Its hard to deal with a Pisces

I have known this pisces male for 3 years now and we get along for the most part. When we're alone, everything is great. When we're around other people he will sometimes ignore me or make smart comments. He knows that I love him and I'm ready for a committment. I'm not saying that i wanna hurry up and get married, but I would like to be his girl. I don't know what it is. He says that maybe we'll be together or he's not ready for a relationship right now. Maybe he's scared of committment because maybe he's been hurt in the past. He is the type of guy that if he don't like someone or looses interest in a person, he won't call them no more, talk to them or nothing. I guess that's a good sign that he still is being bothered with me and the fact that we can have sex and still be friends. But I want more out of the relationship and I try talking to him and its just a waste of time. He does tell me that he doesn't wanna lose me and that he don't want me out of his life. I'm just so confused. I love him and I wanna be with him. I keep praying about it, too. I just don't know what to do anymore. PLEASE HELP....

I feel you should break up with this guy because he's too indecisive and immature for you. I make a point of not involving myself with people I can't talk to. Relationships require time, patience, trust, and maturity. You also need respect and understanding. I don't feel this guy is capable of those things and has a lot of growing up to do.

I know it is hard to break up...but, he should know what he wants by now...

I was strung along once for waaayyy too long...to this day, that guy will say that is not what he was doing! But, if they can't lay it on the line...then what else do you call it?

You have to think about yourself and your needs and wants.

I do think that men, in general, do not think about the BIG picture like women do...

In whatever you decide...I wish you the best!
Star

Thanks! for your help. Its gonna be hard for me to just let him go like that because I love him so much.He's the only guy I talk to and he's the only guy that I've had sex with since 2000. I don't know what else to do, but maybe itll be for the best if I just leave him alone cause apparently h doesn't want me just like these other guys didn't from my past. I guess no one will ever love me...

Oh don't say that!! Never say that! You will find someone who makes you feel complete and will love you for who you are. I have to say I was very interested in your posts. I had the same problem with a pisces. I was always really good at reading how a person felt about me. I couldn't figure him out. Whenever I thought it was just sex he would look at me a certain way and I would swear that I could see love in his eyes. When we had sex he would keep looking in my eyes the whole time and would try to keep lip contact with mine for as long as possible. He also couldn't go for very many days without seeking me out to see me. I would catch him looking at me when he thought I wasn't looking. Finally after 10 months I asked him - I had to know if it was just sex or if he loved me. He couldn't give me a straight answer and then he finally said I can't allow myself to fall in love with you - I won't allow myself. I quit talking to him. He kept trying to find reasons to talk to me (really stupid reason's too!) but til this day I still don't know if it was because he loved me and missed me or if he just felt guilty for hurting me and was just trying to find out if I hated him. Huh!! Oh well life goes on. I miss him I still feel an empty place. He made me feel like I was the most desirable person in the world. I also always felt at peace when I was with him. I was always anxious until he was there then it was like a calm would come over me... wierd huh.. Oh well I was no help. Here I click on to help you and here I am rambling about my experience. Anyway I am still alive and have been in other very loving relationships since him... You will find someone to love you!!
~Thea

Thank you, Thea. I appreciate you helping me and sharing your problems with me. I am having the same exact problems you are having. As far as sex, we have sex, but not often so I really don't think that he's all about sex. But all the other things you said about your pisces its the same as my pisces. I mean, I love him and I really don't wanna let him go. But I think sooner or later I'm just gonna have to eventually if it keeps up like this. I'm sorry that your relationship didn't work out. I wish it was a way I could fix mine. Thanks! I appreciate all you guys trying to help me.

My brother is a Pisces married to a Virgo. He has not been hurt by women, because he's been too busy hurting them. Don't always think because a man doesn't want to make a commitment it is related to a woman breaking his heart. I think that's why we should really get to know men before falling in love with them, and giving them our bodies. We have too much to lose. Some men will walk away and feel absolutely nothing, while the woman he toyed with is broken-hearted. Anyway..my sister-in-law would do anything for my brother. He uses her, cheats on her, and degrades her to keep her filled with doubt and low self-esteem. He wanted to have someone he could depend on, but he never intended to give as much as he was asking to receive. That's selfish. He has always been selfish and is very abusive in nature. I don't know what causes females to fall for him. He's my brother, but to me he's a total creep. Yet, he gets the attention and affection of successful and very attractive women. It just blows my mind. Reason being: I know he doesn't have much to offer any of them. His philosophy in life concerning women is if they didn't like it (the way he treats them), they wouldn't put up with it. When you think about, he does have a point. Unfortunately, there are men in this world who think the same. A message to all women: If we're not getting what we want out of a relationship, leave ASAP. Don't wait for the creep to break your heart and leave you with scars and baggage that might interfere with you finding true happiness in a real man. Power to all the women in the world.