Is he punishing me or should I just overlook it?

So I'm sitting here, trying to work on a paper. And inevitably I start thinking about other things. The scorpio and I didn't hang tonight cus I'm pretty sure he fell asleep. He has a problem when he lays down and the next thing you know he's asleep. He does it all the time when we're watching movies.

Anywho I got to thinking, and this is just my brain over analyzing, but I thought I'd see what others thought. One time I took too long to get done with some things and when I finally do text him that I'm done he doesnt respond until it's too late. He knows I don't go out after 1am on week days and he texted me just a few mins before, saying he didn't hear his phone go off.

Tonight I took a little longer than I thought I would at my hair appt and he'd been texting me up until an hr or so of when the appt ended. Then I text him to see what he's up to so we can hang cus he wanted to see me, and he doesn't respond until two hrs later, but after I text him he doesn't respond after that. So either he fell asleep, or...

I understand he's tired cus he hasn't gotten much sleep lately, so I texted him that we'd just see each other tomorrow, cus he needs his sleep. But after this happened it made me wonder....did he purposely wait to text me till it was too late last time? He admitted to me later he was upset we couldn't hang out and it makes me wonder if he was punishing me...he's been nice up until this point, but I can't ignore that he is a scorpio...and an aqua moon.

Thoughts?

Posted by aliennation
You're losing sleep like this over texting logistics? goodness gracious, chill out. lol. Sometimes I forget to text my guys for hours or days until they're blowing up my phone or calling from a blocked number. >_>

You guys seem to know each others' schedules down to the minute, which to me is a little much. I wouldn't want me or the guy to feel like we were tracking each others' schedules, as that's kind of suffocating. They're not entitled to know where I am all the time. I'd tell them to mind their own f'ing business if they tried to chart my minute-by-minute schedule.

Losing sleep? Nah I sleep just fine. He's the one whos not getting enough sleep :/

He went to the same college I did, that's why he knows the sleeping schedule. They turn on the alarms at 1am, which is why I don't go out.

I could see where that'd be a problem for you. Gem's need a bit of space. I've dated a few in the past. I have a lot of scorpio in my chart tho and I don't mind him knowing what I'm up to if he asks. He doesn't know my exact schedule, just what I tell him. I'm very open as I am a sag and honesty is very important to me. He's the same way.

Btw he texted me just a few mins ago....it's almost 1am here. I told him he needs to not sacrifice sleep over seeing me (which is was doing in the past) and that it's not fair to both of us. He's taking it well, so that's good.

Posted by aliennation
I'm mostly Gemini though, but I think what I"m telling you is just universal common sense. ;P

Oh I forgot ur the gem-scorpio.

what's common sense?

Oh, no that's not what I meant.

What you posted is how you would be in a situation. I'm not like that with this scorpio tho. Nothing wrong with keeping in contact that much, its just how we operate. If both sides like to I don't see the problem

I toss it back and forth if it's punishing vs. disappointment mixed with pouting. I don't think it's a 'screw you I aint texting ya back' but more or less mad at the situation, mad at you, then mad at the situation, feeling sorry for themselves...not meanly wise but bummed for themselves. Then it cools down, and all is back to normal and that's when we/you hear from them. But if it was consistent in not getting back to them in a decent amount of time? Damn straight, and until lesson learned.

Waiting to the last minute and when it's too late, I do think can be intentional only because it shows the effort, but 'oh shucks it's too late'. Not that they don't want to see us/you but that just not in the mood due to being tired, etc. And having that control over the situation, whereas you are free willed to do what you want but if there is a hint they may want to see you, and especially if it's been a while or whatever, then it keeps you holding off on anything or doing anything/plans.

The new thing with the Scorp/Aqua Moon in my life is the goodbyes are different, inconsistent and I never know which Scorp I'm going to get in that last text of the convo. And it seems to not fly over well if I end the convo first, he seems short with me then when he does say goodbye.

Posted by OceanDeep
I toss it back and forth if it's punishing vs. disappointment mixed with pouting. I don't think it's a 'screw you I aint texting ya back' but more or less mad at the situation, mad at you, then mad at the situation, feeling sorry for themselves...not meanly wise but bummed for themselves. Then it cools down, and all is back to normal and that's when we/you hear from them. But if it was consistent in not getting back to them in a decent amount of time? Damn straight, and until lesson learned.

Waiting to the last minute and when it's too late, I do think can be intentional only because it shows the effort, but 'oh shucks it's too late'. Not that they don't want to see us/you but that just not in the mood due to being tired, etc. And having that control over the situation, whereas you are free willed to do what you want but if there is a hint they may want to see you, and especially if it's been a while or whatever, then it keeps you holding off on anything or doing anything/plans.

The new thing with the Scorp/Aqua Moon in my life is the goodbyes are different, inconsistent and I never know which Scorp I'm going to get in that last text of the convo. And it seems to not fly over well if I end the convo first, he seems short with me then when he does say goodbye.

Ah yes, I can see a bit of that in him. I think he does like to have a bit of that control over the situation. He hadn't seen me in a week and he was pretty upset so I could see where me doing what I was gna do and him waiting would frustrate him. I think I may bring this issue up to him tonight. More so in a casual sense

I can also see some of what you were talking about in myself. I have a lot of scorpio in my chart. I get mad at the person, but also feel sorry for myself kinda thing, and it's usually that I'm just mad at the situation, so I feel the need to punish the person by different means. Usually annoyance or hurting them with making them fell like they're rejected. It's the stupidest thing. And I think that's probably the main reason why I feel like he's doing it to me because I could see myself doing it. I know he's not ME, but he is a lot like me, so it makes me wonder if he wouldn't do something like that too.