the upper hand and that we are still together. It kinda feels a bit sweet, a bit silly. I’m sure Scorpios have quite intense feelings, they just feel vulnerable expressing them and it sometimes shows it different ways. They may manipulate people they like.

Don’t get me wrong, I think the threat of being dumped is very real, and it will hurt. You want to feel secure, but I think they do too. The whole thing feels like trying to dance with a Scorpion. And what bothers me the most is, how do you give yourself to someone who can manipulate and play with feelings, in kind of a selfish way like that. But I think you have to take it for what it is. Like I do love my Scorpio, it’s not boring for sure, it’s kinda what makes them sexy too, the danger. I do think they have feelings though. Also, like for fire signs, I think we show our feelings and expect the other to do so in return, Scorpios kinda want this, but it’s almost like we’re looking for the other person to reveal different things to what we reveal ourselves. Like I might talk about my dreams, but Scorpio doesn’t want that, they want something else, so then they don’t reveal. It’s kind of a mystery. But that’s how I see it, maybe it’s the same for you, and if you feel like it’s the same and you understand it, then maybe it’s a bit easier to deal with.

You have been together six months, so something is kinda working, I’ve been with mine five months, I’m not sure how, and I wonder about the connection level, like shouldn’t it be higher.. but then at the same time, 5 or 6 months is not that short, it’s somehow working.. will it continue to work? I think you just have to be positive. Have confidence, confidence that it will work out, but if it doesn’t then also have confidence that it might be for the best too. Whatever happens, it will be for the best.

Posted by Gemitati

Ok...

Summary: we are so in love but he doesn’t want to talk about anything and we fighting and fighting and fighting...

And where is the love part in this scenario? How old are you both? 17?

My thoughts exactly.

“We are in love but...”

Anything before but is a lie. Js.

Posted by AriesJo

I think some of these comments are a bit harsh, geez you’re doing the right thing. Good job I’m a fellow fire sign and I am with a Scorpio so I can give my perspective.

We all know fighting builds connection, lets get that out there, anyone commenting otherwise just hasn’t realised it, having a fight is sometimes like having a good debate where we get all things out that we wouldn’t say normally and we learn and grow together, maybe it’s just the way a fire sign works. I actually don’t fight with my Scorpio and I really miss it. I’m guessing maybe makeup sex is there too, I personally think fighting isn’t bad, as long as it doesn’t go too far obviously.

Next I think Scorpios are game players, they like detective stuff, reading body language and trying to work out if someone is lying. Apparently they are good as detecting lies and also good at lying. Their minds work like maybe someone is lying and they need to detect it, this involves not being direct as you need to know what someone feels genuinely, yes they might be direct but then it still feels like a riddle to solve, like a start of a game, they put a comment out (unclear) for you to work out what’s going on. It’s like a game of poker, which btw somehow all the Scorpios I know love poker, anyway it’s like that kind of game. They must maintain mystery and a poker face.

Leos, like Aries, are kinda direct and upfront about things, except I think with me, I don’t like losing, if it feels like a game then instinct kicks in, I won’t lose, if it’s a game of who reveals what first, then I’ll play it. Revealing too much is a weakness. I don’t think Leos would play that? Or maybe so, they are competitive too.

And I can’t see a Scorpio complimenting a Leo at the level a Leo would like. Some men know, and I think Scorpio men maybe a high chance of knowing this.. women get bored once they control a man, it’s what women go for and if it’s too easy then they loose interest. I’m guessing he knows this, I’m guessing he wants to maintain mystery, and he’s still weighing you up too. You asked for the time to think, perhaps not in words, words don’t matter because the Scorpio will read the body language, and you asked for all this because you aren’t confident. So get your head in the game, believe it’s going to work out, don’t have so much doubt and have a little more confidence that things will be ok. All it is, is you need to give it a bit more time, and you’re being impatient, just enjoy things. I get annoying that I don’t really know what will happen at the end, I think water signs don’t talk like fire signs. Fire signs are about where we are and where are we going, water signs seem to be interested in other things.

Fighting all the time isn’t healthy. It means you can’t communicate your disagreements in a healthy manner. Eventually that shit gets old and kills the affection. Or worse, you start to hide things from your SO so that you keep the peace and avoid the headache and drama.

I know what you mean about friction keeping things spicy. It’s boring when you agree on everything. But at the same time fighting like cats and dogs isn’t healthy for any relationship. Also 6 months new and this many fights doesn’t bode well for longevity.

Either something clicks and they each change their approach in communication. Or it breaks apart before it ever got off the ground.