I've put off my Scorps :(

Sorry! New to this and have messed up my post, can't work out how to edit it. :p

So here goes what I had said:

Hello, I'd be grateful to any advice on if it's possible/how to fix the problem of having accidentally put all of my beloved Scorpios in my life, off me. This has happened recently, I'll spare you guys and only enquire about the two in a close work mate friend group (she and I are close but they are very very close and I am always on the outside still).

I am a Leo rising Sag and had both parents and two grandparents as Scorps, I love them despite the clashes we had, and know the deal. It's different when it's not family though and they aren't forced to be with you!

Background: we all had a horrible, trying couple of years and became friends working, going out and supporting each other.

Scenario one (with the two Scorps): the female work mate I count as family, she is loving and there for me when I need her but otherwise like a cat- comes in and out when she pleases, counts others as her besties and is often aloof. We have very similar personalities but with opposite strengths very true to our signs. She bewitches people and has ultimate power to do whatever she wishes, is the most funny and charismatic person I know, but insecure. People meet her and adore her forever whereas I attract people more easily and there is a lot of initial attraction but then they forget about me. If we were one person, we would be superwoman. Scorp two in this scenario is another male colleague (Libra scorp cusp) that she has been very close for years with but they swear up and down its just friends, which I believe. I really fell for him, a few months ago, came forward, he seemed to consider and then declined, never making me feel bad. He went away, time passed and I still have a soft spot but have accepted it. He's amazing and I would feel lucky for his friendship and have been switching gears, wishing him the best.

I wasn't graceful at first though, when he showed interest in a girl we were out with a week after I came forward and he still seemed to be deciding about me. I kept my cool around him and only briefly mentioned I was struggling to my female scorp friend, but vented to a friend in gory detail how crushed I felt to another mutual friend (Capricorn) who promptly betrayed my confidence and told all to my female scorp, they are good friends.

Months passed, he was away for a while then there were a couple other boozy social outings where

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Months passed, he was away for a while then there were a couple other boozy social outings where I kept respectful but friendly distance to him but also got really drunk (we all were) on the first one and gushed over a musician friend of the male scorp, and was otherwise messy. The second time out, I thought all was well but spent time chatting to his friend mainly because he was being friendly (Aries) and my Scorps were being distant to me, almost pairing up in friendship. Female scorp really likes the Aries but I didn't think romantically, but they always get on and the Aries only warmed to me that night. We all left the main group and went to another club. The Aries left and the Scorps danced but we're in their own world. I still didn't think a lot of it and just carried on dancing mainly with random people and having fun, coming back to them to play around. The female scorp was ok but distant, very close with male scorp- almost felt like being gooseberry with a couple. There were beautiful girls there and in goodwill and fun, I tried to get them near male scorpio to play with but he grumpily said no as they weren't making effort to fawn over him. Fine.

At the end of the night, male Scorpio indicates lets smoke so we went outside. He immediately says, you and I are never going to get it on. That I am attractive and going to meet someone amazing sometime (but essentially not him). But not his friend who I had been talking to (I never even considered the friend attractive?!). Deer in headlights. I say fine, but hoped we could still be friends? He was concerned if I would go weird if he met someone or saw other women. Deer in headlights. As he is a free agent and under no obligation to me, I said no it's fine. Did he not notice me encouraging him with the girls?? I didn't ask that but thought it. He kept saying, "Really??" as if I was lying and seemed entirely disbelieving and I nearly felt offended but kept it cool. He went on to say that 'they' are threatened by me and he had to manage that. He seemed annoyed. I thought he was talking about another work mate but in hindsight think he was actually talking about our female scorp friend. I told him I never would have come forward had I known these girls were going to get upset, "bros before hoes" haha. He looked at me funny, realising I was talking about the other work mate and then seemed surprised realising she could have feelings for him too. All very confusing not helped by alcohol.

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Anyway the female scorp came out pissed off that she had been on her own, they went to get kabab and left me to fetch my coat inside. I found them later but they soon took off to get a taxi even though there was a taxi firm right next to us?? And left me barely saying goodbye, to walk home on my own. He didn't even really say goodbye or look back.

So I've somehow pissed them both off and think they will now avoid me, and I have a strong hunch she told him the info our other friend, the Cap, betrayed me with. And is possibly being very possessive and maybe this is what he was saying he has to 'manage'??

I am gutted as I love both dearly as friends, they have been important to me and added great fun in my life this past year. Should I ignore them? Ice them out? Still be myself and all is normal? I feel so sad and dissapointed and possibly betrayed/offended.

If you got this far, thank you!

And my apologies for my spelling and grammar, between my iPad re-ordering and autocorrecting and then just my self, I appreciate my message was hard to follow! To clarify, I am a Leo with Sag rising. Venus in Virgo. Thanks.

Sounds like there is a bit of jealousy & resentment against the female Scorp on your part. Also you don't trust her. There is a reason you chose the Cap to tell just how much you felt crushed instead of the Scorpio female, who you briefly mentioned this too & most likely played it off as if no big deal. I think you've had a hunch all along that there is some competition between you & female Scorp in regards to the male Scorp which is probably where the jealousy is coming from.

I don't think you are as over the male Scorpio as you wish to think you are. You seem to sound as if you think you did something wrong by gushing over his musician friend & chatting up the Aries. I think you mainly did this to see if there would be any jealousy on the the Scorpios (both of them) part. I think you brought the other girls over to the Scorpios because as much as you like him, you could handle it better if you found out he was seeing a different girl but you couldn't handle it if the 2 Scorpios wind up together so you tried to distance them.

I think the 2 of them are fond of each other & I think there may be some resentment/annoyance on both of their parts because you have feelings for him, they know it & probably feel a bit guilty because they don't want to hurt you & don't feel completely as if they should feel guilty because he IS a free agent. This is basically a love triangle between friends & you are beginning to feel like the 3rd wheel. That's my take.

Thanks RiverLee, that made me take a honest look at myself and realise that despite the protests they obviously do have some strong feelings towards each other, and I want to respect that- I never would try to make her jealous though as a friend though, uncool. Thinking about them potentially having feelings for each other does make me look at him very differently as if I thought ever thought that was going on (I asked her many times in the year prior) I would never had gone there with him and would certainly not try and interfere with them. my actions with his friends were innocent of intention and mostly just because the guys were really friendly and fun to talk to, but the scorp noted both times and showed disapproval. In retrospect this may have been because the female scorp had strong interactions with them previously and he may have seen that as infringing on her. I don't know. I do know it's time for me to dissapear from them as it's just hit that unfortunate point, I don't see me being around them as anything good anymore other than perhaps I will be the catalyst to finally bring them together. Who knows.

I do resent the female scorp for not being open and honest and a good "girlfriend" to me as I would have been to her in similar circumstances. And for possibly betraying me towards him.